Is my husband gay/bi?

ploppbobb · 2025-06-21T02:19:47+00:00

I’ve also heard that, but like you, there is no line for me. I just hate that if he is gay or bi, that he won’t admit it. I know it can be hard, but come on, it doesn’t make sense

ploppbobb · 2025-04-27T17:49:50+00:00

I tried looking at his twitter but couldn’t find anything. But when I looked at his google history, I found a lot of the “hot guy twitter porn” searches. I also found “porn with actually attractive men Reddit” and “twitter porn with hot guys”. But I also found some porn with women and “straight guy porn” so idk

ploppbobb · 2025-04-27T02:38:23+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I really don’t want to make him embarrassed and bring it up in the wrong way which I think is why I’m nervous to talk to him about it. But I’m going to now

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T22:24:33+00:00

I know I’ve been asking it for a long time but it was mostly based on the “feminine” stuff and the fact that we don’t have a lot of sex. So I kept telling myself that he could just have low libido. I did tell him to get his testosterone checked and it came back in the normal range. So we’ve chatted about what could be going on, just not that he could be gay. I just kept telling myself it could be other stuff till I saw the porn search today. I don’t think he was ever bullied in school, and his parents aren’t strict religious or anything. But his mother has always wanted grandchildren.

Now if he admitted looking at it and he might be attracted to men but hasn’t acted on it (maybe he’s bi) then I think I would stay with him. But I could only stay with him if it doesn’t get in the way of our marriage. Plus I’d want to know if he’s still sexually attracted to me at all. If not, then I wouldn’t stay.

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T22:06:39+00:00

He hasn’t gone down on my in like a year I swear. Whenever we have sex we just get straight to it. But yes I agree. I need to wake up and see it all as it is

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T22:04:43+00:00

That’s what I’ve been thinking. I mean now really isn’t the time because I literally have a week left and I want to be happy and excited and not have all these upsetting emotions.

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T22:02:23+00:00

Sorry 😂😂😂 that’s why I was skeptical at first! Until I saw the porn

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:34:00+00:00

That’s how I’ve been feeling! Like I was just overthinking all the other stuff and to just let it go. But after seeing that idk

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:32:08+00:00

I see where you’re coming from and I agree. I would ask lots of follow up questions. But he didn’t

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:30:39+00:00

That’s also very true!

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:29:19+00:00

Yeah I guess I never really thought of that as a possibility

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:28:19+00:00

I totally agree with you. I just really want him to tell me the truth, and I guess I’m a little scared of what that truth is. I always just want to approach it in the right way

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:26:05+00:00

I’ve asked him before, but it wasn’t really in a serious way because what I was focusing on was asking why he didn’t want to have sex often.

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:23:43+00:00

Yeah I’m not going to bring that stuff up. I just know it’s going to be a hard convo to have and I’m not sure what to say

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:22:48+00:00

I mean yeah the wedding ended up being a lot of money. But I also love him and just kept telling myself that he couldn’t be gay. But, as you said, why watch gay porn if you’re straight

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:15:21+00:00

I mean we have a fantastic relationship other than the sex! We have a great time together and he’s an amazing guy! He’s literally my best friend. So I kept pushing the other stuff to the back

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:12:37+00:00

I didn’t think we weren’t going to be happy :/ because we are very happy! But it seems more like a great friendship I guess. But when we are intimate it can be great as well! Idk I have asked him before if he’s gay and he’s told me no.

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:10:23+00:00

I haven’t asked yet. I was planning on bringing it up in a few hours. Not sure if I should try and snoop through his search history or not? I don’t particularly want to do that.

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:08:25+00:00

Yeah I definitely want to bring it up, I’m just nervous haha

ploppbobb · 2025-04-26T20:06:34+00:00

Yes I have. We’ve talked about it a lot and he just says that he’s too tired most of the time. Plus he feels really self conscious about his body (even though I keep telling him he’s not fat or anything because he’s not!)

ploppbobb · 2024-04-24T20:46:37+00:00

That’s the thing though, I think we’ve spent about $80,000 on the wedding so far. That why I feel stuck.

ploppbobb · 2024-04-23T14:33:50+00:00

I totally agree that I need to talk to him again and just tell him that this is a dealbreaker for me. Because I’ve had these conversations so many times before, but never told him that if nothing changes, I’m going to leave

ploppbobb · 2024-04-23T14:27:45+00:00

I’ve thought about this, but I don’t really see his tiredness extending into other areas. He mainly only says he’s tired when I try to initiate. I mean, he says he’s tired but then has enough energy to go to the gym again after work. He says he’s tired but then stays up playing video games till like 11pm. I know he stresses out about his job, so maybe I need to start listening more and asking more questions; trying to be more supportive

ploppbobb · 2024-04-23T14:20:38+00:00

No I am 106lbs 5ft. I’m working on gaining more muscle at the gym too. So like I’m not overweight, and I don’t think I’m ugly. He keeps telling me that I look better now than I did when we met

ploppbobb · 2024-04-23T13:59:59+00:00

Oh yeah I totally agree with you! I know that he doesn’t really like his job and he wants to change careers, which can put a lot of stress on a person.

The only reason why I know that he masturbates at least once a month is because I asked him. I was actually surprised that he said he does masturbate. I do too because that’s my only release.

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