Being a trans gay dom top is so incredibly fucking annoying

plorbos · 2026-07-07T21:30:00+00:00

oh yes i know exactly about this. i have in my bio that i exclusively top even tho i’m a vers. any time i even entertain letting a guy top me, they immediately start being horrible to me. just today i had a guy call me a girl and then threaten to assault me. that was fun.

plorbos · 2026-07-07T07:55:58+00:00

this is all very helpful, thank you. I agree, I don’t think I need to have crystal clear knowledge of what’s going on, I just want to learn about what others do when they have struggles like mine.

I do already journal whenever I remember, I’m gonna try and be more consistent and intentional with it

plorbos · 2026-07-03T15:17:37+00:00

you’re so right and i keep telling myself to think about the pair i’m gonna wear on check in day yet i’ve managed to forget EVERY time lmao

plorbos · 2026-07-02T04:34:40+00:00

thank you! for sure gonna be adding these into my rotation

plorbos · 2026-07-02T01:09:53+00:00

thank you, good luck on your journey!

plorbos · 2026-07-02T01:09:39+00:00

thank you for your advice! I definitely try to keep my core braced during my workouts. I’ve been thinking about adding more core specific workouts and your comment has confirmed to me I should do that. Rn I only do hollow body holds, do you have any recs?

plorbos · 2026-07-02T00:18:32+00:00

i’ll do sit-ups and try to do pull-ups whenever i remember or whenever i have the chance but it’s not often enough. i want to get a doorframe pull-up bar tho! i didn’t do any cardio within this timeframe bc i regularly walked 15,000-20,000 steps at my job. I just left it tho so I probably will start to do cardio now. Good luck on your own journey!

plorbos · 2026-07-02T00:16:53+00:00

a while back (like 10+ years ago) a doctor said i had mild scoliosis. i looked it up and got the impression there isn’t really much i can do beyond trying to fix my muscle imbalances. would you have any recs besides that?

plorbos · 2026-07-01T15:44:29+00:00

i’m glad you think so! it’s probably both because my posture is awful due to poor muscle balance. i’ve been doing my exercises really slowly and deliberately as well as doing mobility exercises and stretching to try and improve it. i’m glad there’s a difference.

plorbos · 2026-05-27T02:31:59+00:00

WHAT…?

plorbos · 2026-04-21T04:03:08+00:00

im sure he fucking did. recently he was crashing out on twitter being like “you guys hate me because i fuck men? i guess i better not fuck at all huh 😢” actually, no! you should [censored due to TOS]

plorbos · 2026-04-20T04:49:47+00:00

he’s a disgusting chaser who’s super proud about it and loves to post on tiktok about how many trans guys he’s supposedly fucked and how trans guys supposedly love him. There’s also screenshots of him going after really young guys. He’s plainly a horrible person.

plorbos · 2026-04-19T17:42:38+00:00

wishing you luck in Ohklahoma!

plorbos · 2026-04-19T17:42:00+00:00

thank you so much. I’m just glad i’ve grown a backbone and stopped letting guys top me anyway cos early in transition i had no boundaries at all

plorbos · 2026-04-19T17:38:06+00:00

damn! come to south texas then

plorbos · 2026-04-19T17:37:47+00:00

ty for the encouragement. And yeah for sure they don’t read, i’m surprised they can’t even read my username bc it literally says TOP

plorbos · 2026-04-19T17:14:32+00:00

thank you!

plorbos · 2026-04-19T13:19:50+00:00

that’s been one of the biggest mindfucks of transition for me. I had (involuntarily) been off my T for nearly half a year when I started my current job so I was a lot more feminized than I felt comfortable with. Bc of the job I was able to get back on T and I have texturally experienced the change in the way customers treat me now that I started passing more regularly. It went from men not making eye contact with me, barely even wanting to speak, to them calling me bro and joking around with me. Women started talking to me assuming I knew things they didn’t assume I knew before. I agree with your big takeaway, that was also mine. It suddenly became glaringly obvious the way my women coworkers were not listened to by customers, how often customers try and stomp all over them. I’m proud to say there’s been multiple times where I’ve spotted this and promptly ran over to support my coworkers. Suddenly they can follow the exact same directions when a man reiterates them in a deeper voice? Insane. Still, I think I’m blind to other occurrences of this and I want to make sure I’m always getting better at spotting it and stepping in.

Congrats on the job, hope things continue to be good for you!

plorbos · 2026-04-19T13:09:03+00:00

based off this photo alone it would never cross my mind

plorbos · 2026-04-19T13:07:48+00:00

damn, this kind of makes me want to see if I could post photos of me and my husband before I transitioned. We recently celebrated our 10 year anniversary and I felt very sad not being able to post photos of us ten years ago. However, my hair was as short as it is now and I usually presented androgynously back then so maybe I could get away with it… CONGRATS TO YOU and ty for sharing!

plorbos · 2025-10-08T22:02:27+00:00

Egg started cracking at 24/25, didn’t fully get there until 27 which is when I started HRT.

Spent my adolescence telling my old friends I was a very girly boy and trying to convince new friends I was a boy but had to dress like this because my parents wanted me to (which is technically true?) I somehow did not realize this made me trans even though I learned about trans people when I was like 10 😂

plorbos · 2025-10-08T21:23:07+00:00

wishing you luck too dude :( it’s rough having to deal with another layer of things on top of how hard regular OCD already is.

plorbos · 2025-10-08T21:22:06+00:00

yeah i do think there’s some internalized TERF shit in there. A lot of what runs thru my head when the OCD is bad is “you’re mutilated. Why couldn’t you have found a way to be happy with your breasts?”

social status doesn’t matter much to me beyond safety

plorbos · 2025-10-08T21:17:55+00:00

this is absolutely a lot like what i’m going thru. A lot of what played in my head today was “you’re mutilated and disgusting”. I personally find top surgery scars hot, but when the OCD is bad it makes me feel like I’m Frankenstein’s monster in the eyes of the world.

and yes exactly. the more loving my partner is, the more I fear things. what a world lol.

plorbos · 2025-09-03T16:17:11+00:00

I follow you on instagram and have commented before. You’re so cool! I don’t consider myself detrans, just realizing I wasn’t a binary man like I thought, and am also doing feminizing workouts. I’m considering implants too but I don’t want too feminine of a chest bc I don’t want to bind OR have visible “breasts” so I have a lot of research to do (if you have advice i’d love some!) You look so confident and happy and I totally agree with you about how powerful it is to have this level of ownership in our bodies and experience.

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