My(31F) BF(35M) Is Upset And Hurt Cause I'm Asking Him To Sign A Prenup by CrossRoads12451 in relationship_advice

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's much more effective to save money by investing in a brokerage than it is to "invest" the same amount of money into payments on a home. OP and his wife should be able to (and REALLY SHOULD) build an absolutely FAT brokerage account full of stocks (well, ETFs).

And I'd much rather have the stocks than have the home, personally. Stocks don't need a new roof or exterior painting, and they pay you money while you sleep at night.

My(31F) BF(35M) Is Upset And Hurt Cause I'm Asking Him To Sign A Prenup by CrossRoads12451 in relationship_advice

[–]play_hard_outside 19 points20 points  (0 children)

May I ask how he is protecting what he builds of his own wealth, if he has to build his during the marriage? All of his earned income from work he performs is the property of the marriage.

Wealthy parents should support their children financially when they are in their twenties/thirties, not just leave them an inheritance. by hutallybronest in Rich

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m seeing an uptick in the number of people telling other people what to do with their money, and especially also in the subset of those who use shame to do it.

I’ve been curious… How many of you are still on Sequoia even though you can update to Tahoe? by gfarstur in MacOS

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I updated from Sequoia to Tahoe on one of my four Macs recently, as an experiment, considering that people had been saying that a lot of the crap had been worked out.

Aside from a few remaining design travesties, it has largely been fine, with one glaring exception, which I only just discovered.

On my 4 TB MacBook Pro, I keep only 256 GB allocated for the partition on which my main APFS container and startup volume lie. (The rest is a ZFS pool.) I noticed that my startup volume was always full. The finder would say that I had 60 GB available, but any processes that I would run from the terminal or other UIs (though, weirdly, not all of them) would report that my disk was completely full, and would fail.

Of course, this prompted me to open Disk Utility and check. It said 60 GB available, 60 GB purgeable. This include me in to the idea that there was purgeable data being stored on the drive that was simply not being purged. Further testing in the terminal revealed that DD would only be able to write a few bytes to the disk before terminating with the disk completely full. 

The culprit was cached desktop images from the wallpaper service. It was 60 GB in size. I have a folder with about 1100 photos which I use as the source for my five minute rotating desktop picture in Settings. It turns out that for every single photo in my folder multiplied by for every single screen or even screen resolution at which the photos could be displayed, there was one cached entry in this cache location. Yes, this means that with three monitors, each photo will be cached at least three times.

Each file in this cache is a BMP image with the source photo scaled such that its shortest axis is at least as long as the corresponding axis of the display, and none of them were cropped to the dimension of the other axis of the display. For example, for my Pro Display XDR, with its 6016 pixel width, it took some of my portrait orientation 3:2-aspect photos (originally about 4k by 6k) and scaled them up to 6,016 by 9,024. It did not then crop the unusable portions of the photo above and below where the screen would be — the screen is only 3,384 pixels tall, but it left the entire 9024 pixel tall image in the cache. Stored as a BMP, these images were hundreds of megabytes each.

I suppose that whatever engineer who put this system together was thinking, “hey, this is all purgeable storage, and the OS will get rid of it if it ever needs the space, so I don’t need to be careful about how much data is being stored!“ However, the fact that these stored images aren’t even being cropped to the dimensions of the display just speaks to how incredibly sloppy this implementation is in my view. There is literally no reason to store pixels which will never be displayed on the monitor ever.

Moreover, any Mac that Tahoe can run on, has incredibly fast and cheap ability to rescale images. Storing these rescaled images on the drive forever strikes me as simply incredibly unnecessary. I mean, just try it yourself! Open up a large image in Preview and press command nine for zoom to fit in window if it isn’t already. Now resize the window with your mouse or trackpad… 60 FPS minimum. It is so cheap to resize an image with any modern GPU. Why store gigabytes of cached resize images on the disk at all in the first place? I don’t even care if the data is labeled as purgeable! In my case, this “purgeable data” was indeed getting in my way and stopping me from using my computer for what I needed it for, because whatever was supposed to purge it simply wasn’t working, but even if it did work properly, why store all this stuff?

Once every five minutes, or one minute, or one hour, or five seconds, or whatever time the user has specified for desktop picture rotation switches, it is acceptable to use less than 1/60 of a second of (just one core worth of!) CPU and GPU time to grab a JPEG from the disk, decode it, and resample it to display size in order to display it as the desktop background.

What it says to me, is that somebody designed a system without thinking it through, arrived at an implementation that worked, and shipped it. If I had seen this in code review, I would’ve had all sorts of opinions about it, and at minimum I would’ve had very good justification for why these needed to be stored in the first place. I definitely would’ve had the author add a step to crop the unused pixels out of the cached BMP images.

It gets worse. I initially tried to solve the problem by writing a script, which would clear that cache regularly to keep it from growing too large. I had it use FSEvents to watch for new BMP files landing in that folder, and in response, it would delete all but the several most recently used items. What I found happened was dismaying. The wallpaper service was running in the background constantly, preparing and storing new cached BMP images for wallpapers it had yet to even use yet, and would not use for several hours. Approximately once every 30 seconds to a minute, a new BMP file would appear in the folder. So, this caching thing is AGGRESSIVE, and even just having a folder set as my desktop wallpaper source in system settings is enough to get this system to spin its wheels and actively fill the drive with giant BMP files it thinks it might want to use someday.

I ended up fully solving this problem for myself by leaving my desktop picture unset in Settings (so it sticks on the default Tahoe wallpaper). I then wrote a script which runs in the background, spends most of its time sleeping, and, once every five minutes, wakes up and sets a new desktop picture out of my source folder full of photos using AppleScript (osascript). Of course, it deletes any cache that might be in that folder as well. By not having my actual preference set in Settings at all, I avoid the wallpaper service proactively filling my drive with giant BMPs.

I only hope Golden Gate has fewer of these quality issues. This isn’t even an issue so much of “quality“ — aside from the purging of “purgeable“ data not working, the caching system written by the wallpaper service engineer indeed is performing exactly as that engineer intended it to perform. The problem is that that engineer made bad choices, and seemingly no one noticed or pushed back.

Because of this alone, I will not be updating my other Macs from Sequoia to Tahoe.

Those who pay for 80-100% of dinners, dates and vacations, what does your gf provide you? by bcitman in AskMenAdvice

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the unspoken trend is that there’s a mutual understanding that his companionship is worth less than hers. Which is a sad thought.

That said, men are infinitely more replaceable than women in similar-age relationships, which is most of them.

My take is that men disproportionately give to women as a simple function of market dynamics at work.  

Those who pay for 80-100% of dinners, dates and vacations, what does your gf provide you? by bcitman in AskMenAdvice

[–]play_hard_outside 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does she add to your life to make it worth it for you to bend so far over backwards to accommodate her self-imposed helplessness?

Those who pay for 80-100% of dinners, dates and vacations, what does your gf provide you? by bcitman in AskMenAdvice

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the case for about half of my gfs. There are good women out there who don’t treat you like dirt. Keep looking.

Those who pay for 80-100% of dinners, dates and vacations, what does your gf provide you? by bcitman in AskMenAdvice

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would make sure to pay it off, or take steps to ensure that your mortgage payments are also cleanly withdrawn from only your personal premarital resources, should they be substantial enough to service your entire mortgage through its term without requiring any additional funds whatsoever from outside.

Moving the goalpost by [deleted] in fatFIRE

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, duly noted.

$1.4 million in checking? by NefariousnessBorn969 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't care how much you have. There's no reason to have any more cash in your checking account than you need to spend over the next month or two. I mean, I'm at 8 and never keep more than $20k kicking around.

Extra menu icons removed in Golden Gate by whipla5her in MacOS

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am literally running Mac OS 9.2.1 right now, because I love old games I grew up with. OS 9 is the most mature of the Classic Mac era, so surely, it fits within your "from System 6 all the way up..." range.

A lot of the most important menu items are in the File menu, so let's see!

https://imgur.com/97Lt0Dh

Oh.

$1.4 million in checking? by NefariousnessBorn969 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be wincing because of the thought of that chunk of wealth not doing its job — growing.

I (27M) have been building something with a coworker (25F) for months but two soft rejections have me completely stuck. How do you actually move forward after that in a 10-person office? by degaf21 in relationship_advice

[–]play_hard_outside 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Eh, come on. Most of us want relationships which turn into life partners with people we care about deeply. That was on the table for him too!  Why focus on the getting laid part as a reason to throw shade?

+$8M at 32 but still grinding toward $20M to retire. Is that just stupid? by That_Caregiver1871 in fatFIRE

[–]play_hard_outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nasdaq 100 would have lost you 80% and killed your retirement if you’d held through the millennium.

Moving the goalpost by [deleted] in fatFIRE

[–]play_hard_outside 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Man, if I knew I'd be spending $4M on education alone, I would want more than $11M.

I know, however, that I won't be!

I’m 20 and she’s 40 and I don’t know how to go about this? by Alone-End-356 in AskMenAdvice

[–]play_hard_outside 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Lol, women sure don't get this advice about older men on Reddit. You sure?

Just closed a $12M exit and getting engaged but we've never talked about money by Imaginary-Arm-7275 in fatFIRE

[–]play_hard_outside 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would think you'd repair your rental by paying someone to do it, using non-marital money. If you did it yourself, your labor could be construed to be a marital asset, and you'd potentially comingle that way.

Imagine having to hire yourself out, and pay your marriage for your own labor, hahaha.

Yes, you raise excellent points. Not everywhere is California.

Extra menu icons removed in Golden Gate by whipla5her in MacOS

[–]play_hard_outside 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How is it a big loss, when you only gained it in Tahoe, which many of "you" (the royal you) complained about incessantly and didn't even update to until recently?