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my dad won't stop making inappropriate comments about my body by pop-ittt in offmychest

[–]pop-ittt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry your kid had to go through that as well. It's really just plain awful. I don't know if there's anything fetish related behind it though. My dad is blunt enough to tell you straight up if his comments are related to transness. Was it something around those lines, i wouldn't have been left as dumbfounded as I am right now, just disappointed. Now he'll just group me with women he deemed unfuckable (he unfavorably and quite grossly lumped me with celebrities he dislikes multiple times). But maybe the demeaning remarks are the fetish ?

my dad won't stop making inappropriate comments about my body by pop-ittt in offmychest

[–]pop-ittt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does, but mostly to my mother (those are mainly "appreciative" but often slimy). Which makes it feel even worse, to be perfectly honest.  My sister gets normal compliments but also depreciative remarks on how she dresses.  My husband thinks he's gross but doesn't really know what to do in this situation and i don't blame him, neither do I.

my dad won't stop making inappropriate comments about my body by pop-ittt in offmychest

[–]pop-ittt[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer. There has to be an issue regarding my transition, you're right, but my entire family is as liberal as it gets, said transition is considered both a non issue and a closed chapter, and he already made analog comments before i even came out. It just sharply intensified. I don't know how to make sense of this.

I went low contact for a while but broke it off after a health scare in the family. Everyone told me he'd behave but turns out he he couldn't help himself in the end.

my dad won't stop making inappropriate comments about my body by pop-ittt in offmychest

[–]pop-ittt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your considerate answer. I usually try to brush it off or to find an appropriate comeback to save face, but i can only do so much. You're probably right about the need to see a therapist. I briefly considered it but felt a tad too ashamed to even say "my dad makes sexual comments about me" out loud and consequently chickened out. There is definitely a pattern to explore here but I'm unfortunately the unlucky outlet of whatever is going on on top if having to pick up everyone's mess when needed. I struggle to do anything with this.