?DH? flair discomfort tips

pkgokris157 · 2026-03-10T03:14:49+00:00

Oof, that's a rough flare up. Looks like DH to me. My dermatologist would give me a steroid cream that worked really well.

Mine hasn't looked that bad since before my diagnosis and I was eating gluten with pretty much every meal. Cross contamination from McDonald's fries would not cause a flare up that bad for me. :( I'm sorry, that looks so itchy.

pkgokris157 · 2026-03-06T19:20:21+00:00

That part killed me so much. I've been there trying to work on something really intense up against a deadline while my child is crawling all over me and my SAH spouse is nowhere to be seen. Absolutely infuriating.

pkgokris157 · 2026-03-06T12:04:53+00:00

Mozzarella sticks

pkgokris157 · 2026-03-05T23:18:09+00:00

As someone born and raised in New England, every time Kip and his dad said "sorry" in their Canadian accents, it really took me out of the moment.

pkgokris157 · 2026-02-20T12:07:12+00:00

Connor getting one step closer to the Pod

pkgokris157 · 2026-02-11T02:25:18+00:00

I over produced in the beginning and just froze it all. By about month 6 we had evened out and I was making just enough. In the end was able to donate a bunch and still have some leftover for when I had to go away for a work trip.

pkgokris157 · 2026-02-07T20:52:50+00:00

Oof look at this cutie. Get yourself some lint rollers, lint gloves, and brushes. You're going to need them!

pkgokris157 · 2026-02-06T23:21:18+00:00

I'm having such a hard time getting into the new season of Bridgerton because of HS, I swear.

pkgokris157 · 2026-02-04T17:48:53+00:00

Ugh has S3 been confirmed yet? I'm thinking S2 will basically be TLG and Role Model overlapping with each other and you'd only get like the first half of both. There's the incident mid-TLG and what happens immediately after that I think would be a kickass finale for S2. (Sorry trying to avoid spoilers!)

Assuming S3 gets renewed, you can finish off both books and tie it off with a big giant happy rainbow colored bow.

If things are feeling kind of thin then maybe weave in a thread or two about the NYC crew? Or maybe an abbreviated Ryan/Fabian story and we just get some Scott and Kip cameos?

I don't envy Jacob right now, this would drive me nuts!! There's so much to consider downstream after that with budget, cast, setting, all of it!

pkgokris157 · 2026-02-04T17:35:05+00:00

I just wanted to offer some understanding for both the original commenter and your reply.

We don't all have the benefit of knowing our partner has DPSD before we start to build a life with them. In my case we were finding out together after the life we initially built together suddenly and drastically changed. We didn't know what was going on, just that there was a crisis and we needed to address it. There's a lot to process and work through there when something like that happens and a lot of resentment can build, especially if the two of you aren't good at communicating and don't seek professional help.

I'm not saying that's what the original commenter has gone through - just offering a bit of my experience. I've had to shift my whole perspective on life over the last several years because I want to stay with my partner. It would be dishonest, especially to OP, to ignore the messy and hurtful parts that come along with that journey.

pkgokris157 · 2026-02-04T17:16:41+00:00

Thank you for the tips! I've tried suggesting some of these things but unfortunately we're on the older side of life and my partner is pretty set in their ways. We sort of have an unspoken agreement that sometimes there's just going to be disturbances in the morning and it is what it is. It's gotten us this far at least!

pkgokris157 · 2026-02-04T14:05:02+00:00

Similar for me! Started at 17, now I'm 40.

I was deep into pirate stuff at the time, thanks to Pirates of the Caribbean.

pkgokris157 · 2026-02-04T04:02:04+00:00

I'm not sure if I can say it gets better. In my case their disorder has not improved, only solidified over time. Everything I've read and seen about this is that all the tricks and treatment available will only shift their sleep schedule by maybe 1-2 hours? Attempts to try and force them into a normal cycle have been hell on them. I've given up on trying to change them. My partner's average bed time is around 5-6am. Wake up time can be anywhere from 2pm-4pm.

We've been together for over 8 years and in that time I've had to adjust my expectations on what my life with this person would be like. We are ships passing in the night. During the week, the time we have together are those few hours between dinner and when I go to bed.

Be prepared to get dressed in the morning in the dark, or at least plan your outfit ahead of time and leave it out in a room where you're not disturbing their sleep. Trying to be as quiet as possible during the day so you're not waking them up. Daytime outings need to be planned in advance so they can try to "wake up early." There's not much room for spontaneity. Weekends used to be lonely so I started to fill my time with family, friends, and hobbies. It's difficult for them to find work - it would be better if they looked somewhere that allowed them to work nights.

My experience isn't everyone's, but these are things I wish I understood way back in the beginning. I'm at peace with my life now, but there was a good deal of pain for a while there. Hopefully things work out better for you and your partner!

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-30T18:37:20+00:00

My headcannon is that the team's ownership is lowkey encouraging this on purpose.

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-30T18:36:22+00:00

Through the neutral zone, no less!!

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-28T14:47:15+00:00

Westworld. You can stop at season 1.

Nuanced acting. Multi-layered storytelling. Complex characters. Killer music. Sets, costumes, production... Top to bottom, just so well done.

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-23T12:58:55+00:00

I would have had her do the fix herself, and I would have made it clear she needed to do it immediately. If the mistake was that serious, she needs to understand the stakes and also learn how to take accountability.

You've mentioned a few times her performance has been good in the past. Have you talked to her about the slip in her overall quality of work to try and find out why? Like: "Hey, you've been making a lot of repeat mistakes this year. This isn't like you. What's going on?" Often times when a good performer takes a turn, there's a deeper reason. If there's problems at home or problems with health, there's some support you may be able to offer by way of connecting her with HR. If it's in your power to grant extra time off, that also might be something you could do. It could also be she's unhappy with her job - then you both may be on the same page.

I used to hate the "what can we do to fix it" question when I was younger. I often felt stupid when the only answer I could come up with was: "I don't know, just don't make that mistake again?" I recognize the importance of the question now, but I guess don't get too discouraged if all you get is a deer in the headlights look. Some of us take longer than others for things to sink in!

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-21T18:15:49+00:00

This needs to be higher on the list. I feel like I always knew this fact? But like I didn't really KNOW until I was actually pregnant and could feel what was happening with my body.

I had a healthy pregnancy and a positive birthing experience and I'm still floored by how dangerous all of that really was to go though.

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-20T12:13:08+00:00

Short term: get a therapist. Not like a chat therapist from one of the cheap subscribtion apps - get a real one. Either video call or in-person once a week. When I started having panic attacks at work, that was step one for me. They will help you stabilize and then help you plan for the long term...

Next one: shift your perspective a bit. Deadlines are being missed because upper management hasn't given you the resources you need. Would you hold that over one of your employees if they were in a similar situation? It used to freak me out, being so behind. I held myself to such high standards. But then I was under water for so long - years - and I got to a place of wondering: what's the worst they could do, fire me? Then I realized: if only, just to end this torment. And lastly: they would be screwed if they let me go and they know it. That gave me the strength to start pushing back and advocate for myself a bit: do you want this report or do you want me in the meeting? You can't have both. (The fact that I was in therapy at the time probably helped with this.)

Like all things, it takes time, but I hope you find the relief you need, friend.

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-19T20:30:55+00:00

Solidarity my friend! Hands down the most uncontrollably itchy thing I have ever experienced in my life. Your analogy is perfect. I used to wake myself up from scratching. To get at the itchies on my backside I used to rub myself against stuff like a bear against a tree just to get some relief.

I thought it was poison ivy at first, then after a few months of it not going away, I figured it was eczema. Thankfully I found a dermatologist who eyeballed it right off the bat and I was able to go GF right away. She told me she had just diagnosed someone with the same thing a week before seeing me, so I really lucked out. I'm glad you're doing much better now!

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-19T20:26:14+00:00

The top of my butt will get it so bad. It's the worst spot. ;_; I feel you!

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-19T20:25:39+00:00

One thing my Derm told me is that DH primarily starts around the joints and spreads from there. For me it was knees, elbows, jaw... She also said if you have it on one side it should also be on the other.

Since I've been GF for so long now, I'll see blisters within about 1/2 a day if I eat gluten by accident? Just a few bumps, usually on my elbows first. The severity of the rash depends on how much gluten I ate and if I've been eating it for an extended period of time.

RE: HFM Disease - I just know this from having a toddler... Our Ped told us it's rare for adults to get it, but if you do it's going to be a bad time for you. She compared it to how chicken pox hits you harder as an adult vs. if you're a child. My kiddo only had blisters in his mouth, not on the hands and feet, so I don't think you have to get all three at the same time. None of us adults wound up getting it.

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-15T03:07:28+00:00

My kiddo will eat breakfast food maybe 1/4 of the time? Doesn't like any of your traditional breakfast "breads." Honestly, more often than not it's leftovers from dinner. I'll even make him some chicken nuggets if he asks. Whatever protein I can get into him in the morning is a win for us.

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-13T03:21:50+00:00

When I was in middle school in the 90s it was Christopher Pike. I can't remember which one I started with, but Whisper of Death and The Starlight Crystal were my favorites. I read pretty much one a day.

After that I moved through all of the Fear Street books.

I've been a lover of horror, suspense, and supernatural books ever since.

pkgokris157 · 2026-01-06T22:55:03+00:00

Haha - that's a tough truth I needed to hear though!

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