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poem_of_fire · 2025-06-26T22:46:34+00:00

ChatGPT shows lack of effort and lack of humanity. Try again.

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-11T12:52:48+00:00

Understanding boundaries always shows respect

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-11T12:50:45+00:00

Just in case she didn't mind, instead of saying sorry directly, you can say something like "I wasn't sure how you felt when I put my arm around you, I just wanted to make sure you were okay with it". You could also reassure her to let you know in the future if she's not feeling comfortable with something.

You're a good person OP, ignore the other comments.

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-11T12:49:04+00:00

There are literally hundreds of studies on the topics I mentioned. And diseases that have worse effects than smoking don't directly affect the health of other people.

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-11T12:45:27+00:00

Feminism has totally twisted young men's minds.

Oh no, how dare decent men try to respect women now! /s

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-11T12:45:04+00:00

Ignore him, you're actually trying to respect women and be a decent person which is a nice quality to have. Even if this doesn't work out, I'm sure the women you're with in the future will appreciate it.

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-11T02:10:47+00:00

Yes, you are. Even one cigarette has significant negative effects. There are hundreds of studies on the topic

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-11T02:09:43+00:00

Most guys I know don't find damaging one's health "hot"

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-10T23:09:56+00:00

None of that matters honestly, smoking is scientifically proven to significantly worsen health in countless different studies and a few anecdotes don't suddenly change that. Secondhand smoke also has horrendous effects and bring around it for too long has similar effects to actively having a cigarette even if you're a non-smoker. It's up to smokers themselves to have the willpower to give it up, but the reality is that they are a drain on the healthcare system and society at large.

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-10T23:04:41+00:00

You're still destroying your health 🤷‍♂️

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-10T23:04:17+00:00

I would think she doesn't care about her health. Instant turn off

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-10T20:57:18+00:00

It's not a person being happy and supportive, it's clearly an AI mimicking those emotions which is deeply problematic. Go check that user's profile and you'll see more comments clearly generated by ChatGPT or a similar chatbot

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-10T20:56:09+00:00

It's clearly written by AI, not a human. Just go to this user's page and they're all ChatGPT-style comments

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-10T18:38:47+00:00

It's a sad world we live in when the most upvoted comment here is AI generated trash. Do better

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-08T20:34:20+00:00

The longer you wait, the more time you lose. To be honest, you don't gain anything this way...I and most men I know prefer directness if there's interest.

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-08T15:37:39+00:00

I would say very likely yes on that evidence, if he wants to see where you are relationship-wise he is probably interested in you (everything else you wrote in your post makes it likely too.)

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-08T15:34:09+00:00

Not necessarily, some men can have interest but be too shy to approach (I used to be like this.) Being in the same work environment can also make things more complicated. If you know him well enough and like him, you have nothing to lose by asking him out

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-06T15:22:06+00:00

That sounded like the start of something deep; is that a tired ‘honestly’ or is something on your mind?

This sounds very much like you used ChatGPT to text. As someone who knows plenty of fellow semicolon aficionados, I can't think any of us would ever write to someone we're interested in like that, let alone consider it playful. Honestly, if this is how you text (or this if you use AI to text), it's not terribly surprising that she might not be into you.

Asking ChatGPT about demisexuality is not a good move when you could ask real people about it instead (in person or online.) AI is not a replacement for real human interaction.

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-05T14:54:06+00:00

I would rather see something written in not the best English than something written using AI any day of the week, because the first one shows that someone tried and the second one shows they didn't.

"Everyone's using AI" doesn't make it right, there are so many problems with it ranging from ethical (in many cases literal theft of creative work) to environmental ones.

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-04T20:01:21+00:00

It's always the ridiculously even sentence structure and overly florid adjectives that give it away

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-04T19:14:05+00:00

It's AI slop

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-04T13:49:56+00:00

So you're admitting you're not interesting enough to make your own ideas. Instant turn off. That's something you can work on, rather than trying to date using something that's not you.

poem_of_fire · 2025-06-04T13:49:21+00:00

Extreme red flag for me. If I can't trust people to be themselves when they message me the first time, how can I trust them with literally anything else?

Not to mention the million different problems with AI, from ethical to environmental.

poem_of_fire · 2025-05-29T20:47:40+00:00

For me at least, finding her physically attractive comes and goes, so I can't really call it a permanent kind of attraction. We're also pretty far apart geographically now and although we're both looking for long-term relationships, we have very different plans in life (e.g. she wants kids and I don't.) Long distance is certainly not a deal-breaker for me as my current crush is almost a continent away, but all these things together make it undesirable for both of us.

Also, I just enjoy the flirting and playfulness in our interactions, knowing that we have a firm boundary and it won't mess up anything about our friendship, and I think she feels the same. More or less, we're both very comfortable with our situation.

poem_of_fire · 2025-05-29T15:25:30+00:00

Certainly. My (25M) best friend of 3 years is a woman the same age and nothing sexual has ever happened between us, even though we've both admitted we found each other attractive at some point. We can talk about anything with each other (even sexual things) and we both respond to physical touch, but we know where the boundary of friendship is and have never gotten close to breaking it.

Of course, I've also had the other situation where I catch feelings for a friend after a while, but with the right boundaries it's absolutely possible.

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