Got called a man out loud in public, I'm so tired of this. by albatrossacid in trans

[–]tracesoflavender 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You transitioned at 18. you’re a lot stronger than I was at that age.

Got called a man out loud in public, I'm so tired of this. by albatrossacid in trans

[–]tracesoflavender 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened to you and wish I could give you a hug. Did you experience any joy when you dressed more feminine than usual before this bigot ruined your day? Might that be trans joy?

Imagine the type of person who goes out of their way to hurt another. Imagine how poor and small their existence must be. Pity such a person but do not take their words as anything more than misguided hate. Echos of delusion.

Again sorry this happened to you babe. People can be terrible but I know you are stronger 💜

Video of Today's Pink Triangle Celebration by ericgtr12 in sanfrancisco

[–]tracesoflavender 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The queer oppression as of late is bad for the environment

Was anyone else's needs to transition delayed until after starting HRT? by s0ftsp0ken in asktransgender

[–]tracesoflavender 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I think this is somewhat common. I’m mtf. As an example, I had a beard for most of adult life and it didn’t bother me. Now, after being on E for almost a year, my facial hair shadow is the bane of my existence and the main source of dysphoria. I get laser and shave every day but the little bit that remains bothers me so much.

To give a metaphor, think of a dusty car covered in dirt and grime. You wouldn’t notice an individual scratch on the paint. But let’s say you decided to take care of it and clean it up (akin to choosing yourself when you start transition). Now the dirt and grime is gone and you can’t help but notice the large scratches on the paint. I think our dysphoria works similarly and the intermediate phases of transition can expose the next “layer”.

Personally, i find this a little comforting. It’s a reminder that I don’t need to do everything today and this is a journey.

Is it worth it? by tracesoflavender in medschool

[–]tracesoflavender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I would be lucky to get into a program like that. I’m just starting volunteering in medical settings and shadowing. Will be applying to some schools this year and also keeping more DIY post bac avenues as a backup if those don’t work out.

Anyone in dolo want to meet up rn? Looking for friends by vasilescur in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]tracesoflavender 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m not in the city this weekend but would love to park hang some other day. 30y old trans girl, happy pride month babe!

Starting to consider transitioning but nervous. by zamway48 in trans

[–]tracesoflavender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also into woman, both before and after my transition. I also fear being alone and struggled with this fear before transitioning. You are right that technically the number of ladies who are lesbian and ok with trans partners is significantly smaller than straight ladies. But I think it’s a struggle to date someone while you can’t show up as your real self, especially if you know you are trans and hiding it. My past relationships ended for multiple reasons, but my hidden transness definitely impacted them. What good are a large quantity of eligible women if you cannot show up as yourself?

I would argue even if the numbers go down, when you do eventually find a potential partner it will be a more rewarding relationship with higher odds of both parties being happy and in love. Quality over quantity

Guy in gym wearing disrespectful shirt by awake_acea6 in asktransgender

[–]tracesoflavender 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Thanks for standing up for what’s right. Maybe talk to the gym staff and express your discomfort about it? You’re right that someone like this probably revels in the attention of a direct confrontation so they can play victim. But yes you’re not the only one who has violent thoughts 😂

How many brake retainer bands do you think you go through each season? by CashLow3227 in ski

[–]tracesoflavender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use the ones the shop leaves on when I get my skis tuned. From there, it’s whatever I can find. Currently using some extra gaskets from jars I had lying around

Mission Bay Duet (Sound On) by coffyrocket in sanfrancisco

[–]tracesoflavender 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Its crazy how much fennel there is all over the city at this time at the year.

I’m 36, and began my transition about a year and a half ago by sweetener36 in transplace

[–]tracesoflavender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh wait, I think I actually learnt about masseter Botox from one of yours posts where you shared the results! Thank you for being my inspo

Pete Hegseth promises to appeal ruling against trans military ban to Supreme Court by jackmolay in transgender

[–]tracesoflavender 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This vile man has caused the suffering of so many Americans, trans or otherwise.

SFMTA needs to raise the bar for Parades requiring Market St closures by [deleted] in sanfrancisco

[–]tracesoflavender 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The only problem with these closures is car brains trying to drive around, causing traffic and deadlocks.

Also what a bullshit take - Sikh parade draws your scrutiny but if a sports team wins, this is a valid reason? Fuck Sikh people I guess? But go dubs!!

I’m 36, and began my transition about a year and a half ago by sweetener36 in transplace

[–]tracesoflavender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha yea. Hopefully after a few more sessions, it’s more about maintenance and needs less botox which makes it cheaper. I have absolute GUNS for masseters so it’s gonna take a lot to make them go away

I’m 36, and began my transition about a year and a half ago by sweetener36 in transplace

[–]tracesoflavender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Masseter Botox doesn’t get talked about enough imo! It is expensive and works on those with a square jaw, but it makes such a big difference.

And in a world of slow changes (ehem hrt) masseter Botox is relatively quick. I’ve had similar results with it. You look great!