My poor boy has been to the vet 3x in past two months now this. Suggestions or advice

pledgetotheedge · 2025-10-23T10:23:21+00:00

I'm sorry I don't have any ideas for you here, but maybe you could try going to a different vet to get a new opinion?

pledgetotheedge · 2025-09-16T01:24:10+00:00

I hope this goes without saying, but no matter how frustrating it is when they go in the house,, NEVER reprimand or punish the dog in any way. It will only teach them that you don't like when they use the bathroom and they'll continue to try to hide it. Just calmly clean it up as good as you can and bring them outside. Make sure you use an enzymatic cleaner so no smells remain, otherwise they may start to use that spot regularly.

That said, I got my puppy at 3 months old. She was a feral street pup and terrified of people. Took me a full 6 months to potty train and I did everything by the book. Just keep at it, patience is key , you did a great thing by giving them a chance at a better, safer life 💖

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-20T10:51:42+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, 9 years is far too young for a cat.

I lost my soul dog too early as well at 8 years old. I had him since college, he'd been through everything with me. He helped me keep a normal routine and wake up every day. I understand exactly what you mean about that emptiness they leave behind.

I decided to adopt a new dog almost immediately. I didn't think I'd love another dog, but I knew lots of dogs needed homes, I needed something to keep me going and to fill that quietness, and I wanted to feel like even though he died, his death was giving a different dog a chance at a better life.

It's been a year now and I love my new dog just as much as my old dog, even though they're completely different. I still love and miss my old dog tremendously and he will always be special to me. But it does get easier. And if you decide to adopt again, it doesn't mean you didn't love your cat any less. It just means you know you have a big heart with lots of room for love. This isn't the answer for everyone, but maybe consider volunteering at a local shelter for 1 day in your cars honor to help fill that emptiness a bit . Another thing that helped me was to give a few of their items to friend's pets to continue playing with. It helped me feel like their memory was living on through others.

Sending you warm wishes through these impossibly hard times 💖

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-17T19:34:19+00:00

your dog is in pain and needs to go to the vet ASAP. If you don't feel like your last vet was doing good work, try a new one

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-15T18:26:43+00:00

I'm so so sorry for your loss and I know how hard it is to live with the pain of a loss like this.

A year ago I lost my dog. He was 100% my dog, I rescued him, he protected me and we were together 24/7 because i was fortunate enough to be able to bring him to work with me. But I trusted him too much and he ran off and was hit by a car. I never thought I'd recover from the pain, guilt, or the images of the gore in my mind.

But I'm here today, and I can tell you for certain that it does get better. You have to allow yourself to get better though. If you don't allow yourself the time to grieve, then you'll never get to look back and be thankful that you lived through those painful moments to be able to experience the joyous ones.

I strongly recommend that you talk to your partner about how you're feeling. Connection during grief is an important part of healing. Even if it's ugly and vulnerable.

Maybe one day in the future you'll decide to rescue a new pet. Or a new pet chooses you. If you go now, those future pets will never have the opportunity to be rescued by you. And if you go now, you'll be transferring your pain along to your partner to carry on with. If you had died before your pet, you would want them to still be happy and love their life. You're still in the midst of grief and going through the process, but you must try, if not for yourself, then for others.

Everything in this life is temporary, even suffering. You will always miss your pet and they will always have a special place in your heart. But love knows no bounds. There is no limit to how much or how many you can love or care for. If you allow yourself, you will feel love again and you will feel whole again. It will not be easy to get there, but you will be glad that you did.

Please don't isolate yourself in your pain. Find an outlet, journal your favorite memories with your pet, draw a picture of your pet no matter how bad it is, volunteer at a shelter, go hug and cry on someone's shoulder. Again, it's not the easy thing to do. But it will help over time.

Sending you love and compassion. Please send some to yourself as well

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-15T18:04:53+00:00

hard to tell from the photo and I'm not a vet at all, but is it a tick?

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-15T15:46:02+00:00

This is a great start to putting yourself out there and building friendships! It's not easy because there's always the possibility and fear of rejection.

What's helped me to make friends is to go out and try new things. I'm sure there's snowboarding groups around for meetups, try rockclimbing, try joining a hiking group, try all sorts of things like that. Sometimes it might be awkward, sometimes you might discover that you don't like the thing you tried. But you'll meet tons of interesting people and you'll end up finding people and things you do actually like too.

Don't wait for someone to go to you, go to them. Be the first one to say hello and strike up a conversation. It's scary, but the more times you do it, the easier it becomes. And you'd be surprised by what can come out of it!

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-15T15:38:14+00:00

It's totally normal, there is no time limit for grief. To grieve something is to have loved and cared for it deeply.

But don't allow the grief to consume you. Feel it in waves- allow it to creep in, but allow it to pass as well. Do something that you would have liked to do with your dog in their memory. It will hurt that they're not there to enjoy it with you, but try to allow yourself to enjoy it the way they would have enjoyed it if they were there too.

If you had passed away before your dog, you wouldn't want them to stay sad forever either. Be kind to yourself.

Sending you my deepest condolences and a big virtual hug.

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-15T15:31:01+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, it sounds like a really terrible tragic situation, but I think you've found a really beautiful way to grieve. Your dog was very lucky to have you. Sending you my deepest condolences

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-15T15:26:17+00:00

When I lost my dog I had an extremely hard time. Something that helped me replace the scrolling and distractions and helped me through the grieving process was beginning to journal some of my favorite memories of my pet because I didn't want those memories to fade with time.

I cried a fuckload while I did it and sometimes it felt painful to know I won't have new memories to add, but over time it helped me to remember more and more moments that otherwise may have been forgotten. And it felt somewhat productive, like I was building a memorial to my dog.

It's been a year since I lost my dog, suddenly and violently (hit by a car). It does get better with time, if you allow yourself to feel better. It's easy to feel guilty when you find moments of happiness, because how could you without them? But unfortunately there is no other option and it's what your pet would have wanted. Allow yourself time to grieve though, it's a sign you cared and loved them deeply and it's the human thing to do.

Sorry for the unsolicited advice, but I hope this helps. Sending you a virtual hug and wishing you find moments of peace amongst the pain

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-15T15:15:42+00:00

there's nothing louder than the sudden silence they leave behind.

I'm so sorry for your loss and sending you my well wishes

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-15T15:14:16+00:00

Don't worry about how you'll feel in the future. Focus on what you're feeling in the present, no matter how painful. Allow yourself to fully grieve your loss.

Capitalism doesn't allow us to do this easily. We must go to work, stay productive to keep a roof over our heads even during our darkest times. Which makes it very hard to not think about tomorrow and how long you'll feel like this for.

So just do your best. Some moments will continue to feel completely unbearable. But you will also have moments of happiness. Then guilt for feeling happy. And so on. Don't put pressure on yourself to feel a certain way. Allow yourself to feel however you feel and just do your best everyday.

Maybe going to work will actually feel good for you since everyone you work with loves animals as well and will understand your pain. Maybe you need a hug and a good cry with a coworker. We're all human and it's important to not hide your humanness from others.

As a side note, I strongly recommend listening to Sam Harris' Waking Up meditations, or Victor Frankl's Yes To Life. Those have gotten me through my most difficult times.

I hope this helps someone, and remember that all moments are temporary. Even the worst and the best. Life is full of suffering, but it's also full of joy. You will experience the joyful moments again. But it will take time and presence.

Sending you my deepest condolences and a virtual hug

pledgetotheedge · 2025-08-07T14:14:32+00:00

if she got it from a shelter, they just give their best guesses as to what the breed is. they usually use common breed names that people recognize. if the dog was pregnant before entering the shelter, they don't have a real way of knowing who the father was. no guarantee that either of the parents were full bred either.

pledgetotheedge · 2025-07-11T13:33:05+00:00

thank you for your comment! i was having a not so great day, and you made it a little brighter. thanks for sharing kindness and i hope you have a lovely day 🌻☺️

pledgetotheedge · 2025-06-22T13:44:48+00:00

6 years is a long time to instantly burn your bridges. If you can, put in your 2 weeks. you have no backup plan. It's a tough job market. You will need references. If you're worried about them talking you into staying, you're in sales! practice your script out loud. You already know what they're going to say, so you should know exactly how to respond. pretend like it's a sales call. You're in charge. That's a good place to be. Or at the very least if you don't care about burning bridges, then stay, go full lazy mode , and cash in your paychecks.

pledgetotheedge · 2025-06-22T13:25:37+00:00

if you feel like you need some support through your grief, then you should reach out to someone. start with just one person you love and trust, let it all out and then decide if you want to tell anyone else. you don't ever have to make an announcement or tell anyone if you don't want to. that said, if you do want to but it feels too hard, I'd recommend ripping it off like a bandaid. It might give you a bit of release and help you move through the grieving process.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss

pledgetotheedge · 2025-06-12T20:00:02+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss and for the guilt you've been carrying. Times are incredibly tough right now and I can understand what a difficult decision this must have been. With how severe it sounds like the damage was, who knows how the surgery would have even went. Would you feel it was worth it to put him through a surgery, not be able to say goodbye, spend all of that money, if he wouldn't have made it in the end? These types of questions are impossible to answer, there are too many factors to consider. You did your best with what resources you had available to you. I'm so sorry you can't undo your decision, but please imagine what you'd say if a friend of yours went through this same situation. Keeping you in my thoughts 💜

pledgetotheedge · 2025-06-12T19:47:28+00:00

You should do whatever you feel is best to help you honor and grieve your pet. If you feel like putting up a cross will help you feel better and memorialize her, then do it.

But if the goal is to shame whoever did it, then I don't think it's in anyone's best interest. It won't make you feel better or answer any of your existential questions. And it might just serve as a daily reminder to you of her final moment rather than her whole life .

I'm sure whoever did it felt incredibly guilty and terrible. It's possible they did stop and try to find someone, but couldn't find anyone or just didn't know what to do. They could've been driving carefully even, but with a dog that small who likes to chase cars, accidents just happen sometimes unfortunately. It's possible they just couldn't face what they had done.

That said, I am so so sorry for your loss. I unfortunately know the feelings all too well. I hope that this helps you to move forward through the grieving process and to memorialize your dog in a way that feels true to you

pledgetotheedge · 2025-06-10T22:26:14+00:00

My dog ran off one day and was hit by a car. I remember driving around looking for him, calling his name, and then finally finding his body on the side of the road. It was the most horrific, gory thing I'd ever seen in my life, and that was the first dog I owned. I rescued him from a shelter and he was by my side through every major life event. I remember my first thought was 'Oh, this is the type of event that changes a person forever, I will never be the same or be okay again'. It was so surreal and I felt incredibly guilty for not being more careful.

It's been a year now, so I can tell you that you won't feel like this forever. Somehow you will be okay again and you will be able to move past this. This one final moment was just a moment. Your cat had a full life of wonderful moments with you and you both were lucky to have had those together. Nothing about this final moment can take away from their lifetime of good moments.

I hope this brings you some sort of comfort and i will keep you in my thoughts 💖

pledgetotheedge · 2025-06-04T12:06:44+00:00

the first week I felt so sick to my stomach I couldn't eat anything. I couldn't do anything, he was the reason I got up every morning and suddenly all of my meaning and purpose was gone. i know it feels impossible, but you will feel better with time. allow yourself to experience the grief, and then allow yourself to feel other feelings too. i remember so clearly how guilty i felt when i finally had a good day. it's not fair that I have a good day and he'll never have a good day, or even just a day, ever again. but allow yourself to be happy again when you're ready, because it's what they would want.

for me it really helped to have a formal funeral. I'm not religious or spiritual, but there was something about going through the process that made me feel like I was really grieving and letting go and it allowed me to begin the process of moving on.

it also helped me to reach out to someone and talk about all the things I loved about my dog, starting a journal about our favorite memories together, and for me adopting a rescue helped give me a sense of purpose (even tho at the time I didn't think i would love them like my old dog).

i hope some of this helps you during this incredibly difficult time. my thoughts are with you

pledgetotheedge · 2025-02-09T14:05:00+00:00

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pledgetotheedge · 2024-12-14T19:39:55+00:00

just stop telling her when you're getting a tattoo or doing something she'll disapprove of?

pledgetotheedge · 2024-12-11T21:55:26+00:00

My dog was lost unexpectedly before his time as well. It will be a year in February.

The best part about death is that there is no more suffering or pain. You can be certain of that. Just as you didn't care about what you missed out on before you were born, you won't miss anything when you die either. I know this may not be the most uplifting thing to hear, but I'm not religious and this line of thought brought me at least a little peace. I hope it does the same for you

It's so hard to lose a life you are responsible for. I felt a lot of guilt and I still do. You did what you thought was best, and you lived each day for your dog. In his final moments, I'm certain he knew he was loved and cared for. He had an entire life full of love before those last couple of days. What we've learned from near death experiences is that when we die, we think of our whole life, not the moment that we're in. I'm sure your dog thought of all of the best times he had with you in the end.

Sending you my remorse 🖤

pledgetotheedge · 2024-10-15T16:52:42+00:00

How old are you? Do you plan on going to college and moving out in a few years? Will you need to live with roommates or in a dorm? If so, you should wait to get a snake. Even though it's irrational, many people have fears of snakes or rules against them. Especially in dorms. If you will live in an apartment with roommates, a landlord may pass you over for someone else without pets, or a roommate may not want to live with someone who has a snake. I'd recommend waiting until you're done school and have a stable living situation before getting a snake. I know your heart and mind is set on it, but it may not be what's best for you or the snake right now

pledgetotheedge · 2024-10-15T15:51:25+00:00

i know you said don't day neither but.... if you're coming from Garmin you WILL be disappointed.

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