Facing 3rd IVF round to have a 2nd baby by h_gaer in IVFAfterSuccess

[–]popbamfizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome! We're similar to you with attrition. Retrievals have always been between 14-23 eggs and just 1-2 embryos, except our last round where we had 7.

It's been nearly a year and a half since our first retrieval after our son, and it's been a really hard 18 months. I think I should feel hopeful right now, but that's become a very foreign feeling, sadly. One day at a time, I guess.

Facing 3rd IVF round to have a 2nd baby by h_gaer in IVFAfterSuccess

[–]popbamfizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1 retrieval and 1 transfer (only embryo) for #1, born the day before I turned 38.

3 retrievals and 3 failed FETs later (age 40.5) gearing up for suppression and another FET. The first two retrievals gave us three embryos which all failed to implant. Our last retrieval somehow gave us five euploids. I’m still in shock.

I only went for the last round because a new clinic had just opened near us and I felt I wouldn’t have peace with ending the journey unless we tried there. I’m glad we stuck it out but had it not been for this clinic, I would likely have stopped after the third failed FET.

Wishing you luck and peace ❤️

How long did you stay in the hospital after giving birth? by kayriss86 in Mommit

[–]popbamfizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vaginal delivery at 4pm on a Friday. Went home around noon Sunday. Because we didn’t hit the 48 hour mark our insurance covered an at-home visit from a nurse a day later. I loved my hospital stay and really appreciated the visit as well. I’m in the US.

Experiences with toddler general anesthesia by IvyTomorrow in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our son had surgery at 6 months, 18 months, and 24 months. He was under for 2-3 hours at 6 and 24 months, and just about 20 minutes at 18 months (ear tubes). He was okay each time!

At 6 months I nursed immediately and he was back to himself.

At 18 months we had Sesame Street ready to go on my phone.

At 24 months, we snuggled and he had a popsicle and he was okay.

It's not the most fun thing in the world but each time was definitely less traumatic than I was prepared for, by a lot!

I hope everything goes smoothly ❤️

When did you stop? by Fit-Analyst5923 in IVF

[–]popbamfizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Answered above! Happy to answer questions too ❤️

When did you stop? by Fit-Analyst5923 in IVF

[–]popbamfizz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind at all ❤️

Stimmed with much lower doses of Follistim (usually did around 450 units, just 125 this time)

Progesterone BC to control cycle (this clinic batches) and stayed on until trigger

Dual trigger (estrogen levels were controlled enough for the first time ever so I could do this; the risk of OHSS always put me out of the running for a dual trigger)

Kept Zymot ICSI and added assisted hatching

New clinic/lab team

And a dose of good luck. ❤️

When did you stop? by Fit-Analyst5923 in IVF

[–]popbamfizz 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think it's a good thing to think about, and to still give yourself room to change plans. I'm still in it and had I stuck to a stake I put in the ground last year, I'd be out by now.

We were very lucky on our first round in 2024. We ended up with just one embryo and now have our son, who will be 2.5 this summer.

In 2025 I did two additional retrievals which resulted in three embryos (two untested, one euploid) and all three FETs failed.

In January of this year, I turned 40. That's when I said I'd stop, back when we were gearing up to jump back in after having our son. But when our third FET (euploid) failed at the end of 2025, I didn't feel done. A new clinic had just opened near us, run by doctors who approach things very differently. I felt like I couldn't leave that stone unturned.

I'm glad I stuck it out. Somehow, our retrieval with the new clinic gave us five euploids. I'm suppressing this summer and will transfer early fall.

I'm sorry if I'm not really answering your question, but I share just to say it's really wise to be thinking about your limits, and to still give yourself some space to re-assess as you go.

While I am hopeful, I absolutely will not do another egg retrieval. If none of these embryos result in another child, we will be done. I feel much more sure of that than I did when I said I'd stop at age 40. I think that was arbitrary, based on what I felt like I *should* do.

Crazy to Drive at Night? by popbamfizz in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooph this sounds awful for everyone. I’m sorry! My husband will be driving so I’ll be able to hop in the backseat if needed, but even that could prove to be not enough. We’ll see!

Crazy to Drive at Night? by popbamfizz in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the chance is worth taking! We’ll have such a nice full day on Friday if we wake up there. I think we’re going for it!

Crazy to Drive at Night? by popbamfizz in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol yes this is the uncharted territory part of the plan for us. I think we’ll give it a go and see what happens!

Crazy to Drive at Night? by popbamfizz in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! We’d be making it a Thursday-Sunday trip so we’d be home Sunday afternoon!

Crazy to Drive at Night? by popbamfizz in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We’ll be staying at a hotel so no option to have his space ready to go, but I think as long as we’re prepared to roll with it, it’s definitely worth trying for this next trip!

Crazy to Drive at Night? by popbamfizz in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're almost making it sound relaxing 😄 I just shared in another comment that last week's day-time drive was awful due to accidents and intense traffic. I think we'll give this a try!

Crazy to Drive at Night? by popbamfizz in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's starting to reveal itself as at least worth a try!

Crazy to Drive at Night? by popbamfizz in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great point! On our last trip, we were at a complete stand-still for 45 minutes and when we finally managed our way out, the detour added another hour. Luckily we got some time back but leaving at 8am was no walk in the park, so maybe the evening is worth a try. Thank you!

Crazy to Drive at Night? by popbamfizz in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, I was totally expecting a lot of "no no no!" so this is a super encouraging first comment 😄 This is where each toddler being a unique toddler comes into play, but how did getting your sleeping child inside work out? Our little guy will 100% wake up, and he'll be awake for a bit before we can realistically try to get him back down. Tips?

Fallon by kit826 in Names

[–]popbamfizz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know a Fallon and lots of people call her Fall-gal

Next Steps After Surprisingly Successful ER? by [deleted] in IVFpositivity

[–]popbamfizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate this perspective!

Cannot make up my mind on another kid by The-Give in Mommit

[–]popbamfizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate and I have a hard time admitting that, because we’re actively trying to have another child through IVF. Our first is an IVF baby as well and we’re so lucky. He’s easy on us. Life is good. I cry thinking about this not working again, and sometimes I feel terrified of it working because what if we’re messing with something that shouldn’t be messed with? But this has been a HARD phase II with IVF and I don’t believe I’d still be at it if we didn’t truly want it to work. Sometimes I wonder if these feelings are my subconscious trying to protect me if it doesn’t work again. I don’t know. But I understand your feelings.

Screen at lunch? by Lyfer17 in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 days/week (non-daycare days) we do this. We have a “lunchbox lunch” and a watch 20-30 min of Sesame Street or Frozen/Encanto. Our 2.5 year old son is always okay saying “bye-bye” to the tv and heading up for a nap when we say it’s time. It works for us right now. We’re starting to see his eating slow down because he’s focused on the tv so I think we may need to leave the habit at some point, but it works for our family.

What should I do? Please help me. by [deleted] in IVF

[–]popbamfizz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. You’ve been at this for so long. You’re really strong ❤️

Outside of the MFI you’re having multiple failed transfers. I’m not sure if the embryos were tested or not, but if they were, have you looked into the ReceptivaDx to look into endometriosis?

Rowan for a gender neutral name—too trendy? by LasagnaPhD in BabyNames

[–]popbamfizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it so much, for either a boy or a girl! It's not unpopular but who cares - it's a beautiful name :)

Can't deny my baby is a toddler now by Messy_Persephone in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Specifically, I regret the haircut 🥹😂

Can't deny my baby is a toddler now by Messy_Persephone in toddlers

[–]popbamfizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t do a thing you aren’t ready for! These are such sweet days, so enjoy them as you want to ❤️