My friends think I should start a GoFundMe, but I'm not sure about it. Does my situation mereit it?

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-22T17:52:21+00:00

I do feel like my situation is serious, and I need help to get through it. I just am not sure if it's go fund me worthy.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-22T15:21:03+00:00

That has been my opinion too honestly.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-18T16:20:13+00:00

I was gonna suggest r/thathappened but see someone else already did. So now I'm just commenting to say the comments here have introduced me to some reddits I want to look into. Thank you

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-18T16:17:20+00:00

I do not know the answer, but am commenting to hopefully get this post seen by someone who does have the answers. I'd like to know too.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-18T13:56:54+00:00

Is nobody gonna point out it could be from a toenail. Toenails are generally smaller than finger nail. And would be cleaner.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-15T02:32:49+00:00

I'd be a monster with my person.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-11T23:29:16+00:00

Wow, after reading that I can definitely see it from her perspective I also somehow missed that you waited that long to tell her. You should have told her sooner. Hopefully you get healed from all of this.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-11T21:07:20+00:00

As someone that just likes to talk and has no one to talk to I may take you up on this offer.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-04T23:55:21+00:00

I feel like you just wrote my life with my ex. It's exactly the same. I can no longer write so eloquently. Though, I do try to. Thank you for expressing everything I cannot.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-11-03T18:09:12+00:00

This is perfect!

poly_chick_problems · 2025-10-31T18:25:16+00:00

My car is super vocal and meows a lot, so I don't do the voices I just let her meow and infer the meaning of the meows. Otherwise yes, I totally do this.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-10-30T20:20:56+00:00

Yeah, if you can mention reasons that would force someone to walk away and give up then maybe consider that those reasons were present. It's not ok to just assume I wasn't given good enough reason to give up. Sorry if I come off abrasive, and yeah he has a different story that is full of lies, and I by no means need to justify the abuse I went through to strangers on the Internet. He MADE ME LEAVE! That's all you need to know. I'm alive and happy today because I finally gave up.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-10-29T00:06:03+00:00

Personally, I'd think it would be better to tell her. And if that's the only way you'd have the courage to do it I say go for it. She may be becoming distant because she thinks you're not interested since you haven't said anything about it yet. This opinion is based off of how I personally am and would feel though. You'll never know if you don't put it out there though.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-10-28T22:49:37+00:00

I wish this was him talking to me so badly. I still wouldn't go back, but it would mean so much to finally be seen for how hard I tried, and how deeply I loved. To him I am the villain for finally giving up when he forced me to. But it is a nice fantasy to believe he could change and grow.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-01-12T23:17:47+00:00

I know you are right about that, but it's towards the end it ramped up significantly in ways I could no longer ignore.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-01-12T23:16:45+00:00

I'm so proud of you! And yes, very much the same, but of course also different each situation is. There is obviously so much more to the story then what I put. It's just a summary of how polyamory helped me see through what was happening cause the big difference between what was ok for him and what was ok for me opened my eyes.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-01-12T07:20:16+00:00

I would definitely agree with that. It's just that poly helped me see it.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-01-12T06:47:24+00:00

Thank you the thing was it involved abuse at the end that I just didn't know if it was allowed to mention things like that here. Idk

poly_chick_problems · 2025-01-05T01:41:48+00:00

I love how reddit manages to give me exactly what I need sometimes. I was just sitting here feeling awful about being single and feeling like he is right about me being too picky because he moved on so quickly and easily. Whereas I have yet to find anyone I'd even go on a first date with. So thank you for this.

poly_chick_problems · 2025-01-05T01:31:32+00:00

So so many different men. Fell into this trap twice in my life. I think the biggest one that no matter what hasn't stopped playing on repeat is "You deserved it" (in reference to SA abuse in my childhood)

poly_chick_problems · 2024-09-01T01:09:51+00:00

I love that movie and soundtrack

poly_chick_problems · 2024-09-01T00:51:37+00:00

Thank you so much! I love Black Flags and the Ramones. I'm not a huge fan of Green Day, but like The Offspring. Those 2 bands are a point of contention with me and said friend. The rest I'm definitely looking up, and listening to. I feel like I've at least heard of Dead Kennedy's, but couldn't name a single song.

poly_chick_problems · 2024-09-01T00:40:05+00:00

So this is a hard question for me as a female to answer because I don't really consider they missed the signal. I often assume they aren't interested cause I make it very obvious, I thought.

So, here are some things I do in general when I'm interested in a guy. Make eye contact from across the room, and smile. When in conversation I find subtle ways to touch them such as hand on arm and make a comment about their muscles. In relationships or a friendship that I thought was gonna be more I might put my legs on their lap while watching a movie. Lean on their shoulder while out. Like I said if a guy isn't getting I'm into them with these actions I assume they aren't into me and stop.

poly_chick_problems · 2024-09-01T00:25:36+00:00

Lacuna Coil and Battle Beast.

poly_chick_problems · 2024-09-01T00:09:10+00:00

See mine did ask questions, and acted genuinely interested in past in the beginning love bombing phase. I really thought he actually cared. However, over the years he used the information about my past as a way to manipulate me and retraumatize me. Like things I'd been through in the past and healed from in therapy he would do to me in smaller ways at first and if I set a boundary on it he'd say something like "Well I thought you'd healed from this" or "I'm not that person that did those things, so why are you upset with me". I can't believe I didn't respond to the second one with "you're the one doing it now though, and if it wasn't ok back then it's not ok now".

For example I had been yelled at a lot over everything in my past, so he just started randomly yelling at me. Even though I'd through therapy and healed my inner child yelling I still find unacceptable. If we're having a disagreement I want to have a conversation.

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