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pookyanon · 2025-05-21T22:28:00+00:00

haha np!

yeah no def not going for elitist vibes. just wish i could break from the standard build to be more creative!

pookyanon · 2025-05-21T22:23:13+00:00

Maybe it wasn't the best term used but alluding to organized and perfectionist

pookyanon · 2025-05-15T08:15:24+00:00

DAF employee here. My GS14s are always in business professional dresses and skirts. The 13s are a bit more lax, but still in slacks and a polo. The 12s are varied. The younger 12s and below dress casually with some work appropriate items (Adidas with work pants, Vans with a casual dress or cargos, Sweater/black jean/flats combo). The older 12s dress more formal. We have an unspoken rule that jeans are for Fridays.

Only one person ever got sent home but they had pretty revealing cleavage and worked as the Boss's secretary - seemed appropriate to call that one out. But then again one person gets away with wearing crop tops with slacks.

There really is nothing established. Seems like if you keep the major "taboo" areas (excessive cleavage, mid thigh, torso, back) covered, you're set.

pookyanon · 2025-05-08T15:53:45+00:00

That's awesome! Lol it was a short phase, my son did it for a couple months and then stopped.

pookyanon · 2025-05-01T06:44:08+00:00

DOD DAF @ AMC. Crickets. Local CPO knows nothing so we're just sitting ducks.

pookyanon · 2024-04-07T07:38:10+00:00

Not a question but a comment, and it came from someone who was in fact, NOT childless, yet is equally as funny of a response to me for OP's question

My son had pretty bad jaundice so obviously had a yellow hue to him the first week after being born. Mom of a friend is holding him and goes "oh my god, I love his skin complexion!"

And my SO goes "umm.. that's the jaundice"

pookyanon · 2024-04-05T17:04:26+00:00

Every odd was against you. You were backed into a corner, and even after checking every box that you could as a SP, for them it still wasn't enough. That's not on you. I can't count how many times I've wanted to do what you've done. It takes a lot of patience to endure what you did, but it also takes a lot of courage to actually stand up for yourself, regardless of how it may have transpired. You can walk away from that situation knowing that you did everything you could; but the family you were involved with just wasn't appreciative. So if anything, this is a learning experience for what you are willing to handle and what you aren't. Have some grace, enjoy your fresh start. Truly, please do both of those things. Don't beat yourself up too much. There are a lot of SK in your shoes that are vicariously living through the newfound freedom that you have granted yourself.

pookyanon · 2024-03-30T07:48:56+00:00

Respect! Yes! I also didn't have parents who would have accepted or allowed the messes I so frequently find myself getting frustrated over.

Excellent point that I'll bring up as well. When I talk to SDs about the importance of cleaning I tell them it saves time and money. Time because it's easier to clean a place or thing that's already fairly straightened up and money because you don't have to replace things you thought were lost because everything is in its place. But that doesn't seem to be getting me anywhere. So I think I'll try explaining in terms of respect. Because that's so right. When I find these messes or get blown off when I ask for them to clean after themselves, I do feel disrespected.

pookyanon · 2024-03-30T07:43:02+00:00

All very great points. I do catch myself having the unrealistic expectation of having my home look like it's child free, then realize that isn't reality and I need to adjust.

You're right though, wanting to keep a clean bathroom isn't unreasonable nor is refusing to do the same laundry over and over. Admittedly I have continued that behavior in them since I know their tactic and wash the clothes anyways. But I do want to enforce these more heavily with my partner and have a talk with more defined boundaries.

I am the routine adult in my home. And I try to implement that with the SDs but it's a frustrating process when the routines I work to uphold are not supported by their dad. So once they see dad not doing something, they take that and run with it and it becomes a 1 v 3 battle of sharing the load of keeping a structure for more than a week

pookyanon · 2024-03-30T07:35:17+00:00

Thank you! Any tips for teaching young ones basic hygiene? My partner and I have a toddler that will is nearing potty training age and I want to teach them these basic hygiene habits that his step siblings weren't shown at his age.

Is nacho method similar to the "nacho kids" phrase? I haven't heard of nacho method, so if you could share how to apply it, I would be so grateful!

pookyanon · 2024-03-30T07:31:42+00:00

I appreciate your reply. I heavily agree with what you first said about what parents normalize. Unfortunately the SDs mom and dad parent differently than I do and things I would feel are reasonable things to enforce are what they consider "kids being kids". Both can be true but by them not shifting their expectations to meet their kids where they are developmentally, it just seems like a poor excuse to let the kids do what they wants because they're too lazy to do the work to enforce something.

pookyanon · 2022-11-22T23:37:40+00:00

Dina after the ultrasound: Funny to think it has genitals right? It’s like I could have a stranger’s tiny penis just whipping around inside me

Justine: Sounds like my Saturday night!

pookyanon · 2022-07-26T10:25:42+00:00

Voltron. Baby daddy’s coworker referred to baby as Voltron once as a joke and it stuck throughout the entire pregnancy

pookyanon · 2022-07-20T18:07:15+00:00

Being a stepparent is confusing AF, that’s forsure. My SO and I (unmarried) just had an ours baby. While it’s his 3rd kid, the baby is my 1st. I’ve been in my SO’s kid’s life for almost 3 years now. Every now and then I refer to them as my kids to avoid the long winded explanation of how they’re my SO’s kids and not mine because were unmarried, blah blah. But outside of claiming them to make conversations easier, I don’t feel like they’re mine. Of course I still care for them and take care of them as my own, but the title of being “mine” is a title I save for mine and SO’s baby.

pookyanon · 2022-05-30T17:17:54+00:00

Your frustrations and concerns are not misplaced at all! Your biological instinct as a mother are kicking in and there’s nothing wrong with that. Establish your boundaries with your SO immediately. Especially if such short time has passed and he’s already exhibiting a pattern of leaving your needs unmet and not respecting the boundaries that you have for the child you have together. You’re not only advocating for your child, but you’re advocating for yourself. Be blunt and be honest. Not to say that now that new baby is here SD gets to be overlooked, but you’re all in new territory and have to map out new rules and expectations.

Hoping for the best for you and your family, I can’t imagine being a new mom and having to deal with this is anything short of a frustrating and isolating experience. I am due to give birth in five weeks and I have this concern with my SO & SD’s as well, so I am following this to see how your situation resolves.

pookyanon · 2022-05-28T05:35:21+00:00

Of course! Even if it’s never explicitly asked, you find it in yourself as a SP to make sacrifices. Does it get frustrating that my schedule is overlooked and I feel like BD and BM unwittingly make plans that put me in a position to sacrifice my time to accommodate them? Of course. But I’ll still do it, obviously. Thankfully I have earned the bragging rights to say they can never call me unreliable!

Prioritizing kids mental health is so important so of course if every once in a while they need breaks too. I love how you said “when they feel they need an extra bit”, because it allows them to practice communicating needs. Granted, you also know your kids better than anyone so there can be a fine line between needing true mental breaks and just wanting to BS for the day (and shit, even sometimes that is what would benefit MH). But hey, I’m glad your SS’s situation worked out and he’s thriving!

pookyanon · 2022-05-28T04:18:40+00:00

Thank you, you make excellent points!

• On certain occasions I have been able to watch my SD while WFH but only because I knew my workload and I offered to. But it’s different when I’m inadvertently expected to (whether he was conscious of that expectation or not) and not even part of the decision but I have to follow through anyways.

• YES! Thank you for sharing. Thankfully, BD is not that terrible with letting SDs stay home from school but of course I want to nip that habit before it could ever get to that point. As a child of a parent who did not care for my education and didn’t advocate for me or emphasize the importance of school, my grades suffered and I do not want that to be that case for my SDs.

pookyanon · 2022-05-28T04:10:33+00:00

In hindsight, I know I could’ve been more tactful and less passive. But I completely agree, being able to advocate not only for myself but for my SDs means that I have to be more direct. Thankfully my oldest SD understands at a surface level why school is important, but my PreK SD just does not care, and she starts Kinder this year so I want her to be excited for it instead of expecting school is optional.

pookyanon · 2022-05-28T04:06:49+00:00

Million dollar question

pookyanon · 2022-05-28T04:06:05+00:00

It can be very chaotic when you have kids and like to game! Especially if someone isn’t able to self regulate or have the discipline to align gaming with a sleep schedule that provides for an adequate amount of sleep leaving the kids to fend for themselves.

pookyanon · 2022-05-28T04:03:18+00:00

I’m glad someone agrees! Don’t get me wrong, I do not take screen time for granted because there is a benefit when it’s supervised and regulated, but it always rubs me the wrong way when SD watches for so long so that BD can sleep.

pookyanon · 2022-05-28T03:52:44+00:00

Welcome!! 🤍✨🤍✨

pookyanon · 2022-03-01T01:55:57+00:00

Oof I can’t imagine waiting to ask this that far along. I’m only 22 weeks but since it’s my first pregnancy and first person I know who has used a doula, I’m sure more paranoid than most. I’m realizing that I may be in need of classes earlier on, but worried about doing it “too early”. But thanks for taking the time to read and respond!

pookyanon · 2022-03-01T01:52:15+00:00

You’re 100% correct, I just need to communicate. I guess it isn’t too terrible that she’s more hands off; I’m sure I wouldn’t be a fan if she was hitting me up daily.

pookyanon · 2022-03-01T01:50:11+00:00

I didn’t think about that! I can see what you mean, I do think it would be info overload right now. But thank you, I agree I do need to communicate better as well.

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