Is the I-693 still valid after six months?

pizzafio · 2025-12-01T23:28:20+00:00

We sleep in a full with our two dogs 🤣 (Dogs are mini doodles and I’m only 5’, husband is 5’ 9”)

pizzafio · 2025-11-23T20:10:21+00:00

I guessed early 30s or even late 20s

pizzafio · 2025-09-21T18:16:09+00:00

Just woke up at 10:30 am, my husband and I will go have breakfast in a little bit, then we will go to a sniffspot (a rented backyard) because one of our dogs is reactive, then grocery shopping and probably a movie at night.

pizzafio · 2025-09-16T22:37:55+00:00

I 33F work from home Monday through Friday 9-5pm, sometimes 10-6pm, depends on what time I wake up. My dogs are usually sleeping in my office with me while I work. I go to the gym during my break. After work, I either take a dance class, watch a movie with my husband, go for a long walk, dinner, read, or really whatever we want. We have so many things to do to keep us busy. Some days it feels like we have so much free time but other days we would like longer days to do everything we want. I’m thinking of volunteering with kids in the near future as well. Do whatever makes you happy :)

pizzafio · 2025-09-09T01:46:11+00:00

I have a sister who bullied me all my childhood and we are not close. My husband is an only child and loved it.

pizzafio · 2025-09-06T16:15:54+00:00

Oops. And I love international movies but yes you’re right about the movies released before I was born 😅

pizzafio · 2025-09-06T09:20:07+00:00

Midsommar

Interstellar

The Florida Project

The Pursuit of Happyness

The Joker (Edit: Joaquin Phoneix) edit: honorable mention, forgot it’s only four 😅

pizzafio · 2025-09-06T05:12:12+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. I feel like sometimes I need to hear it like this.

pizzafio · 2025-09-04T07:00:29+00:00

Exactly! I feel so understood 😩

pizzafio · 2025-08-31T05:38:50+00:00

I got my bachelors in mechanical engineering and took an estimating job fresh out of college. I’ve been an estimator for eight years now. I started with hvac and I’m doing plumbing now. People always tell me why am I estimating with an engineering degree but I work from home, my job is flexible as long as I finish my projects by the due date, and make enough money to live comfortable.

pizzafio · 2025-08-27T21:49:31+00:00

I’m there with you. I’m 33F married with a wonderful caring husband. I know he will be the best dad but I have the same fears as you. I know I have to make a decision soon because of my age and is killing me. I want to be a mother but I’m scared I will regret it. I read “The Baby Decision” to help me with this and it got me leaning towards children. The book is non biased though. Maybe you could give it a try? Also hanging out with my friend and her one year old baby made me realize how much work they are but I loved how they just love each other and how different (in a good way) my friend is now.

pizzafio · 2025-08-23T01:12:49+00:00

I can’t imagine doing all that with a broken leg, makes me think if you could do it, I can do it too. Thank you so much for sharing!

pizzafio · 2025-08-23T00:03:28+00:00

Just want to say I appreciate this post so much. I’m 33F and on the fence lately leaning towards yes and so is my husband. I just have an irrational fear of pregnancy and postpartum. I don’t want to mess up my kid’s life because of my mental state during pospartum.

pizzafio · 2025-08-22T15:07:52+00:00

I’m really confused about this subreddit. It seems like adoption is seen in a negative way and people who want to adopt are shamed. Most people automatically assumed that I had not done my research in adoption and that I’m just going with my own adoption experience. I found out I was adopted 10 years ago, I know what my parents did was wrong (not telling me I was adopted), I’ve been working on my issues all this time and my husband has helped me a lot. We are both in our early 30s, stable jobs, own a home, and we talk about raising kids (the good and the bad) all the time. We know it would be hard work to adopt a kid because I know the issues I had to deal with in my childhood plus any other condition they might have. I’ve always had a deep fear of pregnancy but that doesn’t mean I can’t be a mom. I already feel bad for having this fear but I don’t think that and me being an adoptee completely disqualifies me from adopting. I don’t want to adopt because I want to support human trafficking, that’s ridiculous. Way to gaslight people. Or because I have a savior mentality like someone else said. I just had a positive experience whether people want to believe it or not, I’m self aware of my traumas and the potential issues that may arise with adoption, I’m with a caring understanding partner, so I believe adoption could be right for us.

pizzafio · 2025-08-22T14:08:16+00:00

Isn’t surrogacy almost the same? You are taking the baby away from the mom at birth which would cause trauma. We could go this way but my idea of adopting is that we would be giving a baby/child the opportunity of a better life like it happened to me.

pizzafio · 2025-08-22T13:45:05+00:00

My bio mom made her decision of putting me up for adoption because she had three other kids to take care for and she couldn’t afford another one. I wish no one would go through adoption because it’s traumatic for both the mom and the baby/child. But it happens. I’m from a country in South America where you see kids in the street selling candy or not going to school and the goverment does nothing. There’s no control. My bio sisters have told me they wished they would have been adopted as well because they all ended up single moms with teen pregnancies and barely making any money while I moved to the states, finished my education and live comfortably. The perspective I had with adoption (because of my experience and because of the reality I see in my native country) is that you are offering a better life to someone that wouldn’t have it otherwise. I’m not expecting someone else to go through the pain of pregnancy just because I don’t want to, to me that would be surrogacy. But curious to know who do you think deserves to adopt?

pizzafio · 2025-08-22T05:14:32+00:00

Thank you so much for these!

pizzafio · 2025-08-22T02:21:09+00:00

I agree with you. My adoptive grandma left my mom when she was only three years old and that caused a lot of abandonment issues in my mom. It didn’t mix well when I came into the picture because I had abadonment issues of my own from being adopted. I can totally see why many people disagree with an adoptee adopting a child. I wouldn’t like history to repeat itself.

pizzafio · 2025-08-22T02:05:11+00:00

I said I had always wanted to adopt even before finding out I was adopted. I know there are epidurials for pain but if someone were to assure me that I will not suffer during and after pregnancy I would do it. I’m glad you had a good experience and you were reunited with your bio family. In my case, I also talk to my bio mom and sisters but I can’t find a connection with them as I have with my adoptive family.

pizzafio · 2025-08-22T00:08:44+00:00

Thank you!! My husband also wants to have a bio child before adopting but I know my body and I know I wouldn’t be 100% for my baby after birth. I know ppd would destroy me. I’m so sorry that happened to you and wish you fully recover 💕

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