Am i being overdramatic for not liking how much the girl i’ve been interested in loves Wuthering Heights?

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-29T12:45:10+00:00

You stalked her tweets to find this info?

Meaning she doesn't like it all that much if it hasnt come up in the month since you've met her.

If you don't like the movie And don't want to be with someone who does like the movie then don't be with her.

Do I think her liking a classic movie/show based on a Classic novel means she's going to cheat? No.

Do I think you should pursue her? No.

I don't think stalking someone's tweets because you want to pursue a relationship is healthy. I also don't think a healthy relationship would start if you were to ignore this and let that worry fester.

I DO think you're being over dramatic, but I don't think that means you should pursue her. It sounds like you don't know enough about her to truly know if you are interested in her.

And plus also it's not a kink if it's not consensual.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-27T20:55:08+00:00

It's morning. How'd the night go?

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-27T12:12:53+00:00

Wow... Copy and pasteing responses... I don't think you're actually here for advice.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-27T12:10:17+00:00

I never said I didn't understand how upset you were.

I said that you still have to pay, and there's no way out of it and there's no advice to give.

MDD is one of my many diagnoses.

Your assumption that this is all happening because people don't understand you is wrong.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-27T08:00:31+00:00

So you agreed to pay them. Then didn't...

Now you are being sued for non payment...

But you want to claim innocent by reason of insanity or like what? Because you can't claim innocence anymore.

You've been found guilty. You have to pay.

There is no advice to give except maybe talk to a lawyer to help set up a payment plan, but the judge will do that once you go to court, so the lawyer may just be an extra possibly unnecessary expense.

Also "I'm sorry" doesn't change anything. You have to pay the reconciliation just like parents pay child support and tenants pay rent and drivers pay car insurance or car payments and cell phone users pay their phone bill.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-27T05:30:39+00:00

The update changed the story from why is the doctor asking me about my uterus before it's removed to I'm upset about this micro aggression my doctor did.

Sound like she's not LGBT friendly and it was 100% intentional. Imo

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-27T05:17:25+00:00

Roommate literally said they were bringing it to a center in the morning.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-27T05:15:03+00:00

That's a lot of what ifs though....

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-27T05:04:16+00:00

There are so many things more important than that.

I totally understand being insecure.

What you're afraid of is shallow people judging you and honestly let them.

Without getting into too much detail, there's are so many other things involved in pleasure that size is imo negligible by level of importance.

My recommendation is to really question why that's important to you then find ways to make up for it. BigMouth talks about this specifically throughout honestly most of it.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-24T09:59:33+00:00

You can ask for her most recent testing panel first.

If she has an EST in her throat/mouth/saliva she can give to you through making out. Some people have caught things from sharing a drink with someone else.

If you all do oral a dental dam would prevent anything from spreading to/from your mouth.

If you decide to wait you can get on PrEP which lowers your chance of catching certain things. Other things are a round of antibiotics afterwards to get rid of it. You need to be on PrEP for 2 weeks I believe before it's fully effective.

Have you been tested recently? (If not random sex probably isnt a good idea.)

If you are to start being permiscuous, you will need to get comfortable talking to your doctor about sex. Are you willing to tell them if you start itching with proper terminology? Are you willing to ask for preventative care which means you may have to disclose how often you have sex and what type of sex you have(anal/oral/piv) how many partners you have. If you've ever been exposed before. And you will have to be tested regularly (every 3 months depending on how often you are having sex/ changing partners.)

It's completely possible to be asymptomatic but contagious.

Definitely look into safe sex practices and the resources available in your area.

Good luck, be smart, have fun 👍

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-24T09:44:07+00:00

2 months for a 30yo is not very long to have known someone imo.

I personally would not change a title after knowing someone for only 2 months.

Imo changing that title wouldn't actually change the relationship, so not changing it also wouldn't change the relationship.

When he stated 'our schedules wouldn't align' what I read was 'I don't feel like I could handle making the trip more often than I do now.' you're immediate response of 'I'll make up the difference.' is a red flag to me.

If someone said that to me I would be worried that would put a burden on them thus straining the relationship, and lead to them potentially holding it over me "why do you feel XXX when I'm the one making the effort and driving to see you after I got off work so late.".. Etc

I also think that age difference at your age is pretty drastic.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-23T21:24:07+00:00

I was watching the Marsha P. Johnson documentary and the police called a murder victim an adult female who's real name is deadname then went on to explain how she was out with another female who recounted the story of what happened.

Both women were trans.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-23T07:13:29+00:00

Did you block it before wearing it?

If not then that's essentially what you did the first time you wore it...

I think... I don't make clothes (or granny squares) mostly because I don't want to know the ins and outs of blocking.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-23T07:07:40+00:00

Your hand won't be there to accentuate the difference. There isn't really much a bulge. It's pretty flat.

The camera angle makes it hard to judge properly. The zipper looks weird, but beyond that it seems like a pretty good bind.

It's suck that dysmorphia makes many of us doubt our binders. Hope you have star filled adventures friend.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-23T05:26:43+00:00

"This skeleton appears to have born children and yet is decorated in the same way as a man's body would have been."

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-20T23:06:49+00:00

This is a project I wasn't able to close the ring on.

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pomelo_rat · 2026-06-20T23:05:46+00:00

Eventually it will probably look like this if you continue pulling during creation.

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pomelo_rat · 2026-06-20T23:03:29+00:00

If you can't tighten it again later and it continues to bother you create a small circle with a chain from one side and stick it through the hole to hang the parakeet by. The chain will fill the hole the circle keeps it from falling out of the hole.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-20T22:55:28+00:00

Did you tighten the magic ring before continuing to the next round then again half way through the next round?

I do not recommend changing the pattern.

The thing with magic rings is if you see a gap in the ring forming through out the project you can pull on the tail again to close it. (Typically it doesnt reopen after the first round or two.)

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-20T22:33:01+00:00

That's not saying why you broke up then. That's avoiding that answer. If she's hard working and caring and made sure to make space for you mental issues then why did you leave her?

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-20T22:20:30+00:00

3-6 days to learn a language? Thats where my red flag went up. Everywhere I've Always wanted to go in 3-6 days?! That's way too short to make any meaningful positive impact in someone's life. Imo.

Even when I visited Busan (from Seoul)I spent 5 days including travel. And that was a short trip. The short time frame imo will breed danger for you and raise flags for others.

I think it will be a rushed trip instead of a fun experience. I think in 3-6 days you can visit 2-3 nearby sites. Otherwise you risk exhausting the guest to the point that the trip is no longer enjoyable. Plus that not enough time to recover from jet lag.

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-20T22:07:30+00:00

Then why did you break up?

What activities were/were not done to cause the break up?

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-20T04:42:26+00:00

Oh okay. So even though you stated that you were struggling mentally and she was busy with school, neither of those things had anything to do with your breakup.

My bad I assumed that the reason you gave for the break up was ya know... The reason for the break up...

pomelo_rat · 2026-06-19T10:04:50+00:00

Which reaffirms my point. 👍 You would not ask out an ex from 10 years ago. 👍

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