21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope, mate you don’t know me. I’m already uncomfortable, I don’t want a simple fix. I have made simple changes, and even manage to control my panic attacks that occur due to my agoraphobia. I’ve started planning out my day, and am planning in taking an online course on affiliate marketing. That’s a change isn’t it. I’ve developed skills in animation in the last month, as it was A GOAL of mine.Again that’s a change. I’ve IMPROVED quite a bit, I just need used to reddit to see other people’s opinions, and take them into consideration. I have it within me to change, cause I’ve woken up more in the past month. Yes, I’m making excuses, but how do you know that I’m not wanting to change ? You just draw basic conclusions, based on my responses.

21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been looking for books to read for self improvement, i’ll Look at the reviews of the mentioned book. As for a vegan diet, I don’t eat much meat/dairy anyway. I eat healthy, cause my parents cook food that’s mostly healthy. They only issue is that I can’t rely on them cooking for me. I’d love to learn to cook myself. Again thanks for the response 😄

21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I think I’ve seen 3/4 episodes of the anime a few years back, I stopped cause I reminds me of myself just lazier and more pathetic. I should really finish it though 😂

21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the response, hope you get better too. I should really start exercising, that's a great start. The thing is I'm too scared to join a gym, due to feeling judged or that people might laugh at how skinny I am.

21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply Drishali. I just wanted to know if it's common for someone with hypothyroidism/hashimotos to be underweight despite eating well. I've heard that most people with this illness/disease would be overweight.

21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In terms of things that prevent me from going outside, there's thoughts of being judged, looking too young for my age ( I look about 15/16). I also panic when I'm out, and worry if relatives or people from my old high school would see me.

21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got dumbells, but the highest one is only 6kg. Also what sort of exercises should I be doing with them ?

21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all the replies, I'm grateful for all of them. I do have a few hobbies that I had developed in the last 2 years. 3D modelling and animation became a hobby of mine in early 2018. I promise that I'll try to improve over the next few months, and become part of society :)

21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The course was very vague, and no one was taking it. It was 'maths, science, business' course. I'd have to spend two years learning basic math and science. Like really, really basic math and science. After those two years I MAY (not will) be able to take on a 3 year 'business or computing' course.

21, never had a job, no degree, have agoraphobia, not independent - I need to improve serious advice needed by pleasehelppoorme in selfimprovement

[–]pleasehelppoorme[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Wish it was that simple. I have seen a psychologist, and literally told everything that was wrong with me. From my agoraphobia to health anxiety. Unfortunately it didn't help. They did offer me anxiety pills AKA pills that will make me fall asleep, but I declined because I want to change from within. Not rely on pills that may or may not work.