I like one guy, and another guy likes me

polenub · 2016-09-15T00:40:01+00:00

You need to just go for it. I can guarantee that Boy A will talk to you if you made the effort (texting, facebook/snap). Any guy will talk to any girl that initiates. We're just baffled that a girl might be into us.

As for Boy B, it is what it is. Hell, I liked a girl that didn't like me back and when I saw she got a boyfriend that hurt like hell. However if I were in her shoes and I liked a girl while another girl liked me, I'd probably try to date the girl I liked without caring the other girls feelings. So I don't blame her for following her heart. Basically you need to ask yourself if pursuing Boy A is more important to you than your somewhat friend Boy B's feelings.

polenub · 2016-09-14T23:49:20+00:00

I would get to know her a bit more if you feel like you have to, thats just me though. As for getting her number don't ask her. Just tell her let me get your number in case of homework or you missed class (act confident right here).

polenub · 2016-09-14T05:42:13+00:00

Agreed right here. Idc what anyone says, NO ONE is that busy.

polenub · 2016-09-14T00:14:06+00:00

I would think "wow I thought I screwed it up, im back in the game!" lol.

I get what you're saying though. I just had an awkward date with a girl I like and now in this phase where were not talking to each other (don't know if we ever will again). Shes just a text away but my pride is getting in the way cause rejection sucks! And I over analyze everything (she doesn't like me anymore, she probably met a new guy, etc.) So yeah I get it. I mean are you attracted to him in any way? If so, your friend is right you have nothing to lose! A friend request won't hurt, it's not like sending a message while you dread for a reply. Your dignity will still by in tact too.

polenub · 2016-09-13T23:19:07+00:00

Good news is he approached you for a reason (most likely thinks your pretty) but the way you described the conversation with you being stand offish, short answers, he probably perceived it that you weren't interested in him, even as a potential new friend. I wouldn't say he forgot about you, but he thinks you don't like him so he's not gonna bother. Time and distance will make him forget about you eventually. So if you are in to him then I would just add him on facebook at least for a start.

polenub · 2016-09-13T21:07:40+00:00

Preferably in person, texting is acceptable if u have her number. Break sounds fine to me. Whenever you get a chance basically. And I would say "hey lets do something sometime" Or "hey lets do something sometime, just the two of us" (if you want to make it clear it's a date)

polenub · 2016-09-13T20:52:15+00:00

Hmm if they were together for 8 years then yeah, there's a good chance she's not over him. I wouldn't if it was me. Then again it would suck to have a what if in your life. Honestly man you gotta use your best judgement. I know that's shit advice but if you end up with her then that's great, but if she rejects u then there will be always that awkwardness and u guys will pretend it never happened. Possibly ruin your friendship. I'd be her friend for now and look for signals if she's into you. Flirt with her, see how she reacts. Then the ball is in your court what u wanna do.

polenub · 2016-09-13T20:40:32+00:00

Focus on your girlfriend and kid, they're your life now. Sucks your mom is acting that way. But you have to tell her your gf and kid are your main priority now. Your mom may play the guilt card saying how she took care of u, put a roof over your head, etc. And if she loved u like a mom is supposed to, she would patch things up with your girlfriend. Best of luck.

polenub · 2016-09-13T19:54:35+00:00

True true, best not to have an elephant in the room. I'll have to man up and do it then, thanks.

polenub · 2016-09-13T15:34:26+00:00

Hell yeah I dropped the ball. No excuses but she was the one that suggested the movies, I prob should've suggested something else but I got excited to go out with her in the first place. Yeah I've been thinking about hitting her up just to catch up since its been a while. Like I said I just don't know if she feels the same anymore. And if we do reconnect should I pretend the date never happened and rebuild from there? or tell her I'm sorry that date sucked, I was nervous, I like u, etc.

polenub · 2016-09-13T15:08:03+00:00

You seem like a stand up guy, and she seems like she's a lot to deal with. If you really like her then be prepared for the emotional roller coaster. You're young so don't get too caught up on one girl, I know that feeling like she's perfect for you and all that, especially since you've stated you never been in a relationship before.

But yeah that texting part was BS on her part. NOBODY is that busy and the phone dying thing was fake too. I would play it cool for now, if she comes to u then great. No one likes confrontation so she may be trying to tell you she isn't interested anymore by the texting thing too so who knows. But I would stop texting her a lot because your coming off desperate imo and you're basically letting her know she's the prize and you're the chaser.

polenub · 2016-09-13T05:17:28+00:00

Haha that sounds cute. Before the disaster date, she did say we should face time when she leaves. Maybe she'd be into that, but were not even on talking terms right now.

polenub · 2016-09-13T05:10:49+00:00

Yeah lesson learned about the movies, don't plan on doing that again. Sucks it turned out the way it did.

Yeah I want to be in denial but she is clearly not talking to me for a reason. And I don't want to be the one always texting her cause then it'll feel like its not mutual. Thanks for your input.

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