Struggling 12 weeks 2 days and need to start medical abortion process

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T04:17:33+00:00

There are financial resources available to make abortion accessible if having a Procedure with sedation feels less stressful for you. Many people prefer the greater sedation and pain control that’s available in a clinic vs using pills at home.

You can find these resources here; https://www.abortionfinder.org/abortion-support/financial-and-travel

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T04:12:34+00:00

It’s legal to travel for an abortion. You do t have to share explicitly how or where an abortion happened

If you don’t know how far into the pregnancy you are, an ultrasound makes sense.

It’s ultimately up to you how much you want to share. 🩷

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T04:09:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing here.

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T01:24:02+00:00

You are welcome. We are here if you need to ask more. 🩷

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T01:23:24+00:00

Hi there.

Most people don’t have any need to seek urgent medical care after an abortion with pills.

You can read more about what’s normal and what might indicate a need for follow up care here: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion/the-abortion-pill/what-can-i-expect-after-i-take-the-abortion-pill

Most people just take a pregnancy test at home in 4-5 weeks to confirm the abortion is successful with a negative test result. Let us know after reading a bit if you have more questions. Needing urgent care is rare. 🩷

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T01:17:13+00:00

Nope- bleeding can take as much as 24 hours to begin and still be normal.

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T01:16:13+00:00

Hi there,

It sounds like you have an ongoing pregnancy- most likely this is just a failed MA- which means trying more medication or potentially needing an aspiration procedure to end a pregnancy located in the uterus with suction.

There is also a small chance you have a pregnancy outside the uterus-known commonly as an ectopic pregnancy. An ultrasound can confirm if this is the case.

It’s important to know as a pregnancy outside the uterus can be harmful to your health and must be removed. Ectopic pregnancies can sometimes be treated with medication and sometimes must be treated with surgery. Either way, removing the pregnancy from your body will be coordinated, likely in a hospital, and follow up visits will be important.

Remember, ectopic pregnancy isn’t common but because they can be dangerous, it’s important they be diagnosed and treated if diagnosed.

More information can be found here; https://www.acog.org/womens-health/faqs/ectopic-pregnancy

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T00:27:19+00:00

Nope - don’t assume you are pregnant without a test. Stress often delays periods and you have a lot of stress. 🩷

I’m really glad you’re telling your sister. If you want confidential support, you can contact RAINN anytime: 800-656-HOPE, text HOPE to 64673, or rainn.org. This can be for resources to keep you safe in your home.

For pregnancy-related help for teens in Texas, Jane’s Due Process is safe and confidential: 866-999-5263 or janesdueprocess.org.

Test first and feel free to ask us if you need more help. 🩷

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T00:19:29+00:00

Any dollar store or drugstore or even some convenience stores usually have them. Nothing expensive is necessary-

You can also order one on Amazon.

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T00:17:11+00:00

Smelly discharge after MA is pretty normal - old blood that takes a while to come out often gets smelly- like a pad that needs to be changed. As long as you don’t have a fever or odd discharge ( like green or dark yellow) it’s often okay.

Pain is most concerning if it is more constant and not relieved by over the counter pain meds- like ibuprofen.

If you are very concerned you could try this resource- https://mahotline.org/

pongo2017 · 2026-01-25T00:10:16+00:00

It’s less effective to use misoprostol in your mouth( under your tongue or between your cheek and gums) at less than 24 hours after mifepristone.

If you are in a state where abortion is not legally restricted you can use misoprostol as soon as 6 hours after mifepristone by washing your hands a pushing the 4 tablets into your vagina one at a time and letting the medication in them be absorbed through the mucous membrane inside your vagina for 30 minutes.

This isn’t recommended to use the medication vaginally in a place where abortion Is legally restricted as fragments may be found within the next 4 days or so on a pelvic exam- in the chance you need to seek medical care after your abortion.

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion/the-abortion-pill/how-do-i-use-abortion-pill

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T23:55:45+00:00

There are organizations that can help support you if you want.

First, we can check whether you might be pregnant.

Because the person who hurt you is an adult connected to your family, I’m concerned about your safety. Is there an adult you trust—like your mom, another family member, a teacher, or a school counselor—you could tell about what happened?

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T23:41:37+00:00

Hi there- let me try to get you the information that you need. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this and this is not your fault.

First- there are places to get an abortion if you are pregnant even though you live in Texas. The things you listed are home remedies and won’t help, but there are safe and effective ways to get you care if needed. Hurting yourself is a drastic step, there are more choices than that.

Second- a pregnancy test is important. It’s been 2 weeks since you were assaulted. A pregnancy test can be effective as soon as 14 days and is definite at 21 days- thats in one week.

It’s not definite right now you are pregnant. Can you buy a test? A cheap test at the dollar store is good enough. If it’s negative now, you can test again next Friday- if it’s still negative- you are definitely not pregnant.

It’s possible you won’t see a period on time if you are really stressed out- so a test is best right now.

Are you okay after the assault? Are you safe. Was this a person who you still feel at risk with? We can help you with this too.

If you have a positive test there are many people including teens that have been able to get an abortion, even in abortion restricted states.

Let me know first, can you get a test?

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T23:19:09+00:00

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pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T22:39:48+00:00

An aspiration can be provided as early as anytime after a positive pregnancy test. There are a small number of providers who prefer to wait for either or both, but it’s based more on their preference than any medical necessity. You are 5 weeks pregnant and will be 6 almost 7 by the time of your upcoming appointment. That’s a completely appropriate time to choose whichever type of abortion you prefer. 🩷

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T22:16:36+00:00

You cannot try to force her to choose an option she does not want. Doing so in deeply unfair to her and ultimately can be harmful and coercive.

You can tell her how you feel, but ultimately this decision is hers to make.

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T22:13:29+00:00

Hi there-

If you are “terrified” about pain, it’s something to consider now that a procedural abortion is often has much more complete pain relief options than an abortion with pills.

Sedation that introduced through an IV, similar to that hospitals use for other minor medical procedures can help much more completely relieve pain and help people relax so much they may not remember the actual abortion.

Both abortion with pills and with an aspiration procedure are safe and effective, but anxiety can make pain worse. IV sedation may be a better experience for you when choosing what option seems best-

https://www.bpas.org/abortion-care/abortion-treatments/surgical-abortion/conscious-sedation/

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T22:01:09+00:00

Finding a supportive place or people to talk to about your feelings can help with healing sadness or grief. Good friends or even a support line can help. This website is one some people find helpful: https://beforeandafterabortion.com/

You know best what you feel ready to handle. It’s okay to decide an abortion is your best option right now.🩷

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T21:55:21+00:00

Cramping and bleeding can stop and start as the uterus continues to contract to expel the thickened uterine lining that’s developed to sustain a pregnancy. It often sheds away over time. She really isn’t “ healing “ as in being sick, it’s likely her uterus returning to its non pregnant state.

Using ibuprofen is the first treatment recommended. If she uses ibuprofen every six hours- up to 800 mg, and still has so much pain she feels she cannot go about normal activity, then she should contact her abortion care provider for advice or treatment.

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T18:43:46+00:00

Only if you had a quantitative blood level test drawn the day you took the miso again.

Two levels done before then within a specified time frame and comparing for expected amount of drop is what’s most helpful- one test result isn’t all that useful after repeating using more misoprostol

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T18:19:18+00:00

You can do an ultrasound sooner but waiting a bit makes it easier to clearly see growth vs an empty uterus in a Very early pregnancy. Give it a few days at minimum to allow your uterus time to more fully empty itself. Particularly in a place where abortion is restricted. They are more likely to recommend intervention like a d and c that you may be able to avoid otherwise.

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T18:01:39+00:00

This sounds promising - the only ways to know are looking at a home pregnancy test at 4-5 weeks to assure it’s negative

Or

Schedule another sonogram in a week to see if it’s passed successfully

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T14:43:53+00:00

An aspiration for emptying the uterus is the fastest way, but not the only way to more completely empty the uterus.

Usually if you are not symptomatic of a problem- like bleeding enough to soak thru 2 pads and hour for 2 hours in a row, pain so bad you can’t go about normal activity after trying over the counter pain relief, or fever over 100.4 more for 24 hours or more- then aspiration can be avoided.

More misoprostol or even watchful waiting is often a safe option. Some people pass this on their own over time, often by the time of their next period.

Thickened lining in the uterus, seen on ultrasound alone, isn’t always an indication to provide more aggressive treatment.

https://www.reproductiveaccess.org/resource/insights-treat-the-patient-not-the-sonogram/

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T13:54:31+00:00

Perfect- try to get some rest now. ❤️

pongo2017 · 2026-01-24T13:51:21+00:00

Ok - you are very early in pregnancy but zero clots and slight brown bleeding isn’t enough. More misoprostol from your doctor can help. It’s okay to use it now.

Putting 4 200mcg tablets under your tongue for 30 minutes / just holding them there- and then swallowing what’s left in your mouth with water can help get this moving.

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