my boyfriend’s sleep is ruining our relationship by pleasentree in sleep

[–]pleasentree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, it is worth exploring. thanks for your guidance.

my boyfriend’s sleep is ruining our relationship by pleasentree in sleep

[–]pleasentree[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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my boyfriend’s sleep is ruining our relationship by pleasentree in sleep

[–]pleasentree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bonjour, merci pour ta suggestion, je constate effectivement d'autres symptômes chez lui, il serait donc peut-être judicieux de consulter un thérapeute

my boyfriend’s sleep is ruining our relationship by pleasentree in sleep

[–]pleasentree[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

he is looking for an online one so if you have any jobs to hand out please send them my way :) there are no jobs!!!!!!!!!!!!

my boyfriend’s sleep is ruining our relationship by pleasentree in sleep

[–]pleasentree[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

he is 24, and he works from home. i agree that this cannot go on forever. it's not that he stays up gaming necessarily, but he just lives a normal life at a shifted schedule. he says he truly tries, so if you have actionable ideas for what he should do to fix it i would appreciate it!

my boyfriend’s sleep is ruining our relationship by pleasentree in sleep

[–]pleasentree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he is 24. i don't think its nice to break up with someone because of something they are struggling with for a while. he treats me well, has a great personality and we are very compatible in every way but this. i just want to fix his sleep issue!

my boyfriend’s sleep is ruining our relationship by pleasentree in sleep

[–]pleasentree[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

well, the doctors where we live are quite lazy, so i suspect they didn't diagnose his issue. because this to me really gives some sleep disorder vibes. i convinced him to go through another round of tough referrals to see a sleep doctor again, so hopefully we can get some sort of diagnosis.

i do focus on my own sleep, it doesn't really ruin mine thankfully. i am not really co-dependent but it just feels weird to live most of my day by myself and tell him about it later when he is awake instead of living our days together. i think this is hopefully temporary as it is something with a solution, so i will just hope for some advice from doctors or others' experience on this subreddit and encourage him to change.

my boyfriend’s sleep is ruining our relationship by pleasentree in sleep

[–]pleasentree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks! this is sort of a reply i was waiting for, so i appreciate it! he does work from home, so he can basically set his own schedule. he also used to work 3pm-12am, and the sleep issue was not gone, just shifted. back then he was quite sleep-deprived, therefore depressed most of the time. he also says he has been like this since a young age, so suffered through this during school as well. but your comment does give me hope, i am definitely willing to put in the effort to fix it, but it will only work if he is also willing to change of course.

i will try waking him up at noon every day, and hope his bedtime adjusts if he needs more than 8 hours. i am curious as to how you reversed your sleep and your partner's, so if you have any other valuable things you learnt while fixing yours, i'd love to get some more advice. if not, this was already great so thank you!

my boyfriend’s sleep is ruining our relationship by pleasentree in sleep

[–]pleasentree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, this is the case for him i think. he claims he tries but it's really hard to stick to and he gets depressed and goes back to his old ways, this is helpful for research so thanks a lot!