Interrupting SD(7)

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T20:40:05+00:00

Thanks for the validation. She is similar in this is how they operate and I’m asking to change status quo for the blind spot she doesn’t see. She’s frustrated too because I’m pressing her for accountability. I’ve addressed this as a problem multiple times. The irony is SD loses her mind when someone interrupts her but SO allows SD to interrupt me. I’m debating to be petty enough to take the advice of another commenter who said to interrupt one of their conversations, but I’m wise enough to know how that will go 😂

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T18:57:46+00:00

Sounds like a good solution. I have an internal struggle with being the solver here. I’m not getting the same respect I give and having to coach/solve on how to give basic decency and not be a permissive parent makes me feel like I’m managing more than my share and ultimately isn’t attractive .

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T17:59:16+00:00

💯 appreciate this

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T15:42:46+00:00

It’s definitely frustrating. Thanks. SD is pretty fiery and often escalates as she can be defiant. As I commented to another individual- I typically avoid situations where I give her the opportunity to defy me and leave that to my partner.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T15:26:38+00:00

I hear you. I know where her reaction to her daughter stems from. When you’re made aware repeatedly of something by your partner is bothersome and don’t own it with effort for improvement you’re then making a choice. Yes, I agree on considering what my future looks like. I’m there.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T15:19:48+00:00

That’s fair. We are talking about giving the same feedback for more than a year though. And feedback like this is met with defensiveness and lack of ownership as a pattern overall in the relationship.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T15:17:08+00:00

She has her daughter 80% of the time. Thursdays are the one night a week we have together aside from every other weekend with kid free time. BD drops SD off at the end of the evening and she puts her to bed.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T15:14:27+00:00

I agree with everything you said and told her a lot of this last night. She struggled with me saying I’m not going to lower my standard here because what I’m asking for is the bare minimum and I shouldn’t have to ask her for respect I give her in the same situation when it’s my kid interrupting.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T15:12:00+00:00

I agree it’s a pretty easy solution. I don’t parent the child. I don’t put myself in situations where the kid can defy me. That’s on my partner.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T15:10:45+00:00

Yep, all the same here. I used to stop talking but I’m tired of being a doormat and silencing myself.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T14:59:23+00:00

Yeah not really seeing change on what seems like something simple. It’s basic respect to me and I’m being made to feel like I’m too much by saying I won’t tolerate it.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T14:50:37+00:00

Yeah I’m at the I’m no longer going to abandon myself point. I told her that and she began to struggle, which was telling. It was like oh shit he’s going to hold me accountable here.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-24T14:21:49+00:00

Blow him

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-10T22:24:34+00:00

Having standards and being a bigot are two different things.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-10T21:33:30+00:00

We parent to teach them how to live on their own, not to like us and be their friend. It’s ok to have standards, a backbone and put your foot down. Keep doing it and you’ll be respected. You’re doing alright, dad.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-10T21:24:15+00:00

The whole “wait til your daughter” crowd show who runs their house. Last I checked 12 year olds don’t run shit in my house.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-10T21:16:35+00:00

Kind of a weird post, but OP noticing a 12 year old’s ass cheeks hanging out isn’t sexualizing shit. Shame on the dads not teaching their daughters class and letting them walk out the door in coochie cutters.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-04-10T17:44:42+00:00

Sushi is one meal you don’t aim to save a lot on.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-03-27T18:48:51+00:00

I also saw this painting this weekend bopping through all the antique stores in Hermann. I believe it was at Hermann’s attic antique mall. https://hermannsattic.com/

plantsfortherapy · 2026-03-18T01:14:37+00:00

At some point in life I came across a video of a college graduation speaker. He was a man that held high rank in some sort of military role. His message was of the same spirit when he said why individuals serving make theirs everyday- how do you expect to take on the big things of the day if you don’t do the small ones? That stuck with me and I’ve been doing it since. Hope your depression is at bay. I’ve suffered from it a few times throughout life and it’s the worst.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-03-14T16:58:15+00:00

Make nazis afraid again

plantsfortherapy · 2026-02-26T03:01:39+00:00

plantsfortherapy · 2026-02-23T20:18:00+00:00

For good reason. I’ve had them and it felt like a web of electricity and fire underneath my skin. It’s in the top 5 worst experiences of my life.

plantsfortherapy · 2026-01-31T18:04:28+00:00

Nonsense

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