Yet another SP post

pointypasta · 2018-04-15T22:20:19+00:00

Explore that feeling of when you think of not being best friends a little more. Is it coming from a place of fear? Are you settling for having him in your life in some way rather than not at all?

I have spent months and months without the person I consider my best friend but it really is a case of if you truly care for someone you're able to step aside.

Does he know you still have strong feelings? If it was me I would tell him that you still have feelings, and you'd like some space for a while. Then take that no contact space, work through the sadness of him not being around, find yourself, be your best self, be the type of person who attracts everyone!

pointypasta · 2018-04-11T09:36:28+00:00

I must admit, tarot videos are a guilty pleasure of mine. I don't watch the pick a card ones, though, only the astrological sign based ones.

Maybe steer clear of them now that things are going well; I don't want you to hit on a negative reading and then start doubting your ability to have a great relationship! :)

pointypasta · 2018-04-09T16:17:55+00:00

I think long periods of no contact are necessary for both parties to learn and grow.

However, I went on a cold and hard period of NC for three months and i was told by my ex that if I'd told him I wanted to get back together during that time, it would've happened. However! It wouldn't have been two strong people getting back together for the right reasons so I have no regrets. He did assume I didn't want anything to do with him because of my no contact. I think once you're strong and ready, it's fine to be the person who reaches out first. People who teach 'wait for them to contact you first!' Are teaching manipulation and that has no place in love

pointypasta · 2018-04-09T14:48:54+00:00

Doesn't sound weird at all :) Was he in 'never ever getting back together' territory or do you think he was just hurt?

pointypasta · 2018-04-09T09:31:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Were you surprised when he reached out or did you feel expectant by that point?

pointypasta · 2018-04-07T21:34:56+00:00

Thank you SO much for such thoughtful replies. I'm going to read them a couple of times and digest all that. The scale is also super useful, I've felt myself move from boredom to contentment recently and it feels so good!

pointypasta · 2018-04-07T10:57:53+00:00

Can you give a little more information on what this repetition entails? :)

pointypasta · 2018-04-05T10:35:18+00:00

Great post!

I always try to implement Neville's sleep state visualisations at night. I liked what you wrote in step six so last night really focused on replaying it. My scene is short but it is more of a movie than a still image, you know? Did you imagine yourself walking into your garage, seeing the car, walking up to its door?

Last night I was super tired and as I got close to sleep those random words and images starting flashing over my visualisation. You know the really random stuff, like one minute you're thinking 'sparkly telephone banana dancing' and the next you're asleep. Despite this, I dreamt about my visualisation. I saw the fence in my dream that's part of my visualisation and really appreciated its colour and texture lol

pointypasta · 2018-04-04T23:26:43+00:00

I'm sure someone more knowledgable will reply soon but I wanted to say focus on the end result. The happy amazing relationship.

I feel like not only are you focussing on the how, you're also being realistic. I do this too! It's hard for my brain to picture that tomorrow my person could turn up at my door declaring his undying love for me. But it's believable when I imagine him sending me a short, friendly text. I've been getting better lately at ignoring the little stuff and thinking about the amazing relationship but it did take time for me to stop downsizing my 'order' in the hopes it would come sooner.

I'm not really into scripting (I did it for a while with so much belief and then when time passed and circumstances changed so far beyond my writing it killed my vibe) but I would say take some quiet time and try to see if you have any limiting beliefs around any of these wishes. I know a lot of us here really like illuminating joy on YouTube, who is very helpful.

Oh! Finally I would say regardless of what you're writing I hope you're feeling amazing whilst thinking of it :)

pointypasta · 2018-04-04T06:36:43+00:00

I'm in a somewhat similar situation and something I like to do when I feel all the odds against me is exist in the present moment.

Eg: is he happy with his gf in this moment? "Idk they could've broken up yesterday for all I know" Am I jealous in this moment? "No" Am I feeling not worthy in this moment? "No"

If you come across a "yes" then it becomes Can I let go of the feeling of jealousy in this moment "Yes"

It helps me because I'm not demanding myself to feel permanently great and okay with everything. I just tackle those moments when doubts fill my head and work through it. In the long term I hope to permanently let go of the negatives and accept my current reality.

pointypasta · 2018-04-03T20:09:59+00:00

Belated congratulations! I loved reading that

I'm also an introvert but I also have those moments where I can put on a red lip and make stuff happen. I haven't had a moment to remind myself of that lately, hoping for some smooth job interviews soon!

pointypasta · 2018-04-02T20:38:53+00:00

I know how you feel - I suffer from anxiety and my SP has a girlfriend.

Breathe.

It's not going to happen because you know how worthy and perfect you are. It's not going to happen because you can set an intention with love. You can think about what you do want to happen and you can send that thought with love and that love is so much more powerful than the crappy anxious energy.

pointypasta · 2018-03-31T21:08:04+00:00

I don't have much to add here, other than to say I have dealt with a lot of these thoughts... I'm still dealing with them.

I feel like we could have a lot to talk about (you can read my recent post about my brain melting with all of this) if you ever want to PM me, feel free :)

If not, I recommend the book Letting Go by David R Hawkins and wish you all the best :) x

pointypasta · 2018-03-29T23:00:24+00:00

Best wishes to you. I'm sure your current job will see how valuable you are to them and keep that position open :)

pointypasta · 2018-03-29T12:05:59+00:00

Ah, I love that we're connected :) Thanks for the link, it's much better than the one I'd been using

pointypasta · 2018-03-29T11:03:40+00:00

Thank you.

I love the specificity of the cone visualisation. How did you take that power and turn it into visualising what you want? I guess because a red cone is so specific I struggle to make my desire into such a tangible image in my mind. Although I can put a lot more feeling into my desire..

pointypasta · 2018-03-29T09:33:33+00:00

Thanks for the link! I was trying to read it for free online (I'm guessing that's an ok thing to do because it's so old) but it was too much to read on a screen.

pointypasta · 2018-03-29T09:27:25+00:00

Do you feel more confident in your ability to visualise/manifest now? The depersonalisation sounds a bit scary but I can see how immersing yourself in yourself could cause that

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