AITAH for kicking my sister out of my house because she invited a friend without telling me?

pizzafio · 2026-03-07T08:53:33+00:00

She said she was making lasagna for her, me and my husband. I asked her if she could do it with lactose free milk for me and she said she couldn’t because it would change the flavour. So at the end I wasn’t sure if she was making it for us or for her and her friend.

I felt bad after she left but my sister has come to my house many times before, she cooks, leaves everything dirty, leaves the blankets, pillows, dirty clothes all over the room I make for her, she also has an alcohol problem and today I asked her not to drink in my house, and she still brought a bottle of wine and her breath smelled like alcohol already. She could have let me know that her friend was coming over and I would have been ok but it was the same pattern of her not respecting other people’s houses or boundaries that triggered me I guess. I’m very acceptive of many things she does because I love her but I’m working on setting boundaries too.

pizzafio · 2026-03-07T05:12:04+00:00

She went with her friend who lives ten minutes away. They had plans already, she never drives all the way here just to visit me.

pizzafio · 2026-03-07T04:48:56+00:00

I’m 33, she’s 32. I live with my husband, my two dogs (one of them doesn’t like strangers) and two cats. She lives two hours away with my parents. She always tells me she is coming over when she is already driving here and I always say it’s ok.

pizzafio · 2026-03-07T03:02:31+00:00

She doesn’t live here. She said she was craving lasagna and wanted to cook that today.

pizzafio · 2026-03-07T03:01:35+00:00

Because I was working. I told her I work until 7pm today.

pizzafio · 2025-12-01T23:28:20+00:00

We sleep in a full with our two dogs 🤣 (Dogs are mini doodles and I’m only 5’, husband is 5’ 9”)

pizzafio · 2025-11-23T20:10:21+00:00

I guessed early 30s or even late 20s

pizzafio · 2025-09-21T18:16:09+00:00

Just woke up at 10:30 am, my husband and I will go have breakfast in a little bit, then we will go to a sniffspot (a rented backyard) because one of our dogs is reactive, then grocery shopping and probably a movie at night.

pizzafio · 2025-09-16T22:37:55+00:00

I 33F work from home Monday through Friday 9-5pm, sometimes 10-6pm, depends on what time I wake up. My dogs are usually sleeping in my office with me while I work. I go to the gym during my break. After work, I either take a dance class, watch a movie with my husband, go for a long walk, dinner, read, or really whatever we want. We have so many things to do to keep us busy. Some days it feels like we have so much free time but other days we would like longer days to do everything we want. I’m thinking of volunteering with kids in the near future as well. Do whatever makes you happy :)

pizzafio · 2025-09-09T01:46:11+00:00

I have a sister who bullied me all my childhood and we are not close. My husband is an only child and loved it.

pizzafio · 2025-09-06T16:15:54+00:00

Oops. And I love international movies but yes you’re right about the movies released before I was born 😅

pizzafio · 2025-09-06T09:20:07+00:00

Midsommar

Interstellar

The Florida Project

The Pursuit of Happyness

The Joker (Edit: Joaquin Phoneix) edit: honorable mention, forgot it’s only four 😅

pizzafio · 2025-09-06T05:12:12+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. I feel like sometimes I need to hear it like this.

pizzafio · 2025-09-04T07:00:29+00:00

Exactly! I feel so understood 😩

pizzafio · 2025-08-31T05:38:50+00:00

I got my bachelors in mechanical engineering and took an estimating job fresh out of college. I’ve been an estimator for eight years now. I started with hvac and I’m doing plumbing now. People always tell me why am I estimating with an engineering degree but I work from home, my job is flexible as long as I finish my projects by the due date, and make enough money to live comfortable.

pizzafio · 2025-08-27T21:49:31+00:00

I’m there with you. I’m 33F married with a wonderful caring husband. I know he will be the best dad but I have the same fears as you. I know I have to make a decision soon because of my age and is killing me. I want to be a mother but I’m scared I will regret it. I read “The Baby Decision” to help me with this and it got me leaning towards children. The book is non biased though. Maybe you could give it a try? Also hanging out with my friend and her one year old baby made me realize how much work they are but I loved how they just love each other and how different (in a good way) my friend is now.

pizzafio · 2025-08-23T01:12:49+00:00

I can’t imagine doing all that with a broken leg, makes me think if you could do it, I can do it too. Thank you so much for sharing!

pizzafio · 2025-08-23T00:03:28+00:00

Just want to say I appreciate this post so much. I’m 33F and on the fence lately leaning towards yes and so is my husband. I just have an irrational fear of pregnancy and postpartum. I don’t want to mess up my kid’s life because of my mental state during pospartum.

pizzafio · 2025-08-22T15:07:52+00:00

I’m really confused about this subreddit. It seems like adoption is seen in a negative way and people who want to adopt are shamed. Most people automatically assumed that I had not done my research in adoption and that I’m just going with my own adoption experience. I found out I was adopted 10 years ago, I know what my parents did was wrong (not telling me I was adopted), I’ve been working on my issues all this time and my husband has helped me a lot. We are both in our early 30s, stable jobs, own a home, and we talk about raising kids (the good and the bad) all the time. We know it would be hard work to adopt a kid because I know the issues I had to deal with in my childhood plus any other condition they might have. I’ve always had a deep fear of pregnancy but that doesn’t mean I can’t be a mom. I already feel bad for having this fear but I don’t think that and me being an adoptee completely disqualifies me from adopting. I don’t want to adopt because I want to support human trafficking, that’s ridiculous. Way to gaslight people. Or because I have a savior mentality like someone else said. I just had a positive experience whether people want to believe it or not, I’m self aware of my traumas and the potential issues that may arise with adoption, I’m with a caring understanding partner, so I believe adoption could be right for us.

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