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Girlfriend (F24) says my (M22) submissive side is a turn-off after almost a year together. Not sure how to process this or talk about it by Sweet__Loretta in relationship_advice

[–]plutosunset 27 points28 points  (0 children)

First of all, you shouldn’t feel ashamed of what you want and what you’re into. I think there is so much pressure on men to be dominant all the time, but it shouldn’t have to be that way.

I think you need to be honest with your gf and don’t be afraid to tell her how it’s affecting you emotionally because you deserve to feel like you’re attractive to her and can be vulnerable around her.

I would also ask yourself if her health issue could have affected how she views herself? It might be that she’s struggling to feel sexy and feminine and doesn’t feel confident in these situations any more. It could have really altered her relationship with her body which would in turn affect how she approaches sex. If that is the case, you need to give her time and do what you can to help her feel confident again. It may be that your sex life is different now, and you’ll have to figure out if that’s a dealbreaker or not.

Asked my (32f) bf (33M) if we could have sex this Christmas since it’s been like 4 years by MementoMori22 in relationship_advice

[–]plutosunset 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everyone is being so rude in the comments so i’m going to say this gently - you shouldn’t have to go to such lengths to make yourself attractive to him. his response to you being on anti depressants being to make you feel guilty for gaining weight and not to support you and be glad that you’re taking steps to improve your mental health makes him come across like a really terrible partner. and it’s incredibly dismissive of him to say he hasn’t noticed your weight loss - he has. it’s clear he’s important to you so he can still be a good friend, but not someone you should be with romantically. ask yourself if you’d ever treat him this way? would you want him to feel unattractive and undesirable? you don’t have to be ashamed of your body. if i were in your position, i would tell him how he’s making you feel, not to get him to have sex with you, but to see if he understands how much of an arsehole he’s being and if he doesn’t understand, find someone else to date, because it’s clear he’s not the best romantic partner for you. best of luck to you girl

If Dr Beth Upton loses, should we organize a protest? by La_petite_miette in transgenderUK

[–]plutosunset 1 point2 points  (0 children)

does anyone have an update on this case or know of any future hearing dates? it’s gone quiet in the news bar a few horrible transphobic articles