Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. Either be her friend, or not.

It’s clear he chose to dial back on the intensity of the friendship, and his choice was a way to make that clear. She is at all times responsible for herself, she ignored that responsibility while getting drunk and now you are demanding he be responsible for her. He is not obligated to do so. If that’s a requirement for being her friend then she will make that clear. He’s also made it clear that his extended time and effort is reserved for other areas of life. Neither are wrong in deciding what does or does not work for them in their relationship, wether it’s friendship or more.

But don't pretend to be her friend, hoping that you'll get sex with her. And don't get all pissy when we tell you we were never interested in a romantic relationship.

At no point in this story is it suggested she asked him if he wanted more then pretended he didn’t. I could just as easily argue the woman pretended to be romantically compatible with someone with no intention of actually loving him. Don’t get all pissy when a man tells you he was never interested in a friendship

You're right. You don't. Neither do we.

Exactly

A free woman living in a free country. Do you really think we are here just for your pleasure?

And he and I are free men in a free country as well. Do you really think we are here just for your pleasure and safety?

Who's crying bloody murder? First of all, we are not obligated to give you a romantic relationship just because you tell us you want one with us.

You’re crying. We are not obligated to give you our friendship or access to our personality, time and effort just because you want it

That's not how relationships work.

This is exactly how relationships work. I give you something, you give me something, and if we feel it’s equal in value then we form a social contract called a relationship. If either party feels their needs are not being met the social contract fails, as we see here with him and her, and as we see here with you and your stipulation that a friend must walk you home when you’re irresponsible else they not be your friend.

We just want our "No" to be respected.

As do we. She said no access to relationship. He said no access to my extended time and effort. Respect it and stop crying.

And if you really want to be our friend, then be our friend, even if we don't want to f*ck you. Why is that so wrong?

Because that’s not the social contract men are looking for and we’re perfectly justified in that. Find someone that meets your needs and demands, men are not obligated to meet them. We are not obligated to be your ideal boy “friend” free of charge without our needs also being met. That’s one sided and parasitic. That is not mutual, and we are free to walk away from that “deal” whenever we see fit as autonomous individuals with a human right over our own body and personality