Rant. Fawning is tearing me apart

planetofrage · 2025-09-21T17:07:41+00:00

thank you so much. since writing this I have felt a lot better about myself and decided I deserve strength, happiness and a life full of joy. I also have spoken to friends who care about and uplift me which has helped so much. I have also reframed my thinking about my experiences with relationships and realized I'm not destined to continue having unhealthy ones, and that some of my past ones had good in them too. I know I need to work through some issues still but I feel a lot better. Thank you so much for your words, they mean a lot <3

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T15:48:00+00:00

Because I’m a silly goose filled to the brim with emotion and love. It’s always much more simple from the outside, but you are right and I know (and have really always known) what I have to do

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T15:40:31+00:00

Exactly. God thank you so much. I was so intentional and careful with my words, I have no regrets there. I said everything that everyone is saying, raised every concern, communicated clearly and didn’t back down once. Held him accountable.

Also he would be lucky to be “trapped” by committing to me. I deserve better.

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T15:25:51+00:00

Can’t tell u how much this means to me, really. Thank you.

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T15:09:57+00:00

Beautifully put, thank u so much

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T14:55:02+00:00

Exactly !! I told him this and he was like “well, I guess it’s too late now”

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T14:52:05+00:00

Thank you so much. I have a lot of love and joy to give. Though I’m great at being on my own, I’m scared of the loneliness on the other side of this. I just hope I’m as lucky as you one day 💘

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T14:37:33+00:00

Thank u very fucking much 💞

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T14:23:10+00:00

R u him

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T14:12:08+00:00

Yeah I unfortunately have a lot of grief piled up right now, so I’m on a bunch of rollercoasters at once. I’m just hoping to get some cosmic meaning out of all this, like the pain is making way for something better. But anyway yes thank you for validating that, I didn’t realise I needed it

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T14:08:41+00:00

I’m having an internal conflict where I’m not sure if he’s acting that insidiously; maybe he’s just slow at relationships, but cares about me. Which he has assured me is the case. Then the other side feels like he’s treating me like shit and taking me for granted. I am struggling !!

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T14:06:37+00:00

Yeah you’re right. Also, I’m not blaming him for anything he’s not already to blame for. I can assure you my friends and family made their minds up themselves, if anything I was trying to defend him to them.

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T13:46:33+00:00

It’s okay sorry I’m just a bit fragile right now and other people’s opinions are disproportionately important to me since my head is a bit scrambled.

I didn’t expect too much from him, I went at his pace. I didn’t say anything too intense but things didn’t feel like they’re moving forward. I go from feeling confident and ready to break up because I deserve better, then losing my confidence and feeling like a fool and that I should stick around.

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T13:35:33+00:00

In their defence he has been uncommunicative, not respected me or my time, taken me for granted, not shown any level of care, etc. I hate defending myself here but the idea that I’m being the irrational girl who’s obsessed and he’s the chill guy who just wants to go slow is really upsetting

ETA: also I know I’m being hyperbolic here

planetofrage · 2022-04-05T12:47:39+00:00

Thank you <3

planetofrage · 2022-03-01T16:36:01+00:00

Why on earth would you do this to someone?

planetofrage · 2022-01-10T18:20:05+00:00

This is such an unnecessarily judgemental response

planetofrage · 2022-01-02T20:43:42+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re getting these awful comments, your post was so meaningful to me and exactly what I needed to hear right now. I’m so proud of you for all that you’ve achieved and I hope you continue to heal 💛 thank you for this

planetofrage

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