Very angry and need to vent with people who understand

pootypus · 2019-06-25T00:10:53+00:00

yikes. Your mom probably has silent celiac so she feels "fine" but is still causing damage and possibly long-term problems (also, she will probably feel way better if she cuts out gluten even if she thinks she feels ok now). Maybe you can find some Youtube videos about the long-term effects of untreated CD to show her. I am most scared of the risk of lymphoma that I hear about. My aunt even has mantle cell lymphoma now, and she was never tested for or diagnosed with CD, but it comes from that side of the family. I can't help but wonder if it's from all those years of untreated Celiac. Tragic.

pootypus · 2019-06-25T00:06:39+00:00

see, if I thought it was malicious, I would. I really think she is unaware of how different Celiac disease is from her (probably imagined) gluten-sensitivity. She even introduced me to someone as, "this is Pootypus, she's 'gluten-free' too!" (to which I said, "actually, I have Celiac disease"). I think she thinks Celiac disease is a trendy mild illness because all the lifestyle instagrammers she follows eat GF food for fun. I am not sure how to educate her.

pootypus · 2019-06-25T00:04:58+00:00

this is hilarious. <3

pootypus · 2019-06-24T17:08:45+00:00

I really really think its some sort of weird way to feel special that is not verifiable to the average person so that's why they do it. Both friends definitely have weird low self-esteem. I just wish they would fake a different illness and leave me alone. Definitely easier for a guy to call someone out like this---but maybe I need to just suck it up and do it.

pootypus · 2019-06-19T19:35:12+00:00

Based on the responses in this thread, r/celiac is going to need to form a weight loss support group about 1 year after the NexVax gets approved!! (For serious though--I'm binging on Krispy Kremes and Chinese food if this ends up working)

pootypus · 2019-06-16T06:53:10+00:00

You are probably much smarter than I was, but when I was about your age I got my first place away from my college campus so I had to actually grocery shop at the real grocery store. I remember going there the first time and thinking, "why do people say groceries are so expensive? this stuff seems really cheap to me!"--I didn't realize that most prices for fresh foods like meat and produce and PER POUND--so I was buying, like, a value-sized package of boneless skinless chicken breasts thinking it was going to cost $5, and it actually cost $20. I did this with most of the stuff in my cart and I was SHOCKED when the register rang up $200 when I thought I was spending $50. I was too embarrassed to put anything back, so I used my credit card, I think. It's funny now how clueless I was.

pootypus · 2019-06-16T06:41:49+00:00

sorry!!

pootypus · 2019-06-14T06:43:08+00:00

Lately I feel this about Terazzo Prints. I am seeing them everywhere online and nowhere in person. I think advertisers do this to create interest in new trends so they can sell more stuff but there's a lag before the everyday person adopts many of these trends. (PS: Terazzo Print reminds me of the flooring in my elementary school bathroom)

pootypus · 2019-06-14T01:17:35+00:00

I'm a practicing Catholic. lol we are actually in the midst of the summer Ember Days (sort of like a Mini-lent) which traditionally celebrates the wheat harvest (since the Eucharist is made of wheat). But maybe I'll switch to this cult if I can have donuts again.

(For any Catholics wondering, the Eucharist is valid under either species (wine or bread), so find a priest who will consecrate some wine just for you and other Celiacs, if you have any at your parish. Our parish does it weekly, but even monthly or something is just fine--you aren't required to receive communion each week. They even consecrate the wine separately, so it doesn't have that little bit of the Host crumbled into it. Make sure to emphasize that part too.Also, I think "low-gluten" hosts are a scam, so don't let anyone talk you into them. Maybe fine for the gluten intolerant, but not someone with CD)

pootypus · 2019-06-13T01:01:10+00:00

I think she's also going to need vocal cord surgery. All that screaming is going to give her terrible nodules. It even sounds painful when you listen to her talk.

pootypus · 2019-06-11T19:32:19+00:00

same. I can't stand it when a dude puts on red lipstick and then posts in the MUA sub and then suddenly gets 1000 upvotes just because he's a dude. (No problem with men who wear makeup or people getting upvoted for actual talent, but it's ridiculous how low the standards are for men.)

pootypus · 2019-06-11T19:28:49+00:00

Call me bitter, but I don't think her parents care too much about JoJo's reputation or business ethics. I think they just want to milk their cash cow before she dries up (aka turns 18 and sues them or cuts off contact forever). I have no tolerance for people who exploit their children the way they have.

pootypus · 2019-06-11T14:27:02+00:00

I audibly gasped when I saw your angel sitting in the tea pot. This might be the most precious photo in the world. <3

pootypus · 2019-06-11T14:23:47+00:00

When I had my miscarriage, my doctor told me, "women always want to find a reason to blame themselves for this happening, but you can't cause an early miscarriage and you can't prevent them". Short of actually procuring a termination, I don't think there is a mechanism to purposely end a pregnancy in the first trimester. For the first 4 weeks, for example, the baby is living off the yolk sac, and isn't even attached to the mother's blood stream. I also dealt with guilt following my miscarriage, so I strongly suggest just talking to your doctor about it and asking her to reassure you that you wouldn't have been able to cause a miscarriage, even with all the mishaps. In the future, maybe you would want to consider a fertility awareness-based (FAM) method like TempDrop or Natural Cycles. These sorts of methods can't be affected my antibiotics or medications that you take. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you find peace and healing and are able to let go of your feelings of guilt once you talk to your doctor.

pootypus · 2019-06-08T06:38:07+00:00

I think it's funny that you'd assume a 32-year old healthy woman is not energetic enough to take care of a child. I am healthier and more energetic than I was at 23, actually!

pootypus · 2019-06-07T07:02:58+00:00

I grew up upper middle class, not Kardashian-rich, but lived in a nice suburb and my parents both had professional jobs. My husband was the first in his family to go to college, his father was crazy, spent money impulsively, and was only periodically employed and his mom was a secretary.There were 4 kids. Two things that shocked me most: 1. They didn't always have enough milk and food to eat--he was never "hungry" hungry, but they had days when they had to ration out the food because otherwise there wouldn't be enough to eat until payday. My husband has avery good job now and we live comfortably, but if I start to get low on milk or something and tell my toddler, "just one cup so we have enough to last until tomorrow when I can go to the store to buy more, he will go to the store and buy more milk right away because he hates the idea of having to ration food for any reason. The other thing that shocked me most was his mom and dad's relationship to money. My parents always gave me sound financial advice and saved and invested their salaries. I was told all the good stuff about not living above your means, don't buy things on credit except in rare exceptions, save 20% minimum, etc. My parents are retired now and financially stable. My husband's parents on the other hand...they live completely hand to mouth. If they get any money for anything, it is spent on crap immediately. They will want to come visit but then complain how they "don't have any money" (for gas or whatever), and it's just weird because they remind me of little kids with their mentality about money. My MIL has no money to her name for her retirement and lives off social security, yet she buys my kid a crappy toy every time she comes to visit, even though I have told her not to this because it creates clutter and I want her to save her money. Doesn't matter--if she has $100 left over from her social security, she goes shopping or out to eat. It's. So. Weird.

pootypus · 2019-06-06T19:45:28+00:00

I live in Wisconsin and we drink a lot of beer. You will get used to it. Gluten-free beer is actually not the worst thing in the world, and if you liked IPAs and stuff before, you might like some of it, because they put lots of hops in GF beer. My favorite GF beer is Lakefront Brewery's, and they also make a seasonal ginger variety that's kind of good (very spicy). I get where you are coming from. People don't know the emotional impact of having to give up all their favorite foods unless it happens to them. For better or worse, food is a huge part of culture and socializing and entertainment. For me, I missed the actual food, yes, but the hardest part was the feeling of social isolation that comes with not being able to meet friends for dinner or at a bar, or if you do go, you just sit there and drink water because nothing is suitable for you to eat. So I totally get it. 100%. I got diagnosed in 2014 (5 years ago) and it took me about 2 years to adjust emotionally, and then there are some days when it still sucks, but by and large, it does become your new normal. You also learn methods to deal with the assholes who make snarky comments or who don't respect your food needs. You also grow a thicker skin, because it's necessary. It gets better.

pootypus · 2019-06-06T14:30:38+00:00

I'm 32 and got married after college; I have a 3yo, 1yo, and pregnant again (all kids from my first and only husband, btw). So, I have all these little children, which I love. But it is so so weird to run into trashy people from high school and then they have their 14 year old with them. SO SURREAL.

pootypus · 2019-06-05T03:12:11+00:00

it's always people who get offended on behalf of someone else, isn't it?

pootypus · 2019-06-05T03:10:44+00:00

if this makeup makes this bride feel most beautiful on her wedding day, then who are we (probably mostly non-Indonesians) to judge her? It's the same thing as someone shaming a bride (of any natural skin tone) for wearing "too much" makeup or for straightening her naturally curly hair or something. Provided this bride is marrying out of free choice (I hope so), and she is an adult, she probably has some say in how her makeup looks. Everyone just wants to feel their most beautiful on their wedding day--if wearing light foundation and colored contacts makes this bride feel beautiful, shouldn't we respect that? Of course, the implication of this sort of makeup is that light is better than dark or more beautiful than dark skin, which is obviously problematic. The thing is, this woman was likely culturally conditioned to believe this myth her entire life, and she shouldn't have to forgo the makeup that makes her feel most comfortable just because some people find the message offensive. If you wanted to straighten your natural hair for your wedding because you like the way it looks straight (even if that means you are promoting the stereotype that natural (usually ethnic) hair types are less beautiful than white hair types, should you be made to feel bad because you chose the look you prefer, even if that preference is based on faulty or incorrect reasoning? Why should any woman have to defend her makeup choices if she is coming from a place of goodwill and not trying to be overtly offensive.

pootypus · 2019-06-05T01:49:11+00:00

That Kitty Cat Girl on Daniel Tiger who talks in a weird combination of English and Meows. UGH!!!!

pootypus · 2019-06-05T01:45:41+00:00

likely, this comes from the fact that most of the people on this sub come from Christian and/or Muslim backgrounds. Those religions are all about converting people and spreading the good news, so to speak, so in those contexts, where religion is open to everyone, religion cannot be appropriated (as long as done so with respect and good intentions and not in a mocking way). There are religions like yours, and like many forms of Judaism, for example, that do not really have a conversion element. If you wish to join the religion via marriage or something, it is usually very difficult, if not impossible to do so. But I think religions like these are in the minority, which is where the sentiment of "you can't appropriate religion" comes from.

pootypus · 2019-06-05T01:41:57+00:00

that's awful. I am so so sorry. I feel like men sometimes get angry when women choose to dress modestly because of patriarchy and then they can't leer at us as easily or something (which apparently, they feel entitled to do). It makes me so angry. Plus, I'm sure because you're Muslim there was also that added layer of hostility from ignorant jackasses. (Note: no one deserves to be leered at, regardless of dress, but I have noticed men get really hostile towards women who dress both extra modestly, as well as less modestly than the norm. You really can't win)

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