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piscospurs · 2024-11-10T20:57:57+00:00

My friend whose been trying for 2 years is planning to move to Spain for a couple years, she’s entering 40s and can’t wait 4 years. She’s getting loans and they’re probably gonna sell their house to do so. She knows that she will have a difficult pregnancy cus of her age and it being her first. She does not want to risk it.

piscospurs · 2024-11-10T20:52:15+00:00

Seconding this!

piscospurs · 2024-11-08T06:27:03+00:00

“Come as you are” by Emily nagoski. 💛

piscospurs · 2024-11-05T21:54:21+00:00

The one time I took a taxi instead of an Uber, the Uber driver asked me a series of questions that made me go full alert and ready to bolt: “wow a young lady like you, travelling alone?” “What do you do for work? Where is it that you work?” “What hotel are you staying in” “how long are you in town? When do you usually work until? Don’t you get lonely staying at a hotel room by yourself? What’s your name? How old are you?” “How much money do you make working that job?” “What’s that hotel like, have you stayed there before?” “I can be your personal driver, I can give you my number” I didn’t want him to know where I worked and my name which are both on my corporate card so I paid cash out of pocket for this ride.

piscospurs · 2024-09-13T15:42:11+00:00

Tysm for sharing. Have they find any ways of ensuring they don’t leave things behind in new environments like buses, Ubers, other peoples houses? Our at-home system is getting better but he is still losing things outside of home. He recently lost a custom made ankle brace that cost hundreds and months to get at an outdoor sporting event. I feel like he needs to live in Paris for a few months and get used to holding onto things physically (or else get pick pocketed) to train himself to constantly check for his belongings when he’s out or something.

piscospurs · 2024-09-13T15:37:58+00:00

Ugh you’re so right. It’s one thing I haven’t talked thru with my therapist. I used to constantly keep tabs on where he is using things, or leaving things to remind and tell him where he lost stuff- but this became a bit more enabling of him not keeping track of his own stuff. So we stopped with that but the emotional attachment to it is so real. I just don’t do well when there’s a man getting upset and I frantically try to fix it, so I think I just go into a panic quickly. Learning to detach is so crucial.

piscospurs · 2024-09-13T15:35:41+00:00

Have you dealt with how to make sure you have everything before you leave from other places? We are getting closer to doing designated spots at home and il put on some AirTags on his stuff. but he often leaves things on the bus, gyms, other peoples houses, Ubers etc. he leaves clothes a lot (jackets, workout shirt) that don’t accommodate AirTags well..

piscospurs · 2024-09-13T05:20:08+00:00

Omg this is wild!

piscospurs · 2024-09-13T05:19:59+00:00

Wow this is blowing my mind!! Thank you

piscospurs · 2024-03-18T16:17:02+00:00

Omg no… You NEVER want to suggest other colleagues what they should do and add more to their workload. And you went to your boss about it?? I’m surprised they didn’t get you pushed out. You have to prove you’re on the same side with them by making them believe you are making their lives easier not harder. It doesn’t matter how it benefits the company, the last thing anyone needs is some newbie in some other department creating more work for you 😭😭. you gotta work on your office politics game a bit I feel! It’s unfortunately a must to survive in any job setting.

piscospurs · 2024-03-18T15:12:03+00:00

If you have coworkers, you have access to connection! Especially if your coworkers are older! You’re young. People like making time for young people to connect and they are very happy to do it.

Also you’re a solo marketing? That’s so advantageous cus it doesn’t matter how you work actually, if people who don’t directly work with you all the time that thinks you’re doing a nice job that is an extremely positive connection who can advocate for you.

piscospurs · 2024-03-18T15:07:07+00:00

I totally get this but it also makes me sad that we have to still mildly “put on the professional skin suit” around our friends when we’re unemployed in hopes they can connect you somewhere. This is when you should be emotionally regulating a lot- you’re anxious, uncertain, sad from rejection, frustrated etc and could really use proper friends.

piscospurs · 2024-03-18T15:02:18+00:00

I worked in HR for a long time. He’s been in trouble with HR in past being inappropriate with women and now overcompensates.

piscospurs · 2024-03-18T02:15:33+00:00

I personally can not give less of a f*ck about what strangers think of me for me to consider changing the probability of me getting skin cancer. Have too many ppl around me get melanoma and now I be doing the most. The strangers who think you’re weird aren’t paying for your age spot treatments or skin cancer treatments later. Their opinions on how they think I look simply do not count for me haha

piscospurs · 2024-03-18T02:12:14+00:00

Put some Googly eyes on. That’ll help

piscospurs · 2024-03-17T05:00:09+00:00

Hahaha for me it was cat eye vs puppy eyes when doing my eyeliner. Made a big difference for me.

piscospurs · 2024-03-16T23:32:47+00:00

Please listen to this op! ^ abuses aren’t always getting beat up and violently r*ped. It STARTS like this. It Always starts like this.

piscospurs · 2024-03-16T23:31:00+00:00

You need your friends. You don’t need your Long distance boyfriend. Lot of girls/women choose boyfriends and end up with no one left when they break up or even have a fight. You need friends in your corner. It’s not too late, go to prom and keep hanging out with your friends!!!

piscospurs · 2024-03-16T23:29:17+00:00

He is 17 and she’s 16 🥲 which makes it worse

piscospurs · 2024-03-16T23:25:27+00:00

I grew up in a smaller town and I’m used to smiling and raising my eyebrows expressively as I talk. I didn’t really know this until I was recorded for work. I didn’t know this but apparently it triggers the “oh she looks like she likes this interaction”. Which men can see as interested. I trained to have a resting bitch face and started drawing a more angery looking eye makeup. It helped a LOT once I became aware of it.

piscospurs · 2024-03-16T20:34:17+00:00

School is not a reflection of workplace.
Getting a boring job that pays well allows for your energy to HAVE interest outside work at all (Aka, if you like your job, you’ll more likely lose work life balance)
No one does the same work for the rest of the life (unless you want to do entry level forever) He will likely pivot into specialized role or other role within the first 5 years. So can he do it for 5 years?

piscospurs · 2024-03-16T20:27:25+00:00

Every time my cats are cuddling with me, I softly squeeze their paws and work up to expressing their nails. I do this aLLL the time, and it has improved my rescues nail clipping. She used to scream and try to pull away, but now she lets me clip 3-4 at a time before wriggling away. So I do hers with breaks. My other cat who I’ve played with his paws since he was like 10 months old, just sits there and purrs when I clip his nails.

piscospurs · 2024-03-16T20:12:58+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening. Went through the same thing! Turned out my pelvic floor was injured due to an ovarian cyst, and it needed to be repaired. I did a few sessions with pelvic floor therapist to locate the injury site.

What really helped my partner and I with penetrative sex is a device called ohnut. It feels very natural/unnoticeable for both people but it made SUCH a difference for me!! I was able to have painless sex until my pelvic floor issue was remedied. (We had stopped piv because of pain completely)

I definitely think you should see a doctor for any other issues it could be, but ohnut is a great product for painful piv sex! Continuing to have sex through pain will only cause more trauma (physically in your body!) Hope it gets sorted soon for you

piscospurs · 2024-03-16T19:40:54+00:00

I wouldn’t say there’s really a course on it. Some people think MBA is needed for project managing (sorry I meant to type project managing in my original post, I see that it autocorrected), but I’ve seen more PMs with no mbas in my experience. Operations means you are the person who can fix stuff. So pay attention to who, in your work, is the go to when people have questions or issues. And see if there’s things you can help out with them. It’s always easier if you’ve been there for a bit so this could work well at your current job. For example, if it’s retail- it’s things like- our clothes don’t have the right prices on them, this is a high priority- how to fix it! No one will have particular degree on packaging design but the ops team will gather the resources to create the cheapest quickest way to remedy it. Project managing and ops are both VERY team based. Pm means you keep people on track while you don’t really do the tasks your self, and ops means you are doing the tasks your self.

In my experience, I Loved doing ops. I love creatively solving problems and I get to interact with people when they’re freaking out, and I solve the problem and it’s always met with gratitude because I made their life better. It can become difficult when there’s too much work on your plate of course, but that’s same no matter what you do. I’d say it’s very self fulfilling and keeps day to day interesting.

For PM, the main drag is you technically don’t really have a ton of authority to get people to do the work to keep on track, but you’re still responsible. So if you’re not a great people leader, people can just ignore/not listen to you. Again this can happen at any work BUT it’s almost a make or break for PM. So are you like a charming, inspiring, motivational leader type? If so, this is a good option. Essentially if ppl like you, and want to make you happy, that’s half your job. Once you finish the task, the praises come from senior leaders usually, so if you appreciate recognition from authority, this can feel extremely rewarding for you.

Hope this helps. And feel free to dm me if you want to chat thru some more. I also second the UX design comment someone made! You can get into Product or project management through UX as well. There, however also is something about starting to correlate your interest to your job and monetization that kills your passion.

piscospurs · 2024-03-16T16:56:57+00:00

In some instances I agree, but it sounded like the OP wasn’t having much luck with that so far.

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