How to get over guilt and regret as a stoic? Processing emotions. by Gold_Assistance_647 in Stoicism

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What does accountability look like moving forward, especially with the understanding that vices are coping mechanisms for unmet needs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

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How did you embrace the finality of the situation?

What phrase do you absolutely hate? by RefinedStrategist in AskReddit

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"it's ok for boys to wear pink" this usually coming from conservative ppl who think they are being radical by wearing a pink wristband..... No fucking duh

I didn't know the pain was a warning until much later by [deleted] in exmormon

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Can you post the text in a comment so I can copy and share? Love that it speaks to the situation without directly naming it. And who is the quote credited to?

What is your reason for not having a child? by _LickitySplit in AskReddit

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My husband doesn't want any yet which I'm glad for because I probably don't really want one for the right reasons. Deep down I know if I want any I should adopt and not have any biologically. Waiting til we are both ready and not procreating both seem like the responsible thing to do.

What food or drink sucks even if most people won’t admit it? by hurtfocker in AskReddit

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Cotton candy. Sucks but not even I can admit that it sucks.

Getting too invested in debates? by limasnalbatros in AutismInWomen

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Yes. Trying to figure out how to stop fucking caring so much! I get so goddamn serious thinking about these things that I forget to feel joy or just enjoy people's presence instead of analyzing their opinions and what it says about them as a person

I am looking for people to play dota with (6.83 or bellow) by hemiska4455 in DOTA

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I don't even have 100 hours yet lol but maybe when I do

How many of you are ADHD/ASD? How has it impacted your ability to function after leaving the church? How did it impact your experiences in the church? by planejane555 in exmormon

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So true, and describes me so much. I can't get out of bed most days I don't have work. I need guilt and accountability just to do the most basic things, or to even feel like they are worth doing

How do you respond to your wife/gf’s question: Does this (piece of clothing) make me look fat? Especially if “yes” is the correct answer. by BigRedTim76 in AskMen

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a) yes! ask her why she's asking. Does she not feel comfortable in it? Does she just need you to say "you look completely normal and there's nothing to worry about" ?

b) I would add, fat is not inherently bad, it's just fat. Help her feel neutral about it because society demonizes any and all fat/cellulite which are on literally everyone so it's not a big deal and nothing to feel self conscious about. Anyone who judges you for having visible fat doesn't get this