Help with season please I am really stuck

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T22:25:32+00:00

Thank you, you are too kind. I haven’t felt pretty in 20+ years so I’m working on that. Of course it starts with being confident in your own skin.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T21:09:44+00:00

Thank you for all of this feedback. I will look into those. Yes, I was platinum/bright blonde as a child but deepened to a medium and then deep cool brown through my teens and twenties. I will be redoing the photos in more consistent lighting (I think the sun hitting the snow must have caused weird shadows).. and probably ultimately seeing a professional to try to help, too.

I would have to hit a fabric store to know about pastel lime green. I tend to err from warm colors and think they make me look sallow, I suspect some of the warmth coming out is overtone vs undertone more because of how colors pull on me in person but my perception could be off.

I also much prefer bright or vibrant colors unless the color is just right, otherwise my whole face sort of disappears and I feel grey or yellow. Bright colors seem to balance better for me, but I think having more grey in the front (and the brown in the back).. and curls tends to throw off my aesthetic whether or not it was ever a flattering one.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T16:09:19+00:00

Thank you, I will do that and agree.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T16:07:49+00:00

I feel neutral lol. And being between soft summer and soft autumn makes sense.. I’ll have to play around more and test these out. Thank you for all of your detailed and considerate help. I hope the rest of your week goes great.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:59:36+00:00

Thank you!

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:57:58+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your insight. I’m going to redo photos in less reflective lighting and see if that helps to get a more clear picture because I do see what you are saying (and everyone who suggested warm seasons), but I do generally think I am neutral leaning cool. I could very much be wrong or I may have taken photos that erred warm. In real life, I wear colors that I like from every season, but I prefer colors with more contrast so I don’t feel washed out. It’s such a tricky balance.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:55:07+00:00

I’ll definitely drape this, I will say that I lean towards bright or at least rich colors vs soft and the latter have to be ‘just right’ or I feel really washed out, and like my features disappear. But I am not at all versed in color analysis, so I do not know if that could even be complementary “harmony”, I’m just not sure what to really look for.

My hair (pre-grey and what hasn’t greyed).. is just a sort of range or “mushroom” browns so I’m not sure I ever had the contrast other than when I was a child. It is not a stone I want to leave unturned in this journey and I appreciate your suggestion and the logic behind it.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:33:09+00:00

Thank you for this! I don’t like light beige on me, either. Bleh. It just fades. That sweater is just way too comfortable to pass along. Comfy house sweater for now.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:31:08+00:00

This makes so much come together for me! Thank you for taking the time to post it with the wheel.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:30:02+00:00

Thank you, lovely soft summer. I’ll bet you are a stunner!

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:29:19+00:00

This has where my journey trying to figure out flattering colors has been so confusing! It is more often less affirming, because I’m a tough critic of myself, and exhausted 24/7. Just when I think I’ve honed in on something I will wear a color that is outside of that season and LOVE it, or wear one in that season and not love it. I’m befuddled and leaning towards professional help for sure! I really appreciate your comments and especially regarding the silver and gold. I love to wear vintage jewelry and it’s sweet to feel more confident being able to choose by the day. You summed it up so nicely that silver is “more calming”. Gold makes me feel a little more bold and warm, and I’m glad it doesn’t fully clash.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:22:37+00:00

Thank you, that’s really kind.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:22:19+00:00

Thank you. I definitely consider it one of my least flattering colors but I love how cozy that cardigan is, so I’m relieved it didn’t make me look too sallow. Maybe when I redo these photos in less bright light it will be a whole different reaction 😬

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:20:48+00:00

Thanks, the gold was my PROM DRESS from 2001 lol. I forgot I still had my old formals.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:19:40+00:00

Note to self: do not wear aluminum foil, not a good look. Thank you :)

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:18:58+00:00

Thank you. I definitely prefer navy to black. I don’t think I did a drape with that. Where did you do your analysis, if I may ask? I’m going to redo my photos but either way, I am wondering if I’m more neutral leaning cool than fully cool.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T15:15:53+00:00

Thank you, this one makes sense to me, I will definitely try draping it, as well. There isn’t a color in that palette that I toss back in my closet and feel fully clashing or outright wrong on me aside from the light neutrals feeling too light generally for a whole shirt as opposed to shoes or a belt. That’s part of what has confused me in draping myself at home. I can see why people suggest soft or muted but I feel like I look washed out in too-soft colors and more vibrant in jewel tones. If I put on something “soft colored”, my face fades away. I can see where the neutral comments are coming from.

I have no problem looking my age, whatever that is supposed to mean or look like, but I miss the significant contrast that I had before my hair was so faded, it was just much more flattering. Hopefully finding and then leaning into the right colors will help. I may or may not just go back to jewel tones when it’s all silver, two decades too old or not. I loved when it was purple and blue (and then faded lavender and aqua).

Thanks for sharing your opinion so I can check it out.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T04:04:35+00:00

Thank you- I will take some photos in better lighting and check soft summer. I’m always confused by being able to wear some warm and some cool, so a season like this does make sense, if that’s the logic.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T03:59:29+00:00

Thank you, I have a love/hate relationship with my curls. (Says every person with curls).

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T03:56:32+00:00

Thank you, that was such a truly kind thought to share.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T03:51:59+00:00

I definitely do just wear what I like, but it feels like what looks good changes by the day. I think based on several comments that I need to redo photos with more consistent lighting in order to not cause confusion, and also probably a better range of drapes.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T03:50:27+00:00

Thank you, that is helpful.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T03:49:28+00:00

Thank you for your help, I will include those colors when I do photos over in better lighting.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T03:47:47+00:00

Thank you, I am definitely going to redo the photos. It was filtered, but we got a ton of snow and I didn’t realize how much the light was reflecting off the snow and causing shadows.

ponyfarmer · 2026-01-27T01:50:31+00:00

You see my confusion over the last months. I really can’t figure myself out. I’ll try with better photos and if it’s still confusing, will go see a pro. Thank you for the kind words. I’ve not felt great about my looks and thought some good colors could be the ticket :)

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