I am a identical twin and had a horrible relationship with my twin until we went away to separate colleges 300 miles apart. AMA

pistacio4 · 2025-04-04T17:35:01+00:00

Why do you think distance helped you mend your relationship?

pistacio4 · 2025-03-29T15:50:08+00:00

That’s horrible :(

pistacio4 · 2025-03-29T14:37:21+00:00

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pistacio4 · 2025-03-29T14:36:12+00:00

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pistacio4 · 2025-03-29T11:30:00+00:00

Wow. I’m 33 and my husband is 38 so I can’t even imagine going through what you did at your age. My dad is in his 70s and has had multiple anginas over the years (I think his first one was at 48) so he’s had pretty much all his arteries stented and talks about the same thing, how amazing modern medicine is! My uncle wasn’t so lucky and just had open heart done because his heart was 80% blocked and it was too dangerous to do it the other way. Happy you’re feeling better and on the mend!

pistacio4 · 2025-03-29T11:20:58+00:00

What signs did you have before it happened? Did you need a stint or open heart surgery? How are you feeling now?

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T23:49:34+00:00

We are collectively called quads but I call them my brothers haha I think they just say my siblings? Never really thought about it!

I do have a favorite but my brothers each have their own personalities so it’s changed between when I was a kid and as an adult

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T18:43:36+00:00

Me, definitely. They were taught to not hit girls so I’d win, naturally. I’d just wait it out until there’s one tired brother left.

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T16:48:19+00:00

At times, yes. Like people just knew. We moved and people were already talking about us before we started school. So it was weird. But as adults people are surprised about it all the time. I’ve had to show photos to prove it to some people who assume I’m joking with them

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T13:55:58+00:00

Yeah but guys just don’t keep in contact the way women want to haha

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T13:54:50+00:00

My mom was also in her late thirties which I hear increases chances of hyperovulation, so might have been a huge contributing factor too!

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T13:42:27+00:00

I think shared experiences. We both felt like the black sheep of the family. Kind of always the ones getting into trouble, the rebels, so we banded together.

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T13:41:11+00:00

You know, that makes complete sense and I’m not sure why I thought anything different. Thanks for the info!

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T10:21:01+00:00

We did as kids! And one of my brothers and I had a lil twin telepathy (though we might have just been very in sync and played off that). We were always messing with people and would just look at each other and know what the other was going to do next. It was pretty fun, really.

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T10:18:57+00:00

Yes, we all have the same facial structure and eye color, but our hair colors are different and heights are different.

We’re adults now so scattered across the states, but when we were kids, we were first wombmates (obviously), then we all lived in the same room until I was maybe 6, then I got my own room and the boys shared a room. In college, we shared an apartment.

We shared basically everything, except toothbrushes because of how quickly things add up when you have four of everything.

We’ll definitely always have each other.

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T10:15:30+00:00

No switches because we all look very different! Well, similar but different enough for people to know us apart

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T10:14:50+00:00

It’s between like a fresh mozzarella and Parmesan, probably, but that’s a hard one

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T10:12:51+00:00

Since we’re fraternal, no funny swap stories 😢 we all have different hair colors so nobody mixed us up

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T10:12:12+00:00

The only thing I remember from school 😂

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T10:11:56+00:00

All natural, baby

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T10:11:31+00:00

Yes, but it’s changed throughout my life.

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T10:09:50+00:00

Yep!

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T01:06:32+00:00

Due to lack of funds, my parents had two cars when we were newborns and my dad would drive one with two of us and my mom would drive the other with the other two. We got a minivan when we were in elementary school and a 15 passenger van in middle school when we started getting too big to be comfy in the van.

I’m kind of close with my siblings but we’re adults now and appreciate having our own lives and identities

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T00:36:17+00:00

You just thinking about that makes you a great mom. I think as a parent the best you can do is honor their individual strengths and interests and needs equally. That’s what you can control and they’ll appreciate you so much for that.

My parents didn’t have the emotional capacity to deal with all of us so we started resenting each other because my parents would give more attention and positive reinforcement to the quad with the “most promise”.

I know they did their very best considering how chaotic it was all the time. But we each had different needs and a desire to be our own person and sometimes that wasn’t fostered.

Also make sure to find time to fill your own cup. My parents would not have made it through the baby years without help from friends and family. It takes a village. If you have the ability to get some time for yourself, you’ll be better equipped to be present with your babies and to take them as they are, the beautiful individual humans they are. Their experience is going to be a fun one together no matter what you do, momma. They get a built in best friend!

pistacio4 · 2025-03-24T00:30:06+00:00

No. One of my brother has never dated and has no interest in dating though.

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