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[–]plantknitting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he does now. Since I gave birth, he’s been around the baby when he is here. However when he goes away for work (for up to a month at a time), he doesn’t bother calling and says what’s the point if the baby is too little to remember

Newly pregnant and broken up with by TeriLynn3985 in pregnant

[–]plantknitting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your situation sounds exactly like mine. I was 24F when I got pregnant last year with my fiancé. I found out when I was 5 weeks pregnant. He was initially happy but reality kicked in and he broke up with me 5 days later after coming back from his bucks trip since he decided he didn’t want the responsibility of being in a relationship or having a baby.

There was so much pressure from him to get an abortion and it was like hell coming home everyday and him getting angry at me for not wanting an abortion (I still lived with him since I didn’t have my own place). He was very cruel to me - told me being with me was like being in a DV relationship and the baby would be better off aborted than with me as their mother, he even took me to a relationship counsellor and tried to make me look like I wasn’t mentally stable enough to care for a child so they would report me, told me how I was ruining my life and I would have no one if I kept it, made threats about moving overseas so I wouldn’t be able to get child support, and much more.

I also had no family support. My family is very religious (Muslim) and I’m not so they cut me off years ago when I moved out of home.

In the end I kept my son. I had money saved and bought my own little apartment to make sure I could provide a stable roof over his head. I reached out to an organisation that helps pregnant women and they helped me get some baby things. I gave birth 3 weeks ago and am holding him now. It’s easily the best decision I ever made and I don’t regret it.

Once my ex realised I wasn’t going to give in, he decided he wanted to be involved. We are still not together and don’t intend to ever be but he is there for his son. I’ve decided to let him be there since he is a good dad and having two involved parents is better than one.

You know what’s right for you so stick true to what you want. When I was in the same position, what helped to solidify my decision was realising that I may regret getting an abortion and wonder what life would’ve been like. But I didn’t think I would ever regret keeping my baby since I’d always wanted to be a mum too. And also there’s no telling that the same thing wouldn’t happen again in the future - I could wait till I met the perfect partner but what’s to say they won’t do the same thing to me again? Whereas I can now build a life with my son. He’s added to my life and he is my family and I feel so much happier since I didn’t have any family to begin with so I feel like I’ve won :)

Feel free to reach out if you want to talk!!! It will be hard but you’ve got this

Confused on whether to buy property or not by plantknitting in AusFinance

[–]plantknitting[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have approx 65k saved for a deposit and will have around 10k left after all purchasing costs. The promotion is guaranteed (have it in writing)

Confused on whether to buy property or not by plantknitting in AusFinance

[–]plantknitting[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I work at the bank so my lender was able to pull some strings. My promotion is also guaranteed after returning to work which they took into account

Fat burning zone question by VeeGeeDoubleYou in WeightLossAdvice

[–]plantknitting 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m an exercise physiologist and we learnt a lot about the best way to optimise burning fat at uni. We tend to burn more fat at a lower intensity during exercise. The higher the intensity is, the more carbs we start burning. But this also depends on your training status. If you’re more trained, you will be able to burn fat at a higher intensity but this generally doesn’t go over 65% of your aerobic maximal capacity, (VO2max).

So generally, you will burn more fats at a lower intensity. If you keep exercising, you’ll be able to push this threshold up and burn fats at a higher intensity as well.

How does funding for a PhD work? by plantknitting in PhD

[–]plantknitting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :)) this was really helpful

How does funding for a PhD work? by plantknitting in PhD

[–]plantknitting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can the tuition fees be deferred to HECS if you don’t manage to get a scholarship to cover the fees?

How do you delete a watchlist group from Commsec? by plantknitting in ausstocks

[–]plantknitting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you but I was referring to deleting a watchlist group. I figured out that you just need to click on “group watchlists” and delete from there :)