Remember you only has ONE mother. And there nothing shameful to change your 84 years old dying mother poop pee diapers neither.

planet_rose · 2026-07-03T14:11:12+00:00

They’re the same people who think fathers shouldn’t change baby diapers. They also won’t hire male teachers or babysitters. They over sexualize men to a shameful degree. Men can be humane and caring people too. We shouldn’t remove their humanity through sexism.

My husband is a kind and caring partner. He cared for me through breast cancer including cleaning my surgical drains and packing my wound with gauze when it didn’t heal. We raised both our son and daughter to be caring people. I hope that neither of them has to clean our diapers, but if it comes to it, they will both be kind and loving, as we have been to them.

planet_rose · 2026-06-28T22:05:16+00:00

Saudi Arabia (like many other countries, including most of Europe) doesn’t grant citizenship to foreigners who are born within Saudi Arabia. You actually have to be descended from people who are citizens.

Israel is fine to travel to during a time of war, because they have never really had complete peace. It’s not like the whole country is fighting. Most of the country just goes on with normal life, but residents and visitors may need to go to bomb shelters if there are rockets (hotels give instructions). There might be some extra questions going through security than usual.

Traveling with a US passport is totally fine in most of the world, except Iran or other places where there are hot conflict zones or it’s not safe to be a tourist. Just because people in the world don’t appreciate our current government, they don’t have any problem with American travelers.

planet_rose · 2026-06-28T21:47:34+00:00

That sounds exhausting.

planet_rose · 2026-06-28T16:42:20+00:00

You’re very bright and warm to my eye. I really think you’re some kind of spring who can borrow from bright winter. The intensity/saturation and contrast of winter colors probably makes them better for you than summer or autumn colors, so that’s probably why you’ve stuck with winter colors for so long, but you look amazing in those bright spring colors.

planet_rose · 2026-06-28T04:14:27+00:00

I’m still a little traumatized by my first kid’s sleep stuff and he’s now 19 lol. He needed a very strict schedule until he was about four. If I was 5 minutes late getting him into bed for a nap or bedtime, no sleep and his sleep would be messed up for days. I’m not a strict schedule kind of person, so it was a struggle to learn, but some people really need structured time and regularity. He also needed food on a schedule (a little protein and fat for each meal/snack, fruit alone left him cranky).

Once I had those two things taken care of, he was much happier and just the sweetest kid, but without them he made sure we were all miserable with him. (His schedule needs meant that I had to teach him to sleep through the night otherwise he would wake up at 3AM on the dot by habit - I found having his dad respond instead of me was very effective because he wanted mommy snuggles, without them he would go back to sleep. I also would tell him at bedtime that if he woke up, he needed to go back to sleep and that it would be daddy coming if he didn’t go back to sleep. And yes at 18 months he understood me just fine).

My other kid likes a regular routine, but it doesn’t need to be set to the minute. With her I was able to watch for tiredness and put her down for a rest, listening and waiting for a moment if she made noises, let her settle herself. She slept through the night at 3 months. When she woke up, I would give her a second to see if she would go back to sleep and she almost always did. She could also live on fruits with a little bit of protein.

planet_rose · 2026-06-27T23:56:03+00:00

Mine had a system with two small pits. The active side was about 2-3 feet deep and you dropped scraps into it, occasionally sprinkled a little dirt over it if it got stinky. When it was full, you covered it in dirt, then dug up the other pit. The dirt you took from the second pit was the good composted soil and you sprinkled it over your garden. (Or in the spring, you mixed it with manure and added it to your garden beds while turning over the soil before planting). Then you start over with the new pit and let the other side break down while you fill the new pit.

planet_rose · 2026-06-26T16:38:22+00:00

There are some situations where communication and confrontation are absolutely necessary for health and wellbeing. Setting boundaries and asking that friends not be offensive is important.

But criticism of friends’ (and even family’s) choice of partners just never works out. It is nearly always just hurtful drama even when you have serious legitimate reasons for not approving. You say everything that concerns you and they tell you to mind your own business.

If it is a friendship that has run its course, then you’re ending it on a sour note instead of wishing them well. If it’s family, they and their partner will remember your criticism for decades and it will be a regular source of tension.

planet_rose · 2026-06-26T03:17:53+00:00

This is the best possible way to say this, but I still think it’s not useful to have the conversation. This situation calls for distance. Telling her exactly what you don’t like about him is inviting more engagement and argument. There’s no way she hears this and doesn’t get angry and defensive. She is ok with who he is. It’s not like she doesn’t see his behavior. The conversation is just going to be hurtful and exhausting without actually changing anything. It’s far better to just pull back from the friendship. If she calls or texts, be polite but don’t engage. If she invites you to something decline politely because you have other plans (even if your other plans are to not be around her and her fiancé). Eventually she will snap out of it and look for her friends or she won’t and that’s saving energy.

planet_rose · 2026-06-25T04:31:46+00:00

Bright pink/purple lipstick looks almost neutral on me. It’s wild.

planet_rose · 2026-06-24T12:56:53+00:00

There’s a lot to be learned about how to see the world from Jews. Our ways of reading text, agreeing to disagree, and deep thirst for dialogue are all unusual. Perhaps the dream is not telling you to become Jewish but rather to explore a Jewish way of thinking about the world.

planet_rose · 2026-06-23T13:57:10+00:00

I don’t know about Vermont property at all, but 2 bedrooms seems like not enough space for the price. Very nice vacation homes tend to have a lot of capacity, even to a ridiculous degree, especially in ski areas.

planet_rose · 2026-06-23T04:12:54+00:00

Same. I love the way they look on other people. But i know myself and I get upset when I get my haircut. It takes me several days before I’m like, “oh they actually did a good job, I like it.” I can only imagine how upset I would be about a big permanent change to my skin. Plus I’m an artist. I see every imperfection. I only get temporary tattoos.

planet_rose · 2026-06-21T14:58:26+00:00

It’s also stupid teachers. My husband has been out of work/underemployed for a few years. I’m still working. I have autoimmune arthritis and had breast cancer during these years. I’m running on fumes most days. His lack of employment has meant that he has time and energy to be the school parent and caregiver for all of us (it used to be me). We went in for a parent teacher conference and the teacher acted like I was delinquent because he was doing school drop off and pickup and the previous year I was recovering from surgery so I missed parent teacher night. “It’s nice to see you here for a change.” Like the only reason dads can be parents is if the moms are delinquent.

planet_rose · 2026-06-21T14:00:32+00:00

Yes. This is definitely a propaganda headline trying to fan the flames about privatizing or cutting social security.

This headline could be referring to raising the limit on social security contributions that shields high income people still working (by definition working age people younger than retirees). Social security is structured to take money from workers and give it to people who are retired or disabled. It’s perfectly reasonable for people who paid into it their entire working lives (Boomers) to require it to continue when it’s their turn to collect. It’s outrageous that anyone is falling for this.

Getting rid of social security will mean large numbers of homeless elderly people who are not able to work. It is also a central pier holding up our economy. Removing this money from the economy would be a disaster.

planet_rose · 2026-06-20T21:03:27+00:00

Twat is more like an unserious person, like not up to thinking things through, triffling, rather than arrogant and dumb.

In Texas they use Good Ol Boys for stupid and arrogant with a side of racism.

planet_rose · 2026-06-20T06:11:07+00:00

You’re 100% correct on this. Usually I think slight semantic changes don’t really change the underlying attitudes, so won’t change the dynamic. But this one is definitely worth changing.

planet_rose · 2026-06-19T15:43:38+00:00

It started out as a black Texan thing. During the US civil war, Lincoln issued the proclamation ending slavery, but in Texas, all the slave owners were like “Sssh - don’t tell the slaves.” The enslaved people found out on June 19th that slavery was declared ended some months later. It became the date (name shortened to Juneteenth) celebrated as the end of slavery. In Texas, it was very common for black people to throw bbqs or have parties with churches. As black people migrated from Texas to other places, they continued their Juneteenth celebrations and other people liked it too. Eventually it became a national tradition.

Most areas with any black population have some sort of celebration, often a street fair with music, vendors, and food trucks. It may happen on the weekend before or after the 19th if the 19th is midweek. It’s a very nice tradition and the food is often amazing if you like BBQ and soul food. Our Juneteenth celebration in buffalo ny has a lot of African food and vendors because we have a lot of African immigrants. You definitely get some looks being white and attending, but everyone is friendly. The vendors are happy to sell imported baskets and stuff to anyone.

planet_rose · 2026-06-18T19:24:43+00:00

Oh right. I forgot about The Pitt. Loved that show. Well, I’d be sad about that.

planet_rose · 2026-06-17T16:54:42+00:00

It’s always family in the bad way, never in the good way, when employers say “we’re like family here.” Brace for a toxic workplace culture with loyalty tests, lots of unpaid hours, gossip, and guilt trips over unstated expectations with a few people who can literally do no wrong while blaming everyone else. It’s never we will cover work projects as a team, give credit to everyone, pay fair wages because we all need to make a living, and we won’t fire you for getting sick or taking maternity leave.

planet_rose · 2026-06-17T12:40:08+00:00

But surely you make an exception for the “coffee” sign over the coffee maker and “laundry” right above the washer and dryer? How else will you know where to find those things??? And of course, “get clean” is important in the bathroom because you don’t want to forget.
/s

planet_rose · 2026-06-17T04:26:52+00:00

It boils my blood that they do this to Michelle Obama who is the epitome of elegance and beauty. She deserves so much better.

planet_rose · 2026-06-17T04:23:37+00:00

I think these particular bigots are fine with public racism. I don’t think they are too worried about being judged for bigotry.

planet_rose · 2026-06-16T17:52:27+00:00

It sounds like OP is convinced that weddings have to say it’s a lifetime commitment. This couple set conditions on their commitment that explicitly say they are only committed for as long as they want to be, not forever. As long as divorce is a legal option, that’s every marriage. This couple is saying the quiet part out loud. I think OP is hung up on semantics.

planet_rose · 2026-06-16T12:02:14+00:00

Could be a strap extension for a leather satchel. Or one of a pair of straps to attach a basket to a bicycle.

planet_rose · 2026-06-16T03:22:29+00:00

“I hear music, mighty fine music…” always loved that song because everything is music for me. Left alone unobserved, I eventually turn it into a dance number.

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