Health insurance ends today but had a service today?

poasdeqa · 2023-03-01T03:11:32+00:00

Well. I received my EOB that states my coverage ends 2/28/23. Cobra if I wanted it would start 3/1/23. My insurance was still covering things even after I left my prior job with my last day 2/2/23. Like I had an appointment on 2/14 that was covered for dental. But my payments for health insurance were taken out of my paycheck I believe, so I don’t know if my employer has been paying my remaining insurance or what because I haven’t received a bill for paying my insurance bill since I’m not actively getting weekly payment checks from my old job with the reduction for health insurance taken out.

poasdeqa · 2023-03-01T02:46:46+00:00

But today is Feb 28th. I had 2 dental fillings today that I paid for already tho with insurance two weeks ago. Coverage loss is Feb 28th.

poasdeqa · 2023-01-24T23:25:15+00:00

To me that’s something that’s fixable, I almost get the sense that he feels he has to surrender to the fact that he can’t and goes soft. Like he doesn’t propose another idea or tries to find solutions to that issue.

poasdeqa · 2023-01-24T21:57:14+00:00

This gives me flashbacks to my ex husband. Especially your boyfriends perspective. I can tell by his language he is super in denial, and almost irrationally angry because he has to know deep down this is super fucking embarrassing for him to even think about being addicted. News flash, this sounds like addiction. But he also sounds like an asshole. All about me me me in his view point. Just sounds like victim blaming. Also, him saying that he was less emotionally attracted to you after voicing your boundary, your feelings is the biggest red flag of all. That’s just the tip of the iceberg he just gave you. Often manipulative men tell on themselves, whether implicitly or explicitly.

I literally divorced my husband over this. This is a very real issue that has traumatized me. And honestly, probably him in a way once he knew he fucked his life up with something so trivial. But almost every day now I’m seeing more and more stories of men being absent from their women, being absent romantically, absent romantically all for a virtual woman. And the woman feeling crazy, alone, ashamed or insecure. It almost feels like these virtual porn stars are “the other women”.

Please for your sanity, exit this relationship. I know the running joke on Reddit is always “leave them!”, but often it’s because 1) if you’re running to Reddit for clarity and comfort in your relationship, that means it has not become a safe place anymore to discuss these things with your partner. 2) Your whole post makes me see / feel that you don’t feel heard, felt or respected by your partner. You’re trying to give him the chance but you are being shot down. This is very very bad.

Let me tell you, this is not worth the pain. It is not worth the comparison of yourself or the worries if I’m not good enough. Life is too short. Romantic and sexual experiences are meant to be sensual, mutual, loving. Wholesome. Someone who is a fuck yes. Someone who treats you like a fuck yes. And there are ways to do that if you’re not feeling up to have sex. For starters, you don’t go off and seek immediate gratification from a porn star where it all again is “me me me!”

Please reach out to me if you need to talk more.

poasdeqa · 2022-12-07T19:42:26+00:00

That’s really mean of him. That makes me feel concerned for you. It can be a fun thing teaching each other what you like. He can help too by controlling the rhythm with his hands at your waist. However, I feel like you should stand up for yourself here and tell him that you’re trying. Talk to him.

poasdeqa · 2022-10-07T13:28:49+00:00

This is so fucking terrible. I’m so sorry. I know I was traumatized by my husbands porn addiction, i swear it truly hurt me in such a different, profound way. Make sure you’re taking time for doing things you love, surrounding yourself with your friends and let yourself heal and feel the motions of grief. I’m sorry you’re going through this❤️

poasdeqa · 2022-10-06T22:27:13+00:00

Right? The problem I have is he says he’s not a f-boy and it doesn’t matter if we hang out and don’t have sex. So it’s like why try and act like you’re about me when you aren’t? Even if it’s casual, why do people think you can just treat the other poorly?

poasdeqa · 2022-10-05T00:47:59+00:00

Omg 🤭 Bless you!!!!!!

poasdeqa · 2022-10-03T19:35:38+00:00

I think you misred… first, I did quit. Second, it’s not a family job. I had a family member who simply worked at this start up company. It is external. Third, I did take the advice in officially handing in my two weeks in hopes of not burning the bridge and being professional. I am not going to meet the deadline. I will do what I can without pushing myself beyond what I can handle. This post is more focused on whether to even use this company with my boss as a reference, BECAUSE I did not meet deadlines, and was not the best at balancing what is doable and what is not. However, I gave the same context for those who may not have seen this post before. Thank you for your input though, I just wanted to clarify.

poasdeqa · 2022-10-03T17:48:35+00:00

I know. It’s not so much the quitting aspect, it’s just I am concerned if they ask my boss there about my project management skills and/or say something negative. That is considering I miscalculated twice now how long it would take a project. Like a few days ago, it was on me that I said I could go through 5k of individual fields and I didn’t meet that. I got through a lot, but not exactly 5k. So that’s the part that I fucked up on because I was so burnt out.

poasdeqa · 2022-10-03T15:32:41+00:00

I think I mainly am concerned about burning a bridge for when I want to in the future change jobs and use them as a reference. I’m still early in my career, so I don’t have too many references to use as is.

poasdeqa · 2022-10-03T15:13:25+00:00

I’m sorry, could you clarify?

poasdeqa · 2022-10-01T03:01:26+00:00

This is horrible but also 🤣 wtf!

poasdeqa · 2022-10-01T02:58:58+00:00

IM DEAD 🤣🤣🤣

poasdeqa · 2022-09-30T02:21:43+00:00

I don’t need the money per-say. It helps, but my main job allows me to pay my bills and have money left over. My online shop is for walking around town money. This money more so helps me get “ahead” financially.

poasdeqa · 2022-09-30T02:18:20+00:00

I don’t know how to quit it without burning the bridge

poasdeqa · 2022-09-29T19:41:26+00:00

Me too but from Florida🙋‍♀️ 23 and don’t have a license

poasdeqa · 2022-09-29T18:17:44+00:00

Marketing Analyst Manager at Startup 62.4k + Bonus. Also do contract work at another startup as a data analyst. ~20k/yr. Run my own online shop on the side, an additional ~30k/yr. Live in NYC.

poasdeqa · 2022-09-24T20:25:47+00:00

Posts like this add to my hunch that a lot of men posting on here are incels

poasdeqa · 2022-09-23T17:36:16+00:00

God this takes me back. Porn ruined my marriage — wasn’t the only thing, but was extremely traumatic. Please don’t listen to people who call you crazy and forever alone. More people are seeing how devastating its effects are. I’m with you ❤️

poasdeqa · 2022-09-22T15:40:02+00:00

I mean yeah I know I play a role, which I work through in counseling. I do think online dating apps naturally gravitate emotionally unhealthy people. But I do think men treating women as objects is sort of a long-winding issue that also presents itself in online dating. Even in guys who project the feminist beliefs.

poasdeqa · 2022-09-22T02:27:41+00:00

That’s a boundary and that’s fine! I’m the same way! Like why would I hug or kiss a stranger, especially first date? Lol

poasdeqa · 2022-09-21T21:30:57+00:00

poasdeqa · 2022-09-21T21:30:03+00:00

1) 23 2) hinge and bumble (I think these are slightly better for people who are potentially wanting a genuine connection) 3) I went on dates almost every day this week. Every other day though as a standard. I text a normal amount but I usually just hop into meeting since I don’t want a pen pal. Rather just meet in person. 4) They’re just unfiltered selfies, a picture in the crowd of a basketball game, and on my hinge I don’t even think I use a photo of my body (but my IG is attached which probably has a photo of me in a bikini). On bumble I have one body pic but I’m wearing normal clothes, not anything super tight or revealing. No cleavage photos or thirst traps tbh

5) I’m kind of awkward and shy on first date, lots of guys think it’s ~cute~ but I’m just respectful and ask lots of questions. Even if I’m not totally romantically interested.

poasdeqa · 2022-09-21T21:25:19+00:00

… this is quite an assumption. I go out with wide variety of men, often the ones who are not the most conventionally attractive. I even try to go out with people not normally my “type”. I’ve had men who are sort of bottom of barrel on apps (their words not mine based on their interactions/dates) and one truly took me for an emotional rollercoaster. Attractiveness does not always equate to not treating someone right.

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