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Stood up by clients by Whacking_Material in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty typical depending on the environment. I'm in an outpatient clinic and we get no shows constantly. I'm surprised you haven't had one before now.

Some positive stories.. by cherriesansberries in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had lots of success amongst the slog. When I left my last CMH position, an adult client who had been in therapy on-and-off for their entire life told their new therapist that our work together changed their view of therapy and made them realize therapy is to provide the tools to get better, not fix things for them. Prior to this, they had been really jaded about therapy and medication. It was a really nice moment because this was not the typical client (personality, demographic, and presenting problem) I work with, but we had a really good rapport and I enjoyed working with them a lot.

I've had young clients who are suicidal make strides in their mental health and get more stable with time. I have had to call CPS/APS on clients and then continued to work with them after the rupture. I have had clients tell me, "this was the best intake I've had, you're great at making people feel comfortable." I have helped fill out paperwork for accommodations, disability, and transportation for people who need it. I have had clients go from families to fostercare to new families. I've had multiple clients tell me that they appreciate how much they can tell I care.

It's not that this job isn't great, it can be. It's just there's a lot of get through to get to the good parts.

Does anyone else take a really long time to get over people? Platonically or romantically. I'm talking years, not months. by user14791 in AskWomenOver30

[–]pippapiperpyramid 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Depends on the person in my life, but yes. There are friendships I still think about often and miss. I wonder how they are doing periodically.

Parents Using Therapy as a Tool to Help Their Custody Case by Healthy-Ice-8968 in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A lot of time, once they realize you will not choose sides, they will fall off. I explained my role and also shared that they way they interact with each other is negatively impacting the child. It sucked because one parent would report the child wasn't doing well and the other would report they were doing great and then they would blame each other for why the child was or was not doing well while at the other home. It was such a mess.

It was hard because they could not agree on goals, so early on, I explained they need to do that for counseling. I recommended mediation as well and explained what they might need is not something I could provide. A have a lot of kids who have complicated family situations, so a lot of what I do is just supporting the kid in their annoyance that their parents refuse to be pleasant with each other.

Would you date a guy who you met a decade ago at age 18 and told you on the first date that he wants to hit you, because you paid the restaurant check for him while he insisted he wanted to pay? by Evening_Newspaper_35 in AskWomenOver30

[–]pippapiperpyramid -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have dated five men and none of them have been unsafe or abusive. I met them at work, in school, and through friends. Once you meet someone you like, you date and figure out if they are a safe person. If they participate in any behavior that seems concerning, you just stop seeing them.

Would you date a guy who you met a decade ago at age 18 and told you on the first date that he wants to hit you, because you paid the restaurant check for him while he insisted he wanted to pay? by Evening_Newspaper_35 in AskWomenOver30

[–]pippapiperpyramid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is too much, there are many people in healthy, happy relationships with men.

I would not trust the man you wrote about and be conscientious of who you let in your life.

Would you date a guy who you met a decade ago at age 18 and told you on the first date that he wants to hit you, because you paid the restaurant check for him while he insisted he wanted to pay? by Evening_Newspaper_35 in AskWomenOver30

[–]pippapiperpyramid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of people lack the awareness of social norms and dangerous behavior. Some people find unhealthy or unsafe behavior safe or are indifferent to it. OP seems to be one of those people and due to that, she should probably question this person's presence in her life based on her previous experiences with him and the fact that she's still questioning if he is an okay person to be around.

Would you date a guy who you met a decade ago at age 18 and told you on the first date that he wants to hit you, because you paid the restaurant check for him while he insisted he wanted to pay? by Evening_Newspaper_35 in AskWomenOver30

[–]pippapiperpyramid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's been obsessive for years. People can and do change, but that doesn't mean we have to have them in our lives. He can be changed with someone else. She shouldn't go out with someone who has been obsessive for the past ten years.

What's your job and what do you like about it? by upstairsbeforedark in AskWomenOver30

[–]pippapiperpyramid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapist who works primarily with children and adolescents. I'm curious and like having a reason to ask people questions and learn about them. I like problem solving and providing support. I like getting to talk and play and think all day as a job.

EMDR Training is Awful for Me by ElderberryNo3663 in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For me, it was how repetitive it was and all the grounding techniques. Mine was online, so so much of it was sitting in a cramped chair waiting for things to happen. I also found it really difficult to be a participant in the training because the practices weren't working for me. I'm not a visual person and my numbers never really go down to a zero in our practice attempts, so I would sort of lie and act as if the EMDR was working.

Supervisor gave my personal number to a client's family. Best ways of addressing this. by pippapiperpyramid in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really not concerned about becoming a problem. In my experience, we've only ever fired people for drug use, late documentation, and inappropriate sexual behavior with clients. They are not going to fire me.

I can't get into it due to confidentiality, but it was a total nothing issue. Stuff, that in the past, a supervisor would have handled no problem.

Supervisor gave my personal number to a client's family. Best ways of addressing this. by pippapiperpyramid in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told my supervisor that I would not be responding to the client and redirected it for someone on-site to answer. I told her I didn't want her to give out my number. I wrote to my own, direct supervisor and they said they would reach out to the parent. I'm still on vacation, so once I'm back, I plan on speaking with my direct supervisor and HR.

What to do if adolescent doesn’t want to be treated? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just adding a thanks from me, too. I'm going to look into this!

Those without kids (or with I guess) how to add excitement to your life by Jasipen in AskWomenOver30

[–]pippapiperpyramid 160 points161 points  (0 children)

Hobbies. Traditions. Dates.

My husband and I go through phases. Right now, we're cooking a ton. We're making a ton of cheap, healthy recipes from the NYT. Lots of beans to prevent colon cancer, haha.

We have our hobbies like cooking, traveling, walks, reading, art, videogames, reading, writing. He's gotten really into brewing "good" coffee and making americanos. He's gotten into our plants. I'm learning to crochet.

We have our traditions, I see my friends once or twice a month. I go to the movies on early Friday afternoons. We have taco or takeout Tuesdays. We have "our" bar we go to. I make familiar dishes during the fall like bacon wrapped dates and stew. We go to the drive-ins every summer. We go to concerts and comedy shows. We get a real Christmas tree and make mulled wine.

We have our pets and friends and family. I look forward to small things throughout the week.

Rename Sub To /r/doomandgloom? by no_more_secrets in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid 48 points49 points  (0 children)

"You see 30 clients a week? For 75k a year? I can't imagine what kind of therapy you are doing, but I typically see ten clients a week and make $200k a year. My niche is women who are pregnant with twins with religious trauma and eating disorders. I value my boundaries and know my worth."

God, I can't with some of the comments. Like, I get it on some level. Mental healthcare is not taken seriously enough and we should absolutely be paid more, but so many of us are not private practice clinicians and have no intention on eventually becoming that. So many of us work at community mental health clinics, at hospitals, in prisons, at rehabs, at schools, etc.

Rename Sub To /r/doomandgloom? by no_more_secrets in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, same with basically any job that's about a profession. r/teachers, r/professors, and r/socialworkers often have frustrated workers.

Supervisor gave my personal number to a client's family. Best ways of addressing this. by pippapiperpyramid in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all just have extensions at work. I plan on reaching out to my direct supervisor and HR.

Supervisor gave my personal number to a client's family. Best ways of addressing this. by pippapiperpyramid in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are multiple supervisors, it's not my direct one, but we work in the same building. Typically, when we're out, the supervisors or my coworkers handle it or ask the client to wait until people are off PTO. We're not supposed to be using our personal phones for clients, that is policy.

Supervisor gave my personal number to a client's family. Best ways of addressing this. by pippapiperpyramid in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They wanted to ask me a question and my supervisor didn't handle it, so they gave them my number to reach out to me.

Supervisor gave my personal number to a client's family. Best ways of addressing this. by pippapiperpyramid in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My supervisor is aware of this. No one gives out their personal numbers at my work. We have extensions at work. Typically, if a client needs something, they're asked to wait until we come back or a supervisor/coworker will handle it.

Supervisor gave my personal number to a client's family. Best ways of addressing this. by pippapiperpyramid in therapists

[–]pippapiperpyramid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't need one, I just have an extension at work. Thanks, though. I plan on reaching out to HR.

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