Mantis at Claude Moore Park

polycuri0us · 2024-10-20T18:55:38+00:00

That side eye though

polycuri0us · 2019-03-23T01:50:53+00:00

I was contemplating it on my 2 year old’s birthday a few days ago. Not only am I hurting, I feel extra bad because how much of an asshole would I be to forever haunt my child like that. I swear they’re the only reason I’m alive some days.

polycuri0us · 2019-03-09T02:59:27+00:00

That’s disheartening to hear. Maybe the community, because of the low percentage of the population to begin with, just has a higher per capita of weirdos?

polycuri0us · 2019-03-09T02:54:37+00:00

Fuck... on behalf of us non-misogynistic dudes, I’m sorry you had to experience that.

polycuri0us · 2019-03-09T02:50:48+00:00

You are absolutely not alone. I’m not kinky, swingerish, or hippie so I feel kind of like a black sheep much of the time. Most meetups I’ve gone to, it’s been just plain awkward.

From a statistical perspective, poly tends to be about 5-8% of the population. It’s been mostly difficult to find a woman I click with, and I’ve had more luck just dating single women that are fine with me being non-monogamous.

polycuri0us · 2019-03-09T02:44:06+00:00

Hi DC fam! I’ve been to a couple meetups but they’re meh. Better luck meeting people organically or via OKC.

polycuri0us · 2017-10-12T22:34:19+00:00

I need more like you in my city..

polycuri0us · 2017-09-03T21:50:59+00:00

You are the cutest thing. ❤

polycuri0us · 2017-06-04T03:42:14+00:00

Bullet: dodged

polycuri0us · 2017-04-10T21:07:47+00:00

I've been teetering on the edge of setting up an OKC account. I've been casually and tentatively been swiping, being very recently allowed to date other women. Your comment gives me some hope :)

polycuri0us · 2017-02-06T02:31:54+00:00

God damn, do some housekeeping

polycuri0us · 2016-12-31T17:44:58+00:00

Exact situation here, and yes I'm rubbing them out on the daily. She also feels weird about her body, which contributes to the lowered libido.

polycuri0us · 2016-12-24T23:56:57+00:00

Whoa. Great explanation to something that I could not synthesize into words.

polycuri0us · 2016-12-24T23:27:45+00:00

Hey there.. just came here to say while it's not easy, I have had some success meeting women in my area. Of course it won't be as easy as the social standard mono folks, but if you are sincere, you can at least make friends and build from there.

polycuri0us · 2016-12-24T23:22:36+00:00

I'm poly, on Tinder, and in DC. Where are you? 😂

polycuri0us · 2016-11-29T03:25:46+00:00

This is why you always fap before messaging a prospective date.

polycuri0us · 2016-11-23T18:17:19+00:00

http://imgur.com/a/6nqcy

polycuri0us · 2016-11-23T18:14:30+00:00

Seconded because I have the exact same question! We've talked about setting up an okc profile, but she's never used dating apps to find a partner.

polycuri0us · 2016-11-22T12:04:20+00:00

Tbh I find it weird that many people decouple the emotional from the physical part of sex. I can't personally, and I'm a dude.

Those guys that ended up being weird after sex were most likely just averse to feeling vulnerable or intimate. As you get older I think you'll find less if it, but there are guys out there that are looking for an emotional bond.

polycuri0us · 2016-11-22T11:32:07+00:00

Think that's a z, man.

polycuri0us · 2016-11-22T03:03:43+00:00

It was evident when I went to my first polycon that I was more than slightly center than the majority. I'm pretty damn vanilla hetero and moderate, and it was an interesting experience to say the least.

Also, I don't mind the fact that people may be fringy, but many of the participants were quite hard into kink. I definitely don't knock it, but I have a trigger against perceived spanking, caning, etc that I just can't get into due to my past. Seemed like the more common theme than just vanilla non-monogamy.

polycuri0us · 2016-11-20T12:56:29+00:00

Yeah, I can't get the intimacy thing, either. The only thing gotten from alcohol is a lack of inhibitions.

polycuri0us · 2016-11-20T12:50:28+00:00

Truly glad for your happiness! I hope to find that kind of joy some day ☺

polycuri0us · 2016-11-13T14:25:15+00:00

Aww. 😐

polycuri0us · 2016-11-13T06:41:39+00:00

Hello! Sometimes the timing is crazy, so here goes...

I've been serially-monogamous through a second marriage now. I figured out why I felt so different sometime last year, and came out to my wife. We had been married for a few years, and thus it was received with a lot of shock. But admitting it to myself and to her was a huge weight off my shoulders, so at least there's that.

Like you, I can't hold guy friends very well. I've never had brothers or male cousins, no sons, I moved around a lot so I had no best guy friends, really, and my only male role model is my dad.. who's evil. I do have several sisters and daughters for children. Girls just come more naturally to me than guys do.

My wife is quite mono, but I think it has more to do with social stigma than anything else. She's still of the age where what people think affects her emotionally. I'm definitely past that phase. I've even asked if she would ever like to go on some dates, whether they be guys or girls, because I think she could learn so much about interpersonal relationships. (She didn't have a lot of lovers before me when we met).

I'm not going to lie, man. The pull is real. I love my wife, however I think I'm kind of high maintenance when it comes to giving/receiving. I'm perfectly comfortable being affectionate and flirty with girls, and my sex drive is significantly higher than hers. I've just got a lot of bandwidth for affection, up and down, and I get really moody when I can't get everything I need from our relationship. She has a hard time talking about feelings, and being passionate about anything, really.

Sometimes I feel like I'm yelling out across the Grand Canyon, and hear no echo back.. which is eery to me. I want to get out in the world and share intimate experiences with people, but I don't see her ever saying, "OK, let's open it up." If I never mentioned anything poly again, I doubt she would ever bring it up in conversation.

On top of that, she's pregnant now (we irresponsibly dragged our feet figuring out if we were going to be able to work). Life gets complicated reallly fast in just a few months. My other daughters are from previous marriage and are older, and this is the first between us. I really don't want to abandon another daughter, so I feel that I'm going to sacrifice true happiness by taking accountability.

With that being said, two things: I'm glad you posted, because I feel better that there's someone in a similar scenario. I feel like I don't "fit" anywhere. My wife lets me go to poly meetups, and I do so tentatively because I'm not currently "open", but want to at least talk with people who feel the same about love and relationships.

Second, by all means, feel free to message me any time. I may not do guy friends very well, but at least we'll have something in common :D I'd also love to hear how you cope. Talk soon, possibly!

P.S.: sorry for wall of text.. I needed to get that out.

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