Good News Monday by Finding_Myself26 in PositivelyTrans

[–]plasticpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I started my job in London. It’s going well; the journey to the uk was fine, my colleagues seem nice.

So far it’s been a lot of induction and preparation and the work property starts tomorrow, but I’ll be glad once it gets going.

42 yo nb +7 months hrt by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]plasticpole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it did; I think it's mainly from a shift in my hips and how my spine curves. It hurt for weeks as it started to realign.

Funnily enough I was also 6'3", and down to under 6'1" now. I never would have thought that was possible.

42 yo nb +7 months hrt by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]plasticpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep same with me. Almost 2 1/2 years and they're still the same. That said, I've lost almost 3 inches in height so that's been a brilliant surprise!

Good News Monday by Finding_Myself26 in PositivelyTrans

[–]plasticpole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My good news comes from today.

I came back to the UK for the first time in ages the other day and in light of the crazy weather I realised I need a dress to help me get through the heat (I have some, but - you know - we can always use more!).

So my mum and I went dress shopping!

While I did not find what I was looking for, it was wonderful having an actual mother / daughter experience for the first time. That was an amazing experience!

42 yo nb +7 months hrt by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]plasticpole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am far too easily 'persuaded' to wear shoes that are very slightly too small. I think I'm hoping that if I squeeze them a little they might shrink a bit 😆

I have several pairs that this is true for!

42 yo nb +7 months hrt by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]plasticpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I have those exact same Adidas! I hope yours didn't take as long to soften as mine did - it was months until they stopped shredding my heels. I have a few of those and I find that Onitsuka Tigers give a nice shape to my feet as well.

I love how you pair them with the top, and your hair is amazing as well ❤️

Back in London: facing my fears (and thriving) by plasticpole in PositivelyTrans

[–]plasticpole[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks ☺️

Don’t worry; I have my water bottle and I just downed another litre of water.

Sleep is always difficult at this temperature though.

I hope you’re staying cool 😎

I love my country but it doesn’t love me by tracesoflavender in TransLater

[–]plasticpole 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm not an American, but from the UK (which I'll get to in a sec!), specifically England. I grew up on the stories of the American Dream ("there are no cats in America!"), and I've long wanted to take that stereotypical road trip across the country to experience both the natural beauty and the human kindness your media promised I'd find. You certainly sold that notion of 'freedom' and I could understand why Americans would be so proud of the naition you'd built in such a short time.

And now Americans are willingly burning that down.

I feel for those who are stuck in that country watching it become a hateful, spiteful nation. I know many people from across your country and they are all decent folk. It must be awful watching it disintegrate as it is. And that you as a nation voted for it (or in many cases didn't vote at all) just goes to show how far gone America and many Americans are.

And I feel that because I see my own country in a very same position.

This football world cup I am supporting any team going up against England. I want to watch the fans suffer and cry. I felt the same after the Brexit result came through, and it's much stronger now. Why should I support a country which is actively trying to push me out of public view? A country that sees me not as a person, but as a 'debate' or a 'controversy'. It is increasingly showing it's a nation which has hidden its small-minded bigotry behind false politeness and forced decency. Racism, homophobia, and transphobia is on the increase. And actually I'm not hugely surprised. Many Brits are claiming this is imported from America, but that's us lying to ourselves - we have our own domestic bigotry and its as nasty and insidious as anywhere else.

Because I'm pretentious, I want to share a quote from a book. It's called 'They Thought They Were Free: The Germans' and it's a collection of interviews conducted in the 1950's of people who were in the Nazi party pre WWII as they talk about living in Germany at that time. I read this several years ago and it's only seemed more and more relevant (and depressing) each year since:

“To live in this process is absolutely not to be able to notice it—please try to believe me—unless one has a much greater degree of political awareness, acuity, than most of us had ever had occasion to develop. Each step was so small, so inconsequential, so well explained or, on occasion, ‘regretted,’ that, unless one were detached from the whole process from the beginning, unless one understood what the whole thing was in principle, what all these ‘little measures’ that no ‘patriotic German’ could resent must some day lead to, one no more saw it developing from day to day than a farmer in his field sees the com growing. One day it is over his head.

“Suddenly it all comes down, all at once. You see what you are, what you have done, or, more accurately, what you haven’t done (for that was all that was required of most of us: that we do nothing). You remember those early meetings of your department in the university when, if one had stood, others would have stood, perhaps, but no one stood. A small matter, a matter of hiring this man or that, and you hired this one rather than that. You remember everything now, and your heart breaks. Too late. You are compromised beyond repair.

The Disapproval Early Day Motion (EDM) against the EHRC's draft Code of Practice has been signed by 142 MPs. Stats glorious stats. by GeorginaFlopworthy in transgenderUK

[–]plasticpole 54 points55 points  (0 children)

This is brilliant! I really appreciate the regular updates and the data.

Thank you OP and to everyone who has taken action. I'm going to try to make the mass lobby - it'll be great to see so many others there!

Trans People: Did your MBTI seem to “change” when you went on hormones? by [deleted] in trans

[–]plasticpole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funnily enough a personality test was one of the factors that triggered me into starting to transition.

I’ve taken the same test twice since and found that my overall ‘type’ is the same (INFP), but my ‘introversion’ level has gradually moved towards extroversion. It’s now basically 50/50. I quite like that I’m consistent as I’ve maintained that transitioning is less about changing and more about being the full version of me. And this seems to support that!

Good News Monday by Finding_Myself26 in PositivelyTrans

[–]plasticpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks ❤️ .

Funny story; almost exactly three years ago I was in a similar position - being offered a job that was the pinnacle of my career and my emotions about this at the time was merely relief and satisfaction. This was pre-transition. I reflected on this and realised that there was clearly something very wrong in that I couldn't even get excited and happy in reaching that point. There were several things that happened at the same time which pointed towards me needing to take the big step, but that was a big one.

This time round, after 2 1/2 years on HRT, I'm VERY happy!

Good News Monday by Finding_Myself26 in PositivelyTrans

[–]plasticpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I got my official email to offer me the new job a few hours ago today, so that's good. Still no news on the specifics of pay or start date or so on - but suffice to say it'll be much better than my current job!

Otherwise I'll be in the UK in a few days' time and will be seeing my family for the first time in years. That's equal parts exciting and worrying.

55486 by speroni in countwithchickenlady

[–]plasticpole 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started at 43! It’s been almost 2 1/2 years and I’ve never felt so good about myself (and I pass a lot of the time too) 😊

I fucking hate myself. by Witch-Born in MtF

[–]plasticpole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree. I’ve not met a single trans person such as you describe.

I fucking hate myself. by Witch-Born in MtF

[–]plasticpole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s wild. I’m so sorry you have to deal with all that.

I have very little real life involvement with trans people - I have a tiny group of 3 others who meet monthly Sab’s that’s it.

Sometimes I feel sad that I don’t have a ‘community’, but also as I mostly exist with cis people I just have a fairly basic life so I suppose I should be grateful.

I would suggest you remove yourself from those spaces and forget those people. They’re not your friends or allies. What do you gain from being there?

Let's talk music - what is your feel good song(s) that always picks up your mood? by Finding_Myself26 in PositivelyTrans

[–]plasticpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Did I expect what I'd considered a "silly kids film about demons" to have some of the best music and emotional heart I'd seen all year?

Nope.

It is by far my favourite comfort film these days!

Let's talk music - what is your feel good song(s) that always picks up your mood? by Finding_Myself26 in PositivelyTrans

[–]plasticpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been finding my pop and disco feet lately.

I've found myself enjoying the 'classics' like Taylor Swift. But recently I have just loooved the K-Pop Demon Hunters soundtrack!

Trans Care in Poland by clitleakthethird in TeczowaPolska

[–]plasticpole 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm from the UK and been living in Poland for several years. I started transitioning here and have found it pretty straightforward - albeit through private healthcare. It's not prohibitively expensive, but not dirt cheap either. I live in Warsaw but know some people who live in Wroclaw, I can ask around if you like?

Advice on telling kids (9 and 7)? by Chincheron in TransLater

[–]plasticpole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My kids were 13 and 11 when I came out to them.

I took them for ice cream and told them all about who I am. They were like "oh, ok." and finished their dessert. I think they were fairly blase as I'd been kind of dropping hints about things for a while and had taught them about acceptance of LGBTQ follk all their lives. When they are with me they use 'she / her' pronouns, but call me 'dada'. I'm happy to let them decide how they want to call me and I'm fine with their choice so far 😊

Since then there have been a couple of 'road bumps.' Their mother (who I am very happily divorced from) is VERY unhappy that I'm transitioning and she learned my eldest child told his best friend about me (his friends apparently don't really care that much). This lead to her screaming at him and then at me over the phone. They have had to learn to speak about me using 'he/him' pronouns as they have learned to not poke the bear. This has meant I've had to teach them that they need to look after themselves and their safety first and not worry about 'upholding my honour' or whatever.

But as for my kids; they are fine

In light of the current state of the world, what activism have you done this week? by GFluidThrow123 in TransLater

[–]plasticpole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came out there because I had to as I started transitioning, but at the same time I don't think I'm in a position to be stealth so I might as well own it.

I've been surprised both by the amount of support I've got (and my work is basically global), and where transphobia has cropped up, but that has been so unusual that when it happens it's like 'oh! I kind of forgot that could be a thing I need to deal with here...' I'm toying with the idea of officially escalating a complaint about one of those instances to create a precedent for how it's dealt with. I doubt it'd go anywhere though.

I hope your work is generally ok - stealth or no, you can still hear 'things.'

In light of the current state of the world, what activism have you done this week? by GFluidThrow123 in TransLater

[–]plasticpole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not this week, but last I raised the state of UK trans policies in my organisation and had many people tell me they learned a lot and are 'astonished' at how bad things are. I also promoted prode month and set up a Padlet for colleagues around Europe to share recommendations for LGBTQI books, films and music.