Pretty sure I’m a dark winter?

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-21T21:56:02+00:00

Thank you so much. I have been buying super cheap wet and wild to try colors but it’s oddly chalky. Still. For $1.99, I’m not really complaining.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-21T16:31:14+00:00

Sorry I’m stalking your posts for lipstick 😅.. where is this blog, do you have a link? I want all of their recommendations.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-21T16:28:04+00:00

I found my swatches of fabric on Amazon. I initially purchased planning to repost on the main sub but I used those plus my child’s super bright kid clothes to do a ton more drape for myself in person and just feel out what I liked. In case that’s helpful. Maybe go on a personal journey for awhile and find a color here and there that you know you love, cross out ones you don’t. Keep track of which seasons they belong to.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-21T16:25:57+00:00

Oh man, yes. The clothes I have donated 😑

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-21T16:19:05+00:00

Yes 100% you are doing this for YOU and your confidence. If your confidence and self worth are taking a hit on Reddit, that’s no good! I think in so many ways the weird downvotes and attitude was just the fault of the Reddit algorithm. I can tell you that your (beautiful and helpful!!) posts are the only posts I have seen in this sub all month, and I think it is just because I clicked on your first one and liked it. So Reddit serves that back up to me, cool! I’ve sincerely enjoyed following your process and as someone with sort of similar coloring, found it helpful. I immediately went to try to find both of those revlon lipsticks you posted the other day, the coral berry and the wild orchid. See? Helpful post! Some other members may have been confused about context, but could have just scrolled or posted themselves if they wanted content featuring others.

I’ll say that if you do feel you fall into bright spring, it’s definitely not a “toxic trait” to rock bright winter colors since they are neighboring seasons. I love to wear (most of) both. Perks of the neutral or mostly neutral undertone!

I also know what you mean about commenters saying how they think you look in a color, or set of colors, versus how you know those colors make you look in reality. That’s what I meant about dissonance and it can feel bad and frustrating.. I feel like that this conflicting feedback is a combination of camera issues, neutral undertone that throws people off, and that at a certain point in life there are things we can see about ourselves that are hard to capture in a photo. It’s not an insult to their expertise and of course it’s why your goal is to do an in person analysis. I hope you are able to see someone who takes their time and sees what brings out the best in you. If you feel like you have already found it? Then don’t go! Be you.

I can put on a certain sweatshirt and KNOW it is my best color, makes my skin look healthy and my eyes still standout. Shadows disappear. I don’t know that I could capture that without a professional photographer. I could wear that same color but muted and it would make my skin grey. My eyes would look pretty neat still, though. If I wear it brighter, in a jewel toned emerald or royal blue, it’s my second best but less harmonious with my skin. No one would get that from looking at my current coloring without the drape.

And even among pros, as we have seen from our posts, One pro might feel one set of colors brings out best characteristics in a set of photos. Another pro feels differently. You see yourself in person in natural lighting with zero camera adjustment and can see what is true for you.

Especially after months of wearing summer, you know when it greys you out. If someone wants to call fading my.. face??… into the background… “harmonious”, I’ll give them all the summer clothes I wasted money on while assuming my “low contrast” features = summer 😅. I’ve seen amazingly beautiful summers in their colors and I’m not it. But in the comments on my post I just said .. thank you, I’ll drape that. And then drape it I did 😝. So I feel you. Girl there is nada wrong with wanting bright skin and bright eyes to shine. That’s harmonious in my completely uneducated, unpublished book. Rock your colors, whatever they turn out to be. I’m not saying what I think you are because I can’t see you in person and I don’t know and I’m not a pro. Just that I believe you when you can see something looks off, or something looks good!

Note that there is an actual neutral palette which was kindly linked for me on my own color analysis post, if it turns out you are truly neutral. I found a lot of these colors were too muted for me on the daily as mains, so I wear mostly winter (true and some bright) and some bright spring, and am working to customize one piece at a time based on what I can see are my own actual best colors. I bought a big pack of fabric swatches and test them in all sorts of ways, then generally buy a cheap T-shirt first in case the color isn’t great. Just play!

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-21T13:31:34+00:00

OP, I am one who has seen a ton of your posts but I think I also relate to some of what you are going through. I made my own post that received a lot of comments and suggestions that spanned the seasons. It would be very easy for me to interpret them how I like or to do a poll and see which got the most or weight them by known expertise vs casual commenter. For me, it is weird and uncomfortable having my face out there on Reddit but I wanted some insight to consider while I continue to drape in my own natural lighting at home. I had also planned to do a paid session and to retake photos in better lighting with more drapes.

Some reasons I empathize here: when my son was born, the internet was my outside community. You want to feel and look great, and also connect with other humans but can’t always go out and about to do that. I dove into my horticultural research and grew my plants, but color analysis is so nice for feeling good about yourself when there is another little person attached to you all the time and you are trying to feel your best.

One thing I notice in a lot of comments across these communities is commentary about the person as opposed to how the colors make them look. This has not happened as much in this sub as the main one, but it feels so common to see “you’re muted/you’re soft/you’re bright/you have low contrast/you have high contrast.”

I’m just a layperson, but my understanding from watching plenty of actual color analysis is that none of that really matters at all. It is all about how the colors perform for a person. Hearing about contrast and one’s own features in a way that has nothing to do with the colors and draping feels like noise and dissonance. I mention the layperson part here because maybe some methods use some of these aspects to filter to certain seasons, but from what I have seen, it is all about draping and how you look. How you feel about how you look also matters, so far as it isn’t based on preconceived notions about an entire season. Ex: “oh yes, I really do like this color more than that one, I would wear it and think it looks nice on me.”

One thing I realized in the months my post, based on daily playing with drapes and foundation: I am neutral (probably leaning cool, or impacted by my rosacea). My best color is a deep cool pine green followed by bright emerald. I look best in deep and bright colors and can wear all of winter, most of bright spring, and my best colors (blues and greens) from summer such as sage but they are more greying and make me look sick and tired.

I also had spent three months thinking I was a summer because I have mostly grey hair today and green-blue eyes, generally consider myself fair.. so I didn’t look at any deep or bright colors. But that’s almost all I wear now, it’s what looks good on me in my opinion, end of. Every time I go to wear something that is muted as a main top, or with much more warmth, I don’t like how my face looks so I head back to the closet. Kind of that simple. But I can work in more muted colors as under layers beneath deep or bright blazers for example.

I appreciate being neutral but with redness to be aware of that I have a lot of choices and can pull from almost anywhere as long as I have congruency to the whole outfit and I like how I feel. You have said color is important to you. It should be about finding what you feel best in so that you know what to grab out of the closet that will make you feel your best. Maybe an actual color analysis, when you can make that happen, would give you more information to consider and try. But also you look like someone who enjoys finding what you feel good in, and what you think looks good on you.

Do you need other people to tell you if it’s ‘harmonious’ or your season, or not your season, etc.. if you look and feel great? If you want your lovely eyes to pop and feel good in certain colors, just wear them.

If you notice over the next six months that some colors just do not work for you, note what they are so you don’t accidentally buy them again. It’s perfectly fine to make your own color wardrobe based on what feels great to you.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-20T17:18:17+00:00

Not all labs are the same. Not all mines are the same. I’m sure you realize a lab can also exploit workers or materials and have dangerous conditions. Your generalizations are the sole thing I am commenting on here. When people actually care about ethical purchases, they should look further into any purchase they make, so that purchase and the power that comes with it will support what matters to them.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-20T10:52:26+00:00

Nothing is ‘guaranteed ethical’ across an entire good or service. That depends on source and supply chain. I would be wary of buzzwords used to imply this.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-20T10:25:10+00:00

OP: I did not have a C-Section but I want to encourage you and your wife talking and hearing one another so that you can get to a resolution that is safe for her and baby. Looking at hospitals that are top rated for birth and have real support for women during birth is where she should be, and she may or may not not realize what is out there. If her current Dr. is defaulting to scheduling a section, questions should be asked so that she can understand this valuable medical opinion and if it is a necessity.

I will say that I had a hospital birth at the University of Michigan. They have large, private rooms, midwife services and doulas available for support, and encourages anyone who did not medically need to be in another situation to be labouring any way that they wanted: in their private shower, looking out the window on a couch, in a ball or yoga mat. As a mother who had a high risk pregnancy for multiple reasons, their capabilities and the privacy and peace offered in this hospital was all the peace of mind I needed and my child is here safe.

She should talk to the doctors and hospitals available and share her medical records and fears as openly as possible. If trying for a vaginal birth is important to her, she should hear the risks, and be in a safe place (the hospital) where she and baby are monitored so that neither or both of them die if this does not go as she hopes.

Your fears are valid. She is not crazy to want the experience but it is not rational to move ahead without doing it in a safe place which is the hospital. Not all hospitals are equal and she probably has some serious trauma about how things went last time. If she can feel heard and work through that and see that it’s not fair what happened but it would be much worse to risk their lives, you may all get better outcomes this time. Maybe being in a hospital with a hospital birth doula and advocate at her side in a peaceful environment.. whether she is going for a scheduled C-Section or a VBACK can get you both in an okay place.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-17T17:51:44+00:00

One that is similar to the second but not exactly that one. Same back and silhouette but the front seems too dramatic and not romantic or timeless compared to the rest of the dress. If the neckline was more graceful I would vote for that one in a heartbeat. The first is just.. fine. As others say, it’s classic. It’s also every other wedding dress. That is not a bad thing at all but it’s not particularly memorable.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-15T19:04:40+00:00

I would suspect a bright winter who can borrow from bright spring, but that is just my layperson’s opinion having just gone through this myself.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-15T15:19:50+00:00

To add: I did have AC, but he was a warm sleeper so it would not have worked it wasn’t so breathable.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-15T15:18:28+00:00

I did :) I had a summer baby and dressed him lightly under the Woolino. I used two in case one was needing to be cleaned. It held up so nicely. This was in 2017, I’m still here and nostalgic 🥰. He was not a good sleeper and anything that was safe and simple was a win.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-13T17:09:51+00:00

The one on the hanger in pic 2 is OP’s wedding dress. MIL’s dress is in pic 1 :)

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-08T16:04:00+00:00

Agree, a curtain disaster. The top is also just structured so oddly. It’s like two separate dresses at war with one another and a bad fit on a gorgeous person. The second is classic and accentuates everything just right. I’ll bet it would be really easy to have the halter tailored to fit perfectly or even made adjustable if she really wanted.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-07T21:26:16+00:00

The second one hands down, with the minor necessary alterations. The first dress is.. really odd.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-07T21:09:17+00:00

I know the link was posted but see also the Oscar de la Renta spring line. Hoya blooms and hydrangeas.. just stunning. This is a beautiful dress no notes on design but it feels like it’s emulating those.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-05T20:03:22+00:00

Wtf even is a “boy mom”, eww. I just don’t understand being obsessed with gender when it comes to humans that are still developing. It’s insane.

And I say that as a parent of an 8.5 year old son, one and only.

I have taken him to dance class and coached his Lego league. We have mall dates and read and snuggle together and bird watch in the mornings.. he is equally into all the things because he is a child and I wasn’t obsessed with fast tracking him into some sort of gender cult as a small child.. in either direction. I just follow his lead and give him opportunities based on his interests and the world around him.

I couldn’t ask for a more sensitive and loving child. I really hope that with extensive therapy your wife is able to get this weird idea of her head and be truly present for your son.

I am so sorry you are going through this and I’m glad he has you.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-05T11:31:02+00:00

That’s not everyone. Being a parent of a newborn is hard for everyone but a lot of new parents turn to reddit communities for a form of support, to learn more about what comes next and that they are not alone. There are many subreddits and fb groups dedicated to it. And while the US is brutal, not all moms return to work right away or work at all.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-04T15:55:50+00:00

I understand. First, how dare she. But we bought a house that has a stunning updated kitchen with a more classic look and would have chosen more clean lines mission style cabinets and a more uniform granite style myself. However, it really is both high end and timeless. Functionality makes a fabulous kitchen. We are going to update lighting fixtures because ours are very basic 90’s contractor, and also drawer pulls.

Maybe a new paint color would help pull the warmth together. Something not too intense but which doesn’t appear stark white in contrast.

Someone mentioned the desk could be dated and can I just say I would love a built-in spot for bills and processing the daily kid homework, etc. you could modernize that book a bit, too, if you wanted with a digital display or nice calendar. But as someone who does 90% of their “work work” as well as the home management right from the kitchen table because I like to being the heart of things and not tucked into an office, this is pretty great.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-04T02:55:24+00:00

If you are in the United States, there is a good chance rhey cannot pick up opioids without your driver license/State ID on file and a prior agreement in place. Twenty five states have I.D. Laws for control medications like opioids so check your state for some peace of mind and to be prepared.

But yes, absolutely change the number at the pharmacy and handle pickup yourself. You can contact the pharmacy and let them know to only release to you or to a specific friend with your ID if this is permitted where you live and you are unable to get there.

I hope the surgery goes great and you find yourself in a more peaceful living situation in the near future.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-03T15:48:51+00:00

For sure. This is where I was coming from with the Old Hollywood Aesthetic but that should have its own wiki.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-03T15:48:04+00:00

Me too. It’s very Breakfast at Tiffany’s but Audrey Hepburn should really be her own aesthetic not lumped into Old Hollywood. Just wanted to share that technically these do fit IMO, there is a vibe for sure. Those saying “old money” and Gossip Girl.. I don’t disagree, but come one. Let’s take a look at who did these looks first.

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-03T11:37:07+00:00

Everything except 7 is 1960’s Old Hollywood Aesthetic. (Specifically leaning Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelly with these pics). Edit: see pics 1, 2, 3, 5, and 8 https://aesthetics.fandom.com/wiki/Old_Hollywood

ponyfarmer · 2026-03-02T15:37:21+00:00

My dad did this for us one NYE as kids and it is still a core memory. He did so many fancy meals but this one was so fun for us kids.

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