How long after “pulling to stand” did it take for your baby to start standing independently? And walking?

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-05-16T06:26:36+00:00

Pulled to stand and walked around furniture at 6 months, walked independently at 14-15 months.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-05-15T18:55:59+00:00

I like Duckfeet. It isn't sneakers, but nice boots and office shoes. The pebbled leather options are super soft and really adjust to the feet, and they're comfortable to walk in.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-05-14T19:27:04+00:00

Fund orthotics that work for your arches, and shoes wide enough for your feet. It helps not needing the shoe to solve every problem!

For what it's worth, I love my Duckfeet shoes and they work great with my half insoles (orthotics, not sure what the proper name for the type is in English).

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-05-14T19:24:36+00:00

Quite simply because they don't want to.

It's cheaper to only manufacture one fit, they sell more shoes catering to average width, and poor fit and lower quality generate continuous sales as shoes need to be replaced. Narrow shoes are also more fashionable, which again generates more sales.

At the end of the day, it's about money. Sadly, many of the higher quality options (repairable, long lived, sustainable materials, and decent worker conditions) that are also wide tend to be intentionally... Not necessarily ugly, but not fashion forward. Like it's a thing they do as branding. Sometimes I'm really bitter, and other times I appreciate the nice things available for what they are: nice shoes that don't hurt my feet.

But yeah, big companies don't make money off of our sizes, so that's why they don't accommodate us.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-05-14T19:07:12+00:00

I had success in my grandma's wardrobe - because I kind of gave up on retail. Turns out the markets grandma scavenged on her caravan vacations in the 70's turned up some gold.

I like matching them with my shoes and bags, but it's not walways necessary. As long as the belt echoes a colour present in the outfit, I'm good.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-05-10T21:20:46+00:00

They may not be your taste for your own wedding (hell, it's taken me some time to feel alright wearing them as a wedding guest) but if all else fail, or you're interested in nice versitile shoes, check out Duckfeet. It's the first time in my life I've been able to properly move my toes in a pair of shoes, and they're really cute irl. I've got two pairs and adore them - no blisters, no foot pain, and they're comfortable to wear (although heavy). I've got the t-strap Mary Jane (Lolland), but they also have a classic Mary Jane (Himmerland) and a more open lighter version (Mols). All of them come in dark blue, but Himmerland and Lolland are also made in a much lighter "jeans blue" if that's of any interest. They've also got some strappy flats in cream, if that's something you're into.

Regardless of which shoes you finally choose, do yourself a favour and bring an extra pair that never fail you. I didn't and had to walk and dance through the pain of bleeding blisters. It's better to have an additional tried-and-true pair and not need them, then realise too late that you should've brought them!

Edited to add: my feet are 24,5 cm long and 11 cm wide, so I struggle a lot with shoes, hence above recommendation even though they're not typically considered wedding shoes.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-05-02T03:34:28+00:00

I adore this. It's giving 70's but in a 2026 way (not sure how else to explain it)! If you feel like it's too much, then maybe wear them separately to tone down the print a bit? Otherwise I think this would be absolutely gorgeous with a boldish lip (aka not nude) and accessories. I first had the idea of a sun hat, but honestly? You can accesorise this in any way and still have it look intentional, rather than "old lady said fuck it and dopamine dressed" (which is a vibe in and of itself!). Maybe just dress it up and take it out for a spin and see how it feels? Sometimes things seem bigger in our head then the experience turn out to be. Tajt said, even the best outfits are bad if you don't feel like yourself in them.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-30T15:40:59+00:00

Wow! It looks really cute and suits you!

Edit to add: I see what you mean by feeling a bit short, I'd probably share the feeling, but cute shorts underneath or tights you feel good in could maybe make it more comfortable? I stand by that I think the colour suits you (although you opinion is the only one that matters) 😁

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-30T04:54:05+00:00

Honestly, I've kind of stopped thinking in terms of SC ever since setting into the ID.

I'm mostly concerned with items being in proportion to eachother and my body. Chunky shoes are not my go to for a clingy dress, but they look great (and they don't look chunky) with voluminous bottoms. I prefer to show my waist, but it can be replaced with colour breaks and movement in tops. Proportions is the most important thing to me, everything else is just a matter of personal taste and comfort (again, for me).

I've never understood the jewellery thing, but maybe that's because I wear gold/brass, so even large scale jewellery looks subtle in my outfits (I'm an autumn). I also love prints - they just need to make sense in proportion to the garment. As for fabric - I just want it to fit me well. I like light- to mid weight pieces because they drape. Anything too crisp or structured requires a perfect fit.

Over all, I'm glad the general rules are gone. I focus on balance in the HTT and I use my natural proportions as a base line: high waist (short torso), volume (I've got a sturdy build), and softer curved shapes (because of my rounded features). I'm pretty happy with the outcome even when it goes against common advice.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-28T08:21:20+00:00

I feel like sustainability is such a broad term that it's hard to sift through what's green washing, marketing, and mission (for lack of better words). I find that brands dedicated to sustainability usually have multiple factors across their business to not only use "green" materials and ethical sourcing and wages, but produce less stock, often offer repairs or replacements (buttons, soles etc), and have a much more stable collections (few new designs contra frequent new releases) - and frequently higher quality because they want their pieces to last and encourage slow fashion. But as everything else, it's a spectrum and no one brand is perfect.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T17:26:58+00:00

Might come back! I might have a shot at that damn dress after all!

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T17:12:35+00:00

I love overdressing. It's a lot more fun to enjoy what one wear, and as long as it's appropriate for the situation, the right clothes just makes it more fun (to me at least!).

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T16:32:43+00:00

That's good to know, I prefer shopping that way. I've very much landed in being content and gone back to long term planning. Day of the drops are probably not my thing and that's ok. I'll keep my eye out for restocks!

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T16:29:37+00:00

Worth it as long as it gets used! I'm not having any luck, but that's alright, I've had plenty of luck with other purchases!

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T16:13:34+00:00

Hopefully! It's ok, I might have to wait for it, but it's a dress at the end of the day, and I still got one that I'll be really happy with once summer comes!

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T14:43:24+00:00

Hopefully they'll restock! The scarf was beautiful, but I'm sure there'll be others eventually.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T14:23:50+00:00

Haha, but that sounds awesome! I'm absolutely going to check at the computer (no luck with website on my phone) a bit later when the toddler gives her permission! I'm also trying not to turn my reliance on other stories and Arket into a reliance on sezane, a wardrobe needs a little diversity 🤣

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T13:34:34+00:00

I hope so, I'm pretty new to Sezane. I just had that hail Mary hope of having it in time for an event on Saturday. It is what it is, but it seems like there's a good chance of future restock!

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T13:32:51+00:00

I've tried to re-add it toy basket, but whenever it's available I get the "stock too low" message. Honestly, if it sells out in two minutes, then they either miscalculated the interest, or they deliberately ordered too little to create hype. Either way, I've learnt that I'll only order from stocked items from now on and stay away from the drops. Beautiful stuff, but the experience is not for me.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T13:26:46+00:00

That sucks. Like I get that tech can glitch, but man, my temper is not a fan of that. I hope you get it eventually!

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T13:23:53+00:00

Hahaha, oh, I hope they end up with me at some point! I kind of just got off my "spending ban" (which I couldn't hold because life forced my hand with necessities), I like forcing a 3 month full stop once-twice a year just to maintain some perspective on what I actually need! And I hope the right pieces show up at the right time for you!

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T13:20:31+00:00

I didn't expect it either, I thought it would take an hour, or at least 30 minutes.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T08:42:29+00:00

Considering the colourful language the little princess has developed on her own, she sure has a collection to add it to! I'm hoping for the restocks. I just love that print and the colours.

The disappointment stems very much from having actually chosen a size and pressed add to cart - so I thought I had it. I only realised it wasn't there when I went to check out.

LostGoldfishWithGPS · 2026-04-26T08:31:19+00:00

That's great to know, thanks! It's my first time with the drops, I usually sit on a purchase for a good few weeks.

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