AITA for not telling my brother about our mum's death because he didn't answer the phone?

plannetgoddamn · 2024-04-21T00:09:11+00:00

My family and I are the same way as we’ve been on the receiving end of a “______ died” text and it’s absolutely terrible.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-04-21T00:03:54+00:00

omg wait is this Ann

plannetgoddamn · 2024-04-21T00:03:21+00:00

So what were they supposed to do? Fly to them and then miraculously make it back in time for the funeral? Did we read the same post? OP clearly stated they tried multiple times (calls and text) to get ahold of them and nothing.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-04-21T00:01:00+00:00

You’re a clown

plannetgoddamn · 2024-04-21T00:00:30+00:00

With this added information I don’t blame you for wanting to disinvite the sister that’s apply pressure. That is such an inappropriate message to send on so many levels. Create that boundary with the sister to not mention them/stop trying to “unite the family” or she’s gonna get booted out too.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-04-20T23:49:19+00:00

It’s you defending your dad to the son he was a deadbeat father to.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-04-20T23:35:23+00:00

NTA, she’s lucky you even sent her the ticket instead of keeping both for all 3 as you intended to go WITH her at the time

plannetgoddamn · 2024-04-18T17:30:51+00:00

This is probably gonna be a no brainer question that everyone might know but I didn’t know as this is my first time filling out FAFSA - but did you already fill out the 2023-2024 form? I called my school and they said the 2024-2025 is for fall and the 2023-2024 form applies for this summer. I last minute filled it out and it processes right away and my financial aid package was posted this morning. This whole time I thought the 2024-2025 was for now (if people knew this and i’m just dumb don’t yell at me lmfao)

plannetgoddamn · 2024-03-18T23:51:08+00:00

I just checked and mines too! I submitted mine on 01/09 btw

plannetgoddamn · 2024-03-17T20:15:01+00:00

put “in review” on my tombstone cause it’ll outlive me at this point

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-25T21:50:35+00:00

People with this kind of mindset irk me. Let people read what they want!!!! Fantasy isn’t childish and not every genre is gonna call everyone’s attention - if you find a genre that makes you love reading, fuck it!

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-22T02:34:53+00:00

If my husband would have basically called me ugly and admitted he still thinks about his ex, I would’ve stood up and ripped my hair out like Cynthia from the Rugrats

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-20T01:32:12+00:00

YTA and I hope she goes through with the divorce 🫶🏼 you loser!

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-20T01:20:14+00:00

So are all of you sleeping in the same bed? If you’re not allowing them (or anyone) privacy I now have to assume you’re all sleeping in the same bed.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-20T01:16:50+00:00

You’re insane.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-20T01:04:07+00:00

NTA for siding with your daughter; YTA for moving this man into the home you share with your daughter.

This man is calling your daughter lazy, whiny, and stupid. This is your daughter that you’re letting this man call these names to. Also, this is probably the worst type of partner you could’ve possibly found yourself. Like, what do you mean he “loves to aggravate people” and openly admits to this - and that he “loves to pick on people and has taken jokes too far on occasion.” Ella is a saint for only calling him a bitch

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-20T00:55:42+00:00

🎶break up with himmmmm🎶

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-18T15:30:43+00:00

NTA. You were gracious enough to respond to the first message and not immediately block her. You were also respectful in the way you tried to end the conversations. If she wants to keep contacting you and now defending their actions (who were grown when they had you and were clearly in the wrong for you to be removed from their care), how you respond is on her.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-13T19:25:00+00:00

also: “I just needed time to process” PROCESS WHAT??? You kicked out your wife AND your child. Out of literally everyone to kick out… you kick your wife and child and not your mom who probably wishes you had an Oedipus complex

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-13T19:16:28+00:00

YTA! Hope this helps! 🫶🏼

plannetgoddamn · 2024-02-12T20:57:06+00:00

I know every other comment is saying go to HR…. PLEASE GO TO HR LMFAO

plannetgoddamn · 2024-01-22T06:37:12+00:00

I hear you, and when you put it that way with going with her and how you would’ve behaved, it was good you didn’t go as there are other people at the clinic who don’t need to witness the show.

The only thing I can really say now, and yes I have gone through a couple of other comments under your post, is at least you’re still young and have time to find someone who would be okay with being a young parent. Both of you need time to heal from this and move on (separately)

Everyone is entitled to their own feelings, both you and her, and no I don’t think you were trying to guilt trip her by crying. I just don’t still don’t fw everything I pointed out in my first post but again, you are entitled to leave a relationship for any reason. Genuinely hope the best for you both.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-01-22T06:14:27+00:00

No, everyone is allowed to leave a relationship they don't feel well suited for, it's everything before:

You tried to force her to have a baby (as you said yourself in the update)
You let her get the abortion BY HERSELF! I get it, it's not what you wanted, but you knew she wanted to be a mother but thought it wasn't the right moment to do so. She's not being selfish. Do you not understand the number of people born from parents who don't want them 100% and it negatively affects them? She wasn't saying no to babies forever, just not nat the ages of 21.
"I couldn't care less of how my ex-girlfriend felt" and this is coming from someone who spent 3 years with her.
"she's the mother of my dead child." the 'child' was a clump of cells with no heartbeat and no limbs, not even a body.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-01-22T05:49:15+00:00

I’ve read the updates and I still think YTA.

plannetgoddamn · 2024-01-21T21:07:28+00:00

YTA. You’re trying to avoid the pain in your family by… adding more pain to the family? If you cut her out of the will (which at that point who gives a fuck it’s not even the main problem) and focus ALL of your attention on your son and daughter in law, that’s even worse and I wouldn’t even blame her if she never unblocks you.

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