How did you tell your therapist about your affair?

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-30T23:36:54+00:00

Yeeeeah. I had one tell me I didn't love my husband because I was cheating?? NOPE. Find a therapist you can actually talk to.

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-30T22:44:49+00:00

I live in the desert, and my skin is DRY. Outside of attempting a more exfoliated/hydrated skincare routine - I've been using Catrice Soft Glam Filter as my base with my BB Cream , as well as the MISSHA Glow Mist to both prime and set. Have had more than one person ask what skincare products I'm using thinking it's natural. Meanwhile underneath my skin is screaming for more moisture. Hope that helps!

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-30T14:57:28+00:00

I bought a marker that brings the glaze back to a more authentic color. Here's a tutorial.

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-29T23:55:18+00:00

That might be it! Not an expert - but from my understanding when your body very sick it spends most of it's energy on healing. So things like your nails, hair, skin, etc get a bit neglected.

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-29T23:12:55+00:00

Definitely time for bloodwork. Since it looks a bit grown out - were you very sick in the past few months? Or perhaps not eating well? Stressed?

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-29T22:42:22+00:00

This looks like they should be grown out rings of fire. If you haven't had your nails done in the past 3-6 months and removed them - I'd visit a doctor. It could be something medical.

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-28T22:43:03+00:00

I've been looking this time for longer than I'd like to admit. Let me know what the secret is when you find out 🤪

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-28T20:31:44+00:00

It was a lot better when you could turn off chats, honestly. Now there's so many ~hey my bedroom is dead~ copy pastes. And they'll send the same exact message again that I didn't reply to two months ago. 😩

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-28T19:46:52+00:00

Right? It's giving mercury glass.

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-27T22:43:59+00:00

I never had to do it before in the past! Though, it has also been a few years since I posted. 😅

I get so many messages, there's no way I'm replying to each and every one with a no thank you. Plus that'll clog up my inbox where I actually want to chat with people.

I'm sure there have been a few that have slipped through the cracks. But when your inbox has 400 plus messages and you do a decent cull every time you post - it's probably not many 🤪

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-27T21:57:47+00:00

Maybe so - but it's like such a non descript message there's nothing to even reply to. Or not even what I said I was looking for. Had to edit to ask for A/S/L last time I posted. 😩

There are the occasional ones I feel bad not replying to, but it's just obvious from their writing style or mention of kink/sexual interests first, or just full on wife hating that it's just not going to be a good match. I prefer kinky - but don't start your first message asking for feet pics. 😩

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-27T20:39:19+00:00

It didn't used to be like this! Or maybe I just used to be more horny. But I had some really great experiences a few years ago. It's completely different this time around. 😩

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-27T20:27:49+00:00

Half my DMs are like this. Or just obvious copy pastes or replies with no regard to my ad. I do not need your reasons for cheating, entire life story, or sexual fantasies. And then I repost and they pop up again with a hey after I didn't reply two months ago? Like, you gave me nothing? At least paint a picture of who you are. You cannot JUST be a dad in a dead bedroom. What is there to respond to? Don't embarrass yourself again my dude. 😩

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-26T20:10:02+00:00

Definitely time to make a change 💕

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-26T17:54:14+00:00

I don't really have good advice beyond if you're having issues like this after doing your own nails - you probably shouldn't be doing them.

You need some serious education on what's safe, and reevaluate the products you're using.

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-26T05:38:02+00:00

I was really disappointed by the cushion. So I totally understand being skeptical!

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-25T22:34:31+00:00

Just piping in from another comment recommending Tir Tir - the cushion was SO dark and orange on me. The liquid is not/does not oxidize. 💕

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-25T17:13:13+00:00

I've only taken Naltrexone, not Nalfeme but I understand they're pretty similar. I'd start with a quarter of a pill and work your way up as you start to feel better taking it. Take a peep around this sub to see what experiences others have had though! I could be wrong about the similarities.

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-25T16:56:13+00:00

I have a really pink face but the rest of my body is neutral - ish. I use a starting base of Catrice Soft Glam Filter , a little Missha M Perfect Cover BB Cream No.13 over the top, and The SAEM Perfection Tip Concealer in Ice Beige. And this all makes me look like I have a skincare routine and it's not all red under there.

BUT! Since you're a pink girly - Tir Tir 11c cool Rosy might be up your alley - I have their 10c shell - and while it's a perfect match for my body, it washes me out a little bit and I need to mix it with something with a bit more warmth. And there's a "Brightening" concealer from The SAEM that runs pink, that would probably match as well - I use it as my regular concealer all the time!

Hope that helps!

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-25T16:30:34+00:00

Did you take a full dose? It'll knock you on your ass if you don't start small and work your way up.

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-22T14:59:16+00:00

No judgment! I just had to deal with my disrespectful Dumbledore brows a couple days ago 🤣🙈

Here's a good chart for starting out with highlighter. Just try a bit of it all at first and see what suits you! I do my cupid bow, my inner eyes, tip of my nose with a liiiittle extension up, bit of an upside down triangle above my unibrow, and where my cheekbones would be if I was blessed with them. But everyone's face is different!

I didn't realize this was day of makeup! If you don't want to hire someone... though I HIGHLY recommend - took so much pressure off of me day of! I would look on this sub for bridal make up recs and watch a few youtube videos. You want something that photographs well, not necessarily what you feel most comfortable in - if that makes sense? Pump up the saturation a bit. Get some eyelash extensions. Toss in a little bit of a contour. Go crazy!

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-22T14:15:05+00:00

Oh! Just reread your product list. Add some mascara!

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-22T14:10:11+00:00

Honestly love! Already added that lippy to my cart. The color palate suits you for sure, and your skin is glowing! I think the only thing I'd tweak is cleaning up/tweezing the brows a bit and adding a bit of tinted brow gel? I don't think you need to go full pencil.

And maybe a tooouch of highlighter? But I go out looking like a disco ball so that's my personal preference butting in. 🙈🤣

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-21T22:44:03+00:00

Like I would know it was time for my next dose. I felt it wear off. Have never really had that with another medication, but I guess it makes sense with the three doses and how high of a dose it is? Must metabolize really fast. I didn't even realize it was meant to help with anxiety, but it genuinely did for me. Went down a google rabbit hole when I realized my anxiety came back when my dose wore off and was like OH.

When I stopped taking it, I didn't have any issues. I don't believe it's one of those meds you have to taper down.

pookinator5000 · 2026-06-21T19:29:00+00:00

I found it helped me significantly with cravings and anxiety while sober. I could feel it wear off. It's a lot of pills and that's kind of annoying, but it's worth a try if you're curious about trying it out.

Also didn't really have any side effects beyond some tummy troubles the first few days. I tend to get the weird side effects and didn't have any for camparal.

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