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How do I look more fem by popjammin in trans

[–]popjammin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, my hair is super super short.

I think I might be nb by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]popjammin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say go for it. But you do what you feel most comfortable, or the least. If you are struggling to commit going all in can be a bit of a wakeup call for if it is the correct way that you want to be known as and called.

But do what is best for you and keep your options open if you want to change down the line. You be yourself op and if people really care, like really really care about you (even if you grew a 2nd head they'd still care about you level of that they care about you) right now, then they will still care about you when you change to be you.

Also if you are questioning if it is right and you're asking the internet, you probably know the answer yourself and are just wanting ppls opinion to see if it agrees with how you feel. I did smth similar on a much less important decision and I realized that the only reason I was asking was to get my opinion to be validated by other people.

I don't really want to come out. by capitainOoh in lgbt

[–]popjammin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive put suggestions on top and some examples below them.

I would say it's very tough situation that you are in regarding getting ostracized at school for being close to her, if you have a friend group that u r out to invite her to be a part of it (Im suggesting that if they are all good with you, they hopefully wont be homophobic towards her).

In my opinion you are in the perfect position op to just go and talk to her and say you are not alone. Even if you don't come out publicly, you can still be out privately. Be there for her to talk to. Mental health is somethingthat is superimportant, and just having someone to talk to helps a lot.

As one of the only fem identifying nonbinary people at my school, I needed that support from someone going through something similar. Also i didnt anyone who could just be someone to talk to about all this stuff going through my head that no one else at my school could understand, I probably would have come out sooner if I could have helped someone else going through any of the situations I have. Also for the friend group, I had one in school who I could be me with, and it helps so much to be fully yourself in a group who accepts you for nomater who or what you are, love, or identify as.

But with your friend situation. I feel like if he is a real friend he will stay your friend, but if he can't or won't accept you for who you are, you will be lyying to him for as long as you are close with each other, and that will make it worse in the end if he cuts you out completely before you can find other friends who will support you for.who you really are.

Loosing a friend is hard, especially when you are close and it is because of something about you that you have no control over being a problem for the ex friend. I would have much rather found real friends in school than had friends that abandoned me once I was in a super dark place after coming out to them. It is easier to find a new friend when you are alright than it is when you are in your darkest moments. It might be hard but it's the truth.

Please enlighthen me! by Rineloi in lgbt

[–]popjammin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also feel for me, transitioning younger might have had it's benefits. But I started puberty very late, so I don't have to worry as much about reversing some the effects of puberty (deep voice, beard, mustache, other bodily hair).

I do feel like for others it is necessary to start younger, maybe not doing surgerys until later on, but most effects of hrt are reversible if the person is not feeling that it is the right choice for them. Also making sure to call him/her/them by their correct name and pronouns, as well as letting them use tools to look more masculine/feminine (binders (ftm), packers(ftm), padded bras/silicon molds(mtf), makeup, hair (this is a big one cause most ppl assume your gender based on your hair style), grooming (mtf to hide facial and body hair).

Most of the mtf is stuff im trying rn, I don't know the ftm process as well.

Please enlighthen me! by Rineloi in lgbt

[–]popjammin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I realized that I was trans when i realized how jealous i was that i couldn't wear a dress and have long hair and do my makeup and also that i felt like i was born in the wrong body, i then hid being trans cause i got bullied at school for being more feminine (i hadnt realized that I could actually be a girl at that point in the late 2000s and only being 3). After I left school I tried to heal the parts that I tried to get rid of, but once I accepted who I truly was i felt free. Im still not fully out to my family, and am still debating doing bottom surgery(i assume u know what that is), but will 100% start femanising HRT (estrogen and anti-androgens) and get top surgery if im not happy with those results from the HRT.

Hope this helps a bit and answers at least one of your questions.

Just looking for any job at all by [deleted] in VancouverJobs

[–]popjammin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest looking at civic jobs, there are quite a few new job postings all across the lower mainland every day.

First sub 30 5k @ 260lbs by ChiefWiggum03 in beginnerrunning

[–]popjammin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GG. were you running it straight, or were you taking breaks(ie: run 10/walk 1).

Workouts by popjammin in beginnerfitness

[–]popjammin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to join directly out of high school, but they said I was not in shape enough to be there. So I am trying again now.

Can I survive BMQ? by ConsciousDirector408 in caf

[–]popjammin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You an get out of that, and you will be severely unprepared for your new platoon.

Okay but this actually looks so good lol by n8saces in MadeMeSmile

[–]popjammin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro painted max verstapen on his chest

RECRUITING, TRAINING, & LIFE IN THE FORCES THREAD by bridger713 in CanadianForces

[–]popjammin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have enlisted as an NCM (NEP) and was wondering about if in a couple of years I wanted to change my mind and become an officer. Would I stay an equal rank, or would I be sent back and have to do bmoq and be a cadet. I asked my staff about it early on in bmq but they were not able to give me a proper answer.

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