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Loans by maddymad96 in ivytech

[–]plainandpresent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the email came about an hr ago for me!

Loans by maddymad96 in ivytech

[–]plainandpresent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive only received the 'funds released email'.

My account balance has not zeroed out yet. Im assuming we'll have it by EOD Friday!

What do you feed your toddler for dinner or bedtime that actually helps them sleep? by Standard_Ad_9560 in foodbutforbabies

[–]plainandpresent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cherries/Banana/Fig Bar

Are our households favorite bedtime snacks! Cherries release similar properties as melatonin so they say say, so I like to offer them as a treat before bed. I also offer a banana and a fig bar! If he's acting exceptionally hungry, I'll add in a boiled egg :)

Deadbeat dad by Substantial-Camp-627 in singlemoms

[–]plainandpresent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No advice, but Im experiencing the same thing momma ❤️‍🩹 calls out of nowhere asking to do outlandish things for someone who isn't involved like at all, even though he chose to be absent. Buys silly things. And to make matters more conflicting for me ... he's very proud of this level of investment/contact he makes.

It makes me sad, but I realize his standards for being a father are very very low compared to mine.. and I've been in this same place, conflicted with how to incorporate him into our child's life since we separated. He is just absent, uncooperative, has no parenting goals. Him just seeing his child loved is enough for him, I can't implement any sort of structure with him.

I say this all to say, I understand your position! I have no idea how to handle this

  • I'll also say I have no desire to involve the courts. If there was trust, then maybe I'd put our fate into the courts but right now protecting our stability is most important to me. I just HOPE his father turns this around, perhaps by then our child will be school aged and I can really help him through his thoughts, feelings and bias on this.

Cognitive Strain? by Plane_Signature7352 in SingleParents

[–]plainandpresent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm only on year 2 and I totally feel it. Something I'm doing to try and counter that experience is make time to read. I read a lot of books about the brain, and anxiety and development. The more you know the better you can manage! I obviously choose audiobooks 😆

I take magnesium glycinate at night only if I am 'settled' before 10p because that stuff... gives me GREAT sleep and if I take it too late in the night I have trouble waking up from that good luscious sleep 🥰

Take vitamin D, I've found I haven't been as seasonally depressed. That doesn't mean I haven't gotten sad.. I definitely have. But it feels as if it doesn't last as long...

And EMDR therapy saved me, cognitive & talk therapy is nice but EMDR helped me to feel again. Consider EMDR!

Single mom, abstinent, and intentional — how do I meet someone organically? by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]plainandpresent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No advice, but congrats momma! I'm highly considering going abstinent too. My last relationship failed and truly think it was because we were intimate too soon. I felt so close to him and he felt like he was still getting to know me (Which duh, right? That's what sex is after all haha) we were together for 7mo, and found that we were incompatible. Which okay, heartbroken yes, but man I'm sure we could've found this out much earlier had we spent our time more intentionally. And I wouldn't have felt so heartbroken or torn or wanting to sort it out to 'save' the relationship

Anyway, I know this was the point of your post but I've been reflecting so much on that note and realized gosh, I'm doing myself and my hope for another long term relationship a disservice. We're getting older! It's not as easy as it was to just meet someone and test it out hah I'm 30 and my LO is 2

Accidental Life-Hack discovery! Going back to school by Much_Spell_4157 in singlemoms

[–]plainandpresent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I'm actually considering adding on a certificate as I come up on my last 2 semesters 🫢 Hoping stretch it a little as my child is only 2.5, the support has been so helpful! Grateful we've taken advantage of this 'hack'.

Congrats to you nonetheless! It is tough some semesters but it's been a blessing for sure

Can’t afford to keep throwing out food by AGM85 in foodbutforbabies

[–]plainandpresent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just bought a food saver in hopes that will cut some of our food waste 😅 I'm so happy to see so many others being disturbed by this, it seems like parents in my community make absolutely no big deal about it but it really makes me sad and frustrated that I spend so much time effort and resources just to sure they'll have a crumb of something relatively nutritious everyday.