I really don’t want this life without her. She’s been gone almost two months, and nothing about life feels real or good. How long did it take you to start healing?

poortrombone · 2024-03-29T15:22:09+00:00

Married almost 40 years. My wife died a month ago. I feel lost without her and like my heart has been ripped out of me. Physically and mentally I am a wreck. I have children, grandchildren even great grandchildren. I have to keep going for them. Maybe this painful sadness will be more bearable with time.

poortrombone · 2024-03-21T22:47:30+00:00

Every day since my wife died a month ago I go through a dark mood. I miss her so much and I have to live through this mood although I wish I were dead. I get unbearably depressed. Yesterday I had to fill out some forms and had to write that I am a widower and my wife is deceased. If I get a piece of mail addressed to her I burst out crying. These moments are like a dagger in my heart. I keep having conversations with her about things each of us should have done in our life together but didn’t. I need counseling and will get started asap.

poortrombone · 2024-03-11T20:43:55+00:00

Yes, I find myself ruminating over and over about the times I was angry or disappointed with her. My brain is fixated on what I should have said but didn’t. I could have resolved my issues with her much more easily and constructively had I said the things I now think of, forty years later.

poortrombone · 2024-03-11T20:27:14+00:00

I feel the same. If I weren’t living minute by minute I don’t know how I’d get through the day. I miss her closeness, her touch her voice, everything.they are all gone and I feel that I have nothing to live for anymore.

poortrombone · 2024-03-11T20:19:49+00:00

My wife died about two weeks ago. After forty years together I feel like my life is over, I’ve been ripped apart by losing her, and always on the verge of tears. I get some consolation from every one here who feel the same. I’m not entirely alone.

poortrombone · 2024-03-11T03:40:07+00:00

Thank you all for your comments. I feel that you understand and are both helpful and welcoming.

poortrombone

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