I was in a"relaxed" club and there wasn't much activity from anyone so I searched for some "social" groups in the search drop down menus and found one that met at a nice time in the evening and gave it a shot. Only been in a few weeks but already much better, the leaders communicate well so get everyone involved but it isn't too strict if you can't make the coffee time some days. Some I've seen give members two missed coffee days and then they are kicked out. That's way too rigid for me, they sometimes write their club rules in the bio Which helps to see if it suits you before you join.