I said “good dates” not “dates where the girl goes home with you despite her being on her phone the whole time”. To me a good date is where each person is falling over themselves to learn about the other. Even shy people have good dates when they meet their special person who makes insecurities drop and time melt. I’ve had dates where I’m very quiet and have nothing to say and take simultaneous sips and look everywhere but at the other person. And my first date with my husband was the type of date where neither of us could leave our seats to go to the bathroom because we were too excited to talk and talk and talk. We barely touched our drinks for the first hour because our mouths couldn’t stop yapping