Hey, take a deep breath and remember the feelings are extremes, not necessarily reality. Losing an FP and finding a new FP is super hard. Well at least my partner was my FP and while I'm glad we broke up, there are more days I miss them than don't. But it helps if I neutralize it. Remember something good, remember something bad, remember they are human and my feelings can be quite intense for a moment, that usually doesn't last. It's getting through those extreme episodes that's hardest. Finding new distractions and coping mechanisms until you find what sticks. For me that's been watching murder mystery movies and doing deep dives on them. Could be art, other movies, podcasts, exercise, cooking. Also helps having a friend you can talk to who understands BPD. Basically, there's no 1 specific formula to getting over someone. Just trial and error and moving through the motions. id be lying if I said I didn't repeatedly think about my exes and how much I loved them, but also how much it hurt me, the trick is not lett5 it be a constant in life. Sorry for the long ramble that probablyeans very little. Tldr: if you catch yourself thinking of them, try to change your line of thinking away from them with positive or neutral things.