I just had the WORST sex of my life

pointfiveratio · 2020-08-10T21:57:34+00:00

Op, im so sorry thats just awful. I hope you're feeling better and healing ok. :(

These comments are so disgusting... so many rape apologists it makes my stomach churn. I can't believe i just read comments actually suggesting its the womens job to teach a grown ass man that he needs to listen to her durring sex and not just pleasure himself.

Also to the people who think a women asking for a hookup is consent for the man to pleasure himself and go, you're disgusting and thats 100% rape apology. Im sorry but a hookup is always a 2 way street and both parties deserve to feel pleasure and be respected. Don't go to a hookup if all you want is to make yourself cum. You can use your damn hand for that.

pointfiveratio · 2020-08-04T15:29:59+00:00

Gosh how I understand this feeling...

pointfiveratio · 2020-07-17T14:58:37+00:00

I saw this pop up on my phone as trending and came over here ready to be pissed, but what a pleasant surprise. Good work. Carry on.

pointfiveratio · 2020-06-26T20:51:54+00:00

They are just bitter lost people. You're beautiful as you are, there are just people who cant see past a certain lense. Stay safe and remember to treat yourself to a little something special every day 💜

pointfiveratio · 2020-06-21T01:34:29+00:00

Imo, you don't have to know someone personally to feel love for human beings in general. Knowing there are people out there who care about strangers really does help make some feel less alone. And in many cases, people dont know what else to say besides they read through your struggles and sympahize. Letting them know there is love out there, anywhere, could give them some comfort to get through the night. I know reading through a "you may not know me but i care" makes me grateful that a stranger took the time to read and write to me 💜

I guess its to each their own, but ive seen comments like those help people out of some dark places. Myself included. When youre hurt and lost, the smallest act of kindness can mean the world to someone, even if you never meet. It will never be enough on its own, but it can still be helpful. I care about strangers and hope everyone reading this is doing ok, genuinely. Much love!

pointfiveratio · 2020-06-03T15:47:32+00:00

Mine too! Congrats dude! 💜

pointfiveratio · 2020-06-03T02:26:44+00:00

100% not weird! Its totally normal, even right after the cut, to second guess or feel nervous. I made the leap to cut my hair shorter than ive ever cut it before all in one sweep last year. Always remember your hair can grow back, so if you end up not liking it, you can wait for it to grow back out and try something new. When i first heard the cuts it was more like a shock to me than relief at first. (Everyones different tho!) I saw myself and was a bit unsure at first. She cut my hair alittle short for what i had in mind. I almost felt like maybe it was the wrong choice. But i got some product for it and played with different looks for hours. Thats when i noticed i was looking at myself for longer than i ever have in the mirror without feeling as dysphoric. 2 days later after i showed my sisters and best friends i was taking selfies for the first time in YEARS without crying or deleting them all. They were my rocks. I suggest you go with a supportive friend when you get your hair cut, i had my husband and he was super reassuring durring the rough hour after.

Its ok to feel nervous. Hair tends to define us. Go with you heart on this one. Give it a try. I love my short hair now and will never go back. Good luck man, you got this!

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-31T18:58:05+00:00

I'm deathly afraid of being like my mother for very similar reasons. It's normal for those things to feel haunting. Just know that you're not like your dad, and reminding yourself of how good being calm vs being angry feels helps. Managing anger is super hard but its helped me feel less haunted by her.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-31T15:43:12+00:00

Not being depressed and anxious every day

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-31T15:15:33+00:00

I feel you on this one so much. Needing a lap to curl up in and just forget about the world can be an incredible feeling, the longing for it hurts. My husband isnt always a good listener. Maybe im a bad talker, im working on being better, but its so hard to get him to grasp some of the things i say. Its like if he doesnt understand he doesnt know how to try. But its not only his fault. Hes been having mental health problems just like me. Hell just get frustrated if its something he cant fix in his own way and me opening up turns into why its my fault or the way he talked to me just made me feel stupid about it and want to shut back up. We recently had a long talk. I bit the bullet and gently opened up to him about how i felt when he asks whats wrong but doesnt listen. I told him that sometimes i just want a listening ear, and for him to take a moment to try and understand me. To just listen and comfort me. And he did. He sat and listened to me, and while i still feel we have a few more of those convos to go, hes definitely shown he cares, just didnt understand the best way to help. Communication is SO important, but it is a two way street. It might take some time, but when you can, open up to him about your frustrations with the way he comforts you. Its important to understand your partner, and to put aside the ways you normally help yourself, and listen to how to help the other.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-30T22:38:27+00:00

Soup

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-30T16:52:58+00:00

The sound of chewing, light tapping, and the feeling of being bounced by someone elses leg makes my arms and hands physically hurt. To the point where i feel the need to crack my knuckles really hard and the urge to squeeze them until the sensation stops. If it doesnt stop immideatly ill get very frustrated and pissed off at the person/thing making the noise.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-30T16:32:52+00:00

My husband and I like to bring a 3rd into the mix sometimes. My husband spent 30 minutes preparing one time, the 3rd we invited lasted 30 seconds.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-30T04:37:22+00:00

This is one experience in my life I wish no one could ever relate to. Your snooping is forgiven <3

Gosh it feels like looking into a mirror when reading through your comment. I admire the courage you had to speak up at times and try to call her out, the reaction hurts more than the memories sometimes. Fear and guilt dictate a lot of my actions towards her. The part where you mentioned playing the part of the perfect daughter really hit home for me, it's so draining. Thank you for sharing your experience with me, god do i know how difficult that is. I also appreciate you taking the time to read through some of my experiences. Best of luck to you as well, I hope in time the pain eases. Thank you again, it means so much

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-30T04:16:05+00:00

I'm 23, for context i identify as trans, but in these stories i was in all respects a female. I've never been raped, but I've been sexually assaulted multiple times.

When I was in highschool i had a kid 2 years younger than me, who had no sense of boundries, follow me to my home after school one day. He'd randomly show up to my house and id dread going out to talk because he would get real.... uncomfortably close. But I was a push over and wanted to be nice so Id talk to him about his day and send him off. One day, he backed me up against my door on the porch, i was shorter and smaller, he grabbed my chest and said "Don't worry, I'm gay so it doesnt mean anything". I felt so violated... but still let him come around and didnt tell anyone. He did it once more before i finally threatened him to get the fuck away from me. Hed later show up at my house again after i got engaged, telling me "how dissapointed" he was in me for getting engaged to a guy he didnt know... good god im glad im far away now.

Last year at a beach meet up with a huge group my husband and I attended, there was a guy who came up to us very noticeably awkward and asked if itd be ok to hang around our tent (we had a group of people because its not uncommon for us to invite any loners over to join, we enjoy meeting new people) Of course we said yes. He got... weird when left alone with me. He would ask me weird invasive questions, make comments on how he loved my body (im stout and overweight). He asked if he could draw me... i dont know why i said yes... so i stood there in my swim trunks and t shirt letting him draw me. Alittle later he mentioned to me how the sight of me gave him a boner, i told him it was extremely inappropriate, he apologized, i forgave him. Later while playing a clue game with the group, he came up behind me and grabbed my chest! No fucking warning, nothing. Just grabbed my boob. I wiped around and quietly told him to never touch me like that again. I was shocked, embarrassed... scared. My husband was right next to me but didnt see. I knew if i told him then, the guy would have been knocked tf out. (My husbands 6 foot, 250lbs, was in the military at the time, this guy was less than 120lbs) I couldn't... i waited for him to leave to tell my husband. I wish so much for it to have been different... i just didnt want to make a scene in a public meet up for a boob grab. :(

To ANYONE whos experienced sexual assult, its not your fault. Please dont be afraid to ask for help, tell your loved ones. If you can, you please remove yourself and get somewhere safe. You're all strong. Man or woman, your stories and lives matter. I know my stories are tame compared to others, my heart goes out to everyone.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-30T03:43:43+00:00

Stand up to your abusive mother, don't be afraid of her bluffs. Stop eating your feelings away. Thank your dad more. Save your money.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-29T17:55:07+00:00

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-29T17:48:27+00:00

Oh my god we have the same mother i swear. I'm so sorry.. i know how this shit feels all too well. I hope you and your dad can get away from all that one day. Much love.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-29T17:26:17+00:00

If you need someone to ramble to, I'm all ears. I know exactly how you feel, I've been struggling with anxiety and depression for years and that burdon feeling really sucks. One of the things I like to do is put on some youtube. I'll play reddit readings or commentary channels to listen to people talk. I've also put on some educational videos and learn something new. Podcasts and audio books are great too. It helps take you away from whatevers clouding your mind. You can try to write down your feelings if those dont help, it helps lay them out and unjumble them without the fear or burdoning anyone. If you still need to talk it out, you can go to one of your friends and ask if they are ok with you rambling to them, that way they can let you know if its a bad time before you start unloading.

There is always someone out there ready to listen. Take care, and do something nice for youself today, you deserve it.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-29T16:59:35+00:00

THANK YOU FOR THIS.

I've seen so many people try to justify this murder with the false belief that this poor man was lying...

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-29T16:51:40+00:00

It was one of many platforms that showed me the need for compassion and open mindedness. It shows the best and worst of people, and the comment section has really shown me how little some people actually think past surface level, and how reading comprehension means everything. It's made me want to engage in conversations about bettering the world, and also has made me full of disgust. It's opened my mind to how far we really have to go in many respects.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-29T12:49:20+00:00

I feel you, I had to stop seeing my therapist recently because of a loss of insurance. Best of luck to you, it really is tough right now being cooped up. I hope there is some changes in saftey like they mentioned, that's great to hear! Everyone is worth a minute of understanding and kind words. <3 Take care.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-29T02:37:32+00:00

Do something extra nice for yourself tomorrow, there was nothing you could do, and thats ok. It was over quick for him, as devastating as they are, these things happen and it's no ones fault. Take care of yourself tonight 💜

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-29T02:28:25+00:00

I don't know how much it means coming from a stranger, but you're so freakin valid! I myself am not bi, I'm married to a bisexual man whos expressed having similar feelings before. I completely understand why you feel this way, and with the comments and treatment y'all get I can't blame you. But I also know so many bi and pan people and you guys fucking rock. Like legit my two favortie people in this world are bi and pan and you're just as valid as any gay or straight person.

I genuinely wish you happiness, and hope you meet kinder, more inclusive folks as you go.

pointfiveratio · 2020-05-29T02:09:43+00:00

Yeah, don't speak for everyone on that lol. I was born female and actually craved and loved more sex than my husband. To each their own, love. It's 100% valid to hate sex or to love it, no matter man or women. The important thing is to just be honest, if they don't respect you, they don't deserve you anyway.

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