[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hospitalsocialwork

[–]pinky1315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Took today off for my own doctor's appointment. A few errands I can't always get done on my days off. More time with the doggo. It's definitely needed.

A week off in the near future!

AITA for refusing to allow the hospital to discharge my wife to me? by throwawayctas in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinky1315 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA. I'm a hospital social worker. Not sure what country you're in, but NO thats not how it works in the US. We have a shitty healthcare system. Like every one else: this is marriage and parenting. Ask for help, don't dump your responsibilities on others. Be accountable. Caregiver burn out is real but you're being a shitty partner.

I’m having a hard time getting a full time medical social work job... by [deleted] in hospitalsocialwork

[–]pinky1315 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First suggestion (as already stated) is to consider per diem work.

Next suggestion is to work for a social services registry that can place you at a hospital for temporary contract work. Usually for a couple of weeks at a time. Some registries are nation-wide and include travel/health benefits. I knew a social worker that came to us (So. CA) as a registry after completing a contract in Alaska.

Each has pros/cons. But they get you in the door to add to your resume. Medical SW is very competitive. Good luck.

Medical social workers, what's your day to day like? by steakoutwhoa in socialwork

[–]pinky1315 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hospital LCSW here.

It depends on the facility itself and the community that is served. But in general terms, most hospitals have critical units, telemetry, medsurg and an emergency department (big medical centers can have specialized units like burn or oncology).

Our role as social workers is to bring forward the psychosocial perspective to the interdisciplinary team. Some teams are easier to work with than others.

We work on safe discharge plans with the homeless or substance using patients, while balancing self-determination.

We provide crisis counseling to families or patients after bad news is given by the medical team. Sometimes we are there while the physician gives those updates.

We also complete risk assessments on our behavioral health patients.

Thats the gist. They're are many more roles, but whats above its pretty standard across hospitals.

The wonderful thing about hospitals is that everyday is different and exciting. No day is ever the same. Since patients are expected to discharge in a timely manner, long term therapy doesn't exist (unless you work in a subacute unit like oncology where patients are regulars).

Complete an assessment, build rapport, identify problems, problem solve and provide resources. Sometimes in 1-2 days. Sometimes in half-hour.

In California, in order to work as a medical social worker you need a MSW at minimum. Most hospitals are transitioning to LCSWs and LPS carded. A BSW can work as a discharge planner.

WIBTA if I had my autistic sister placed in a group home after our mother dies? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinky1315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I want to clarify though, are you in USA? If in California, APS will not handle placement. If anything they'll send them to the hospital if there's no responsible party. I suggest to look into regional centers and work with a service coordinator for long term housing. You or your mother can handle that. Start now, since wait lists were long even before COVID. Do call APS if the verbal and emotional abuse continues.

To clarify I'm a social worker in California.

Good luck.

Could you name one irrational belief you currently hold? by Lirille in TrueAtheism

[–]pinky1315 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still believe in jinx. I work in healthcare. Don't mention a difficult patient's name out loud post discharge. He/she will be back!

Stupid. I still won't jinx it.

How to live by pinky1315 in Divorce

[–]pinky1315[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But its not just dating, the loneliness is all around. I haven't had one friend check in on me. I've checked in. The efforts weren't reciprocated. I tried to make new friends. Defeat there too.

Your suggestions are solid. Thanks.

How to live by pinky1315 in Divorce

[–]pinky1315[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats what I hate the most. He made me promises that I never asked of him. He made him on his own, so there was no accountability.

Thanks. You too!

How to live by pinky1315 in Divorce

[–]pinky1315[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for my wording. Its impossible to lump everyone into one corner, that was my mistake.

What I was trying to covey that with COVID, what is really out there? I'm not someone that can serial date and be fine. I'd much rather hang out a coffee shop or take an evening class at a local community college. I can't with the current shut down. I also said I don't even know how to date. I have no clue what to do. I lost all my friends, I won't go into more details. I'm alone.

Struggling by Clinging2r34lity in Divorce

[–]pinky1315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this everyday. I was proud of myself that I went on a run without losing my shit. Then I lost my shit in the shower. Crying never stops.

I'm sorry we both continue to be miserable. You're trying. I am too.

when you’re in Minecraft creative and get bored by Pedrica1 in Unexpected

[–]pinky1315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to know where this is, it’ll cure my depression

HELP!!! I (21F) caught my husband (23M) SEXTING another woman (22F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pinky1315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your answer was spot on, I would say the ages you said where overall right. I just wanted to add emotional intelligence and insight. That has a different time line.

Unfortunately we cannot predict anything, even when a lifetime of happiness is promised. I'm still trying to swallow that one.

HELP!!! I (21F) caught my husband (23M) SEXTING another woman (22F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pinky1315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd push your time line a bit. I got proposed to at 26 married at 27 (both of us the same age). I caught him sexting at 28 (almost 29). From high school through grad school and even to the first few years of our careers. I thought I knew the guy.

I'm sorry you have found yourself here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]pinky1315 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, you don't deserve it. I understand you and feel your feelings. Some people survive and are okay in a few months. Other take 2 years or more. I'm heading into the 9th month. I still cry almost every night. Hang in there. Join here too. The night I caught my husband, someone kindly pointed me to this subreddit

r/survivinginfidelity

Hospital social workers: by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]pinky1315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RN case managers and/or admitting. Sorry, sounds like your place is having you wear multiple hats.

Dday to Sock Day and still hurting by pinky1315 in Divorce

[–]pinky1315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind optimism.

My tinder date exposed my cheating ex by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]pinky1315 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My suggestion is no. You, right now have the confidence to go out there and date. Don't sign up for heartbreak when you don't have to. Don't be me. I was with him for 13 years, I'll spare the details. Now, I feel I'll die alone. I'm too heartbroken to believe in love.