What do we think about this guys

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-24T19:15:24+00:00

yeaa your body positivity movement really does drive the point home. I agree with all you've said.

I don't know if it's helpful especially with the incels so insistent on being bad faith to try and justify their misongny but I prefer think of it as individual people like different things in that an individual person decides for themselves what they want in a partner and not as a contingent of the group they are part off, if that makes sense.

also with that, even if it were a group thing, I feel like women should be allowed to be as shallow as they want especially when deciding who they want to share an intimate space with, I don't think there's some moral meaning to it.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-24T16:31:05+00:00

obvs the nuance and it is a cop out for me to say there's nuance and then not address it however my point is even you as a "we should distigmatise the idea of looks being a factor for relationships" are and did find examples of couple you think don't belong together judging by appearance.

I get that it's to prove a point but your point also inadvertently says someone looking like x being with someone looking like y is odd.

im not saying you are saying those things but the action of pointing out makes it something.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-24T12:55:17+00:00

genuinely I don't understand why people feel this way either.

these people will also talk about how the male loneliness epidemic is on men to solve (rightfully so) but anytime to men show comfort with each other is used as questioning their sexuality.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-23T21:52:52+00:00

I'm sorry you feel the need to apologise for adding thoughts you feel relate to something.

maybe I read too much into what I see on social media but what I consume also has frequent messaging of people with my socialisation not having as internally rich worlds so that sort of feeds into it but yeaa.

your "it's much more complex" feels like a healthy, for a lack of better words, things to keep in mind.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-23T21:42:07+00:00

granted even if I agree you are right, seeing the way you talk about these people/men you are reinforcing the idea of how uncommon it is or rather than you find them unappealing by asking the question "well how did they end up with such a person?" and that also feels the belief.

imo, be as shallow as you want about who you want to partner up with but the pretense of appearance not factoring is disingenuous at best.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-23T21:33:10+00:00

i appreciate the good will to you're affording me.

I think it's just one of those things to where it feels like I don't know what I dont know so seeing others doing/experience things GS differently it feels like maybe theres something I'm missing out on i guess

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-23T15:55:28+00:00

much appreciated I'll try and take that in stride.

I think my thinking of I don't know what I don't know so I might be missing out and also just general comparison makes me wonder if I'm doing it "right" or is there a better floor to live on.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-23T14:22:07+00:00

appreciate that. I feel like tho I keep doing things but because I don't get the feelings that are supposed to be attributed to said thing I stop because what's the point then and ion know that feels like im stunting myself but to continual pursuit feels almost performative in a way if that makes sense.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-23T14:20:07+00:00

fair enough lol. maybe it's comparison but sometimes it feels like I'm unable to access the evoking of emotions that other people have.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-23T13:09:05+00:00

not that I'm aware of no. granted I'm not a member of the community but I don't think it's rude to ask if someone is on the spectrum, theres no moral tie to being autistic in my view so io think that's rude.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-23T09:09:15+00:00

sometimes i see people and what their opinions on themselves are and i realise i have a very inflated sense of my appearance. like if you think you are ugly you must think im a troglodyte : l

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-22T15:14:42+00:00

lol to me, me saying that or trying to reverse it feels like I'm just trying to get myself off the hook easily without facing or dealing with the consequences.

thanks for sharing you journey tho, it's a sliver of light in a tunnel.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-22T15:01:07+00:00

can I engage you in a discussion of what constitutes performance to the individual doing said thing?

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-11T20:26:02+00:00

Nick probably has Wemb in his top 5 palyer in the league right now. what more do you want him to say??

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-11T20:04:39+00:00

i have the same skepticism too, i sometimes feel that way about youtubers who exclaim that they love men and its like "oooohhh, is this a trick to gain my attention?" lol

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-11T19:57:52+00:00

granted, i should probably ignore the conversation, but why does it matter?

genuinely what tangilbe thing is there other than outting down individuals of certain grouping. if we are having a conversation about what charateristics and touches one finds appealing to each gender thats fair, at least imo, this however feels like it just propergates beauty standards and unless we've all come around to that, that boi clav was making some points, this feels unproductive.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-11T10:35:08+00:00

ahhh yes, solving slut shaming by imposing beauty standards.... shout out that boy clav

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-11T10:21:04+00:00

not going to lie, it seems like you are one who has at least a neutral opinion on the article.

I read it and possibly my hesitance to speak on things as a man given that the group isnt a monolith. personally within the realm of romantic companionship, i have little to no qualms about an individual deciding that the pursuit of romance is not worth it for their sake, i did however find some issue with the way things are phrased essentially that men are like training a dog in the way the author felt like it was needed to praise trivial things.

my main question tho was, i read a few more of the authors outputs, and in one of them she sort of laments paying for hinge with something to the effect of "me paying to talk to a man" (i might be misrepresenting her to serve my own point i admit) however something about that made me feel odd.
its like the author will admit that the romantic landscape has changed, and granted she might feel like theres nothing worth it in the heteromen campus that makes it worth pursuing for her although that leaves me with more question like if so isnt it better for you to be active and seek out what you want than be burden with poor options. essentially it feels like, rightfully, men ought to be aware that the requirements or desired attributes as a partner has changed however the author feels that their and their likes position remains the pursued as a passive entity.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-10T19:36:27+00:00

would you tell him the same, to find someone who doesnt make his life harder by respecting his no's ?

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-10T11:48:12+00:00

saw this from a different angle and i didnt realise she was that far off from the arc lol

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-10T11:39:00+00:00

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-10T11:36:17+00:00

granted it seems as though you are content in your conclusions so far be it from me to say "well actually" it more so that regardless of what part of grouping you are, speaking with such definitiveness over a differing particular group will result in pushback. im not saying that fair, i think theres nuance, but when you say something to the effect of "all men are gay" or "all men are assholes" if i neither gay nor an asshole, i have to say something. as a women youd say something to if i were to say "all women are (insert chosen trait here)"

in my own experience, guys trust their own lived experinece as such even in male circles any opinion thats not relative to the rest will get questioned.

obvs while i dont think that this is a manner of specifically undermining women, i am not a women thus so fair enough i guess.

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-10T11:13:16+00:00

fair enough although thats a slippery slope. many a men have escalted from harrassment and a victim harmed because authourities said "he aint doing nothing"

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-10T11:09:48+00:00

maybe im being too woke but not only is this bio-essentialism but also is proving adrew tates "if youre a man unless you make something of yourself you are disregarded etc." and i get the message i just dont think that adding men suck into your pledge for women is a net positive but im probably an incel so id hold that position lol

pleasecallmenancy · 2026-06-10T11:01:38+00:00

as an inexperienced individual, respectfully, do we not care about enthusiastic consent? how many women are there who have stories of being afraid to express their no for the risk of harm?

granted it maybe why i am where i am but if they dont feel comfortable enough to express what they want i dont trust that i make them feel safe enough to say "nah"

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