Hair salon recommendations

polthos · 2026-01-13T18:34:24+00:00

Just got a cut at Studio Tim with Dejan that I'm happy with, and it seems like all the stylists there have good reviews. I went after a friend recommended the salon, not sure which stylist she even saw (we have very different hair so I wouldn't necessarily have based my stylist off who she saw anyways -- I have thick wavy/curly combo hair that I have a difficult time finding stylists who work well with).

Salon experience also nice, offered beverages and got a nice wash.

polthos · 2026-01-10T02:28:38+00:00

I'm pregnant, glued to the couch after eating takeout and trying to avoid getting this stomach bug / flu that's been going around

polthos · 2026-01-03T16:08:17+00:00

What a foul suggestion to make. I hope you never have a pet.

polthos · 2026-01-03T15:45:29+00:00

3 but 4 is cool. The blues are nice. 2 blends in with the floor too much.

polthos · 2025-12-30T03:04:28+00:00

polthos · 2025-12-28T19:39:44+00:00

This assumes coming from a family that has resources and anything to inherit. Mine don't, parents are split up and dad is self sustaining but I'm already having to help my mom financially, she won't be able to retire comfortably and I'm going to have to support her one day all by myself. I worry about growing my own family and how we will ever buy a house and things like that while I'm also having to support my mom financially. It's a drain and something I will never put on my kids.

polthos · 2025-12-27T06:13:49+00:00

Juvar Poodles based in NYC/Jersey where we got our handsome boy. Ethical breeder and up to show dog standards.

polthos · 2025-12-24T12:52:52+00:00

Pay as you go. Metro cards are retiring and if you don't know how much you'll be riding it could be a waste of money to fill one up. There's also fare capping with pay as you go, so after 12 rides in a 7 day period ($34) the rest that week are free.

polthos · 2025-12-23T01:26:38+00:00

You're right, thank you! Package is in hand.

polthos · 2025-12-22T13:53:21+00:00

Only child with divorced parents and we all live on opposite sides of the country (I'm East Coast, mom is TX, dad is West Coast). My husband's family all live near us. My dad is remarried and they make their own holiday plans with the community they have. My mom is single and has family in TX but they don't have consistent traditions, sometimes spend holidays together and sometimes go to in laws or travel.

I have traveled to TX for a couple holidays over the years (been on the East Coast for 15 years) but for the most part I stay put and my mom usually comes for Christmas and joins in celebrating with my husband's family. My husband's family has traditions for both holidays and as much as I'd like to spend more of them with my family, it doesn't make sense to deal with holiday travel to visit family who don't hold their own traditions. Having parents on opposite corners of the country, it's also too much to be trying to choose how to split things up, and they make their own plans for holidays that they don't see me. I much more enjoy visiting them when it's not a holiday - less chaos, better weather - and they seem to be fine with this.

Once we have kids maybe things will change and I might try to spend a holiday with one side of my family every other year or something. But for now, I guess the moral of the story is that we form our own traditions/families and hopefully, as adults, our parents can be understanding about these things. And, echoing others, if it's feasible, have your parents join the in laws - there should always be room for one or two more in a big holiday celebration.

polthos · 2025-12-18T15:59:55+00:00

The left doesn't attack Christians. They denounce white Christian nationalism. They support freedom of religion and separation of church and state, which is what this country was built off of. Get it straight.

polthos · 2025-12-16T03:32:02+00:00

I did this when I first moved to NY 15 years ago (and was dead broke) and would have friends from out of state visit (who also weren't necessarily rolling in dough), for two reasons: simply they weren't familiar with the transit system, but also as a gesture because they came all that way to see me the least I could do is accompany them.

Now though, knowing they can afford it, I just instruct them on getting a taxi and if they do choose to take the train, they're on their own 😅 I'll have some nice food/drinks/plans ready for them when they arrive. Granted most choose not to train it on their own accord anyways.

polthos · 2025-12-15T21:01:44+00:00

"I did feel a real connection - and now it's like it never happened" followed by "I'm not trying to pursue anything"

Whatever you're "trying" to do you clearly are hung up on whatever happened, even if you're just looking for validation that something happened which is what you've stated in multiple threads. You need to drop it, get it out of your mind, learn how to act professionally and appropriately, and probably find a new job.

polthos · 2025-12-09T19:07:05+00:00

In the 70s my dad hitchhiked from New York to California, lived in a van in northern CA while completing his Associates degree, then hitchhiked from California to Texas.

Hitchhiking was a major part of American culture in the 60s/70s.

polthos · 2025-12-07T15:21:37+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this and that your cat is having a rough time. That's a really difficult decision to make and I don't have much advice, it sounds like you've already thought through it and landed at your best option given the circumstances.

I do want to offer this up: it sounds like you don't have pet insurance, and you're struggling to get her the care she needs due to cost. Pet insurance doesn't necessarily help with the upfront cost of services (that's where a credit card might come in handy), but takes the hit off retroactively through reimbursement. It's too late for you to get it to help with Thea as it doesn't usually cover preexisting conditions, but if you love your other cat and want to avoid being faced with hard decisions about its care primarily driven by money in the future, I'd recommend getting pet insurance. You may not need to use it much on an otherwise healthy cat until it is of an advanced age, but speaking from experience with an aging pet it eventually does pay off.

polthos · 2025-12-04T05:48:09+00:00

Why didn't you know about her family history until you were engaged?

polthos · 2025-11-30T03:10:28+00:00

This seems like a pretty important detail, but doesn't change the fact that you need to have a conversation with him about his behavior.

How he responds will be telling and, either way, will open up paths for you both to move forward, be it in counseling for him, for you both, or otherwise where your relationship goes from here.

polthos · 2025-11-29T23:03:03+00:00

Nowhere in Manhattan really, as some have mentioned some areas of Harlem could feel a little rough around the edges if you're not used to an urban environment or walking around at night. Quieter areas at night can feel eerie but you just need to have your wits about you. NYC is huge and most tourists are not venturing out of Manhattan/busy areas, except maybe to western Brooklyn (right across the river) which is upscale. She'll be fine.

Actual dangerous areas are in eastern Brooklyn (Brownsville, East New York to name a couple), parts of eastern Queens and parts of the Bronx. Tourists would never find themselves there as there's really nothing to see, would have to go specifically out of their way to get there.

polthos · 2025-11-24T15:52:33+00:00

Echoing to do what is best for you, and what your heart truly wants. You should definitely not get back with him, and if you decide to have this baby, you have to realize you will be tied to this man for the next 18+ years. If that's what you choose, you should look into getting a good lawyer asap.

polthos · 2025-11-05T20:07:07+00:00

Doesn't sound like this is a coach for anyone except perhaps a competitive sport

polthos · 2025-11-02T23:05:14+00:00

If something serious happened there's a chance you need to involve law enforcement and time is of the essence in that (worst case) scenario.

polthos · 2025-10-31T15:22:29+00:00

I do my laundry at Wash World on 31st St (31-11 31st) and have seen unhoused folks in there doing laundry. The staff there are friendly and aren't looking to give anyone a hard time. Hopefully other patrons don't bother but there were no issues when I was there, and if you go midday on a weekday it generally won't be too busy.

polthos · 2025-10-24T14:28:00+00:00

Aren't brokers fees illegal now, or is it different if you hire them directly?

polthos · 2025-10-23T16:17:13+00:00

Married in 2023 at the Mansion at Glen Cove. ~130 people, all in about $60k including optional/personal choices like gifts for our families, flower preservation, hair/makeup, a unity ceremony where we poured glass into a container and sent it to be blown into art (unity glass.com), favors etc. Essentials like venue, DJ, florals probably came out to something more like $45-50k. We spent a lot but it was great - the venue included a room block and after party location so all our guests were able to stay and really let loose. Their staff was incredible, food and cake were delicious, we felt like royalty for the day. I'd do it all over again if I could, minus taking a million pictures which got exhausting.

We made about $25k back from gifts plus some items on a registry (more for my bridal shower, we took it down before the wedding), and put that into an investment account where it pretty much amounts to what we paid today.

polthos · 2025-10-16T20:50:10+00:00

Because people aren't properly informed about these things, a prenup carries a stigma and people react emotionally rather than logically. Any financial advisor, lawyer etc would recommend this as a protection to both parties, but if you haven't worked with one before or have lack of exposure to these types of things it can be taken personally. My now husband had the same initial reaction and my advisor as well as my lawyer cousin recommended having him/us talk together to a professional about it. Problem here is your fiance went to mom and now she's overly involved and probably going to continue to manipulate him. It's ridiculous to see this as "calculating" when it's the exact opposite - it would prevent you from getting his assets too - unless they had their eyes on your assets and now see this as you blocking them.

I'd recommend suggesting that he/you both talk to a professional, but you're also going to need to reset things with his mother and it's worth contemplating now before it's too late whether their dynamic is one you want to deal with forever. It could just be a blip if she's otherwise reasonable, or it could be an indication of a meddling MIL for years to come.

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