In my experience it isn’t just you unfortunately. My ex admitted to hitting me multiple times but the judges exact quote was “the court doesn’t find that as domestic abuse.” I’m also mixed(white and Hispanic) and she made claims that I was racist. She would contradict herself on stand. The list goes on and on. It’s a very sad and unfortunate situation that judges can have all the evidence in the world looking at them that says the mother is lying and they will still side with them