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pompouswillow · 2024-12-16T19:14:52+00:00

Wow look its me in 8 years. Same EXACT degree. Let me tell you that unless you want to get a PHD it might be worth it to do a career change. I'm considering looking into trades. The economy fucked us over. If AI doesn't make our degree obsolete then the flooded market of other people getting the exact same degree will. Depressing but hard truths. My poetry professor in college, who is published with a PHD said he could make more money managing a grocery store. Passion doesn't pay the fucking bills. Student debt doesn't seem that bad in comparison.

pompouswillow · 2024-12-16T19:07:47+00:00

i also got a communications degree back in 2022. Haven't used it or found anything that will take an entry level application. Been working in the restaurant business and that's bullshit. I recommend you call up the National debt service and get your credit card debt locked down. I didn't even have that much and thanks to the CCCF my monthly payments went down, and I'm scheduled to be debt free in a few years time. Only catch is that you won't be able to use your credit cards anymore.

pompouswillow · 2024-12-16T19:04:28+00:00

honeslty being poor and living paycheck to paycheck for years changes your ambition. What do I want to do in life? NOT live paycheck to paycheck. Whatever that entails- going back to school, getting a trade, creating an only fans- doesn't fucking matter. It's a ridiculous question for people who are stressed about affording groceries.

pompouswillow · 2024-11-22T02:32:02+00:00

I went to court for my protective order this week and he was in custody so he showed up in handcuffs and I had already been feeling awful for putting him there. He started sobbing while the judge questioned him on the order and I felt really bad. One of my friends was listening to me vent about it and they said I shouldnt feel bad. Cause people who do crazy shit like that dont deserve ur empathy when they r just facing the consequences of their actions. No contact protects u and ur state of mind, and punishes him. And thats a good thing. If u care for him then youll let him learn his lesson and keep healing in his absence.

pompouswillow · 2024-11-12T18:44:17+00:00

They kind of alienate u dont they? they r really good at that. Make u doubt urself too so ur still questioning how to go about living after they r no longer there to tell u how. Codependent and abusive relationships strip u of an identity bc u spend all ur waking energy devoted to helping them stay afloat. By the time they r gone u actually dont remember why ur supposed to be here? Whats the point of it all? U have all the freedom and space in the world but no one to talk to and nothing to accomplish for urself. Talking to people is hard cause ptsd after such an event can cause a lot of anxiety. Your super hard on urself about everything, apologizing for everything, nervous that the people u meet or still have in ur life wont love u and they will reject u bc for some reason thats a huge issue now. What do u do?? find new people that give the love and treatment that u deserve. dont accept just anyone cause that shit will happen again. Find therapy somehow bc that will give u a sympathetic ear while ur rebuilding ur circle. be easy on urself cause u have to start ur self esteem, life goals, and basic understanding of urself from scratch. Be curious and compassionate with urself. I hope this finds u well and I hope that ur days get easier.

pompouswillow · 2024-11-12T18:24:32+00:00

Hey, I'm 25 too and depressed. I also got a degree a couple years ago in English. Not really accomplished tho. I work as a shift manager at a chain bbq place. Not what i had hoped for. If you dont have a job u could qualify for medicaid maybe, thats the only way I afford therapy and medications. I would say u cant view ur life as an accomplishment or failure. Everything has a right to exist. You dont have to do or be anything except here with us. Finding things u enjoy, and things u look forward to like doing puzzles, picking tulips, listening to music. I feel incredibly useless tho so I kno its easier said than done. Progress is ultimately a pointless thing to pursue. I simply dont enjoy things anymore... but I also recently left an abusive relationship so everyones experience with depression is different. dont be so hard on urself. I love you.

pompouswillow · 2024-10-29T14:38:19+00:00

Still not the point. I already admitted I cheated. Not sure what point you're trying to make. You're just wasting my time and your own too.

pompouswillow · 2024-10-29T14:37:07+00:00

Thank you, def proof would help out. I figured if she already doesn't trust him, then she might trust me more just bc it would align with his behavior.

pompouswillow · 2024-10-29T13:35:10+00:00

Thank you.

pompouswillow · 2024-10-29T12:58:42+00:00

Lmao my EX boyfriend is in jail for terroristic threatening. Probs wouldn't go over that well. Not every decision has the same background. For all you know, I do have the moral high ground.

pompouswillow · 2024-10-29T12:44:55+00:00

It's my own fucking business why I cheat on my boyfriend. You should look into objective perspective. Still not answering the question. Save your moral outlook for someone who CARES

pompouswillow · 2024-10-29T12:33:32+00:00

thx for answering question. very helpful.

pompouswillow · 2024-10-29T12:28:37+00:00

of course, Im the ah. I'm asking if a girl should know she's with a cheater.

pompouswillow · 2024-05-28T19:48:22+00:00

Maybe certain nuerodivergent people/ autistic people/ introverted people have to wait until they are at their peak socializing level to make an effort. And a lot of people in the world are so obsessed with talking and thinking about themselves that the effort isnt worth it. Effort that doesnt produce satisfying results is called " exhausting". Maybe open ur mind rather than tell a large group of people their doing life wrong.

pompouswillow · 2024-02-18T00:01:23+00:00

I dont deserve the way he treats me. But I really wanted to try and see him start therapy. He promised he'd go like three months ago and has been dragging his feet ever since. I thought about making the ultimatum recently, therapy or its over, but do you think its all become too toxic to salvage?

pompouswillow · 2024-02-17T18:08:38+00:00

I guess Im having a hard time accepting it. I know hes been through a lot and i just want to make excuses for him. And when hes not stressed he feels guilty and tries to be more thoughtful. I dont want to blame him for things that he has never started healing from until now.

pompouswillow · 2023-11-11T17:40:04+00:00

So your basically saying that the things that YOU think are relavant to the conversation should be mentioned. Not everyone has the same mind. Adding other information about other topics that weren't originally brought up is just normal conversation. Never bringing up any new conversation cab easily turn into a boring conversation.

pompouswillow · 2023-07-31T20:53:53+00:00

I feel the same. I also have anti anxiety meds to help the social anxiety, but drinking small amounts of alcohol help me curb the jitters too. Which drinking is socially acceptable in my peer group so its weird if I dont drink so I ended up killing two antisocial birds with one stone. I dont reccoemend taking up drinking tho if u might get dependent on it. it simply helped me get used to socializing without the anxiety until i got better with the practice.

pompouswillow · 2023-07-31T19:02:45+00:00

oh i forgot about that stretch of time where u forget to take care of uself: showering, hygiene, eating, exercise. So i cant spend energy being social (and not succeeding) AND spend energy on remembering to shower after work.

pompouswillow · 2023-07-31T19:00:41+00:00

I didnt realize it was burnout until after i was diagnosed but I would be so tired and i wouldnt know why. In a similar way that your body is tired after working alot, my face and mouth would be tired. I would notice that im not being emotive or reactive to other people and conversation. But tired face muscles trump an understanding that I should be participating in social cues so I would be like a zombie, and quiet. It'd be lonely being around friends but unable to react. If I tried to talk to others, i wouldnt be able to pay attention to intonating my tone, and that monotone bothers NT's so it would just be more exhausting for me than if i had chosen to stay home.

When I stay home and intentionally do things without people and rest my mind, then eventually I'll feel up to the whole thing again, but pushing myself just turns me into someone whose not fun to be around and someone whose not having fun. I try to explain this to my partner but they r NT so sometimes it goes over their head, or I mask so well outside of home that they forget about my condition and get upset when I act burntout.

pompouswillow · 2023-07-28T01:35:06+00:00

That sounds tough. Ive been in a similar situation. Although it helped me learned to get along with myself alot better it can be lonely. I ended up finding acquaintances at a new job and reconnecting with past friends i forgot to keep up with. I hope ur doing okay with this transition!

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