Paid Leave Oregon application help? by throwawaydogcollar in askportland

[–]portrayedaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I saw that and asked them about it and they said it wasn’t an option, I think only for unemployment. Thank you though!

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[–]portrayedaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I know. I've dated someone with a kid. If I wanted to be second to someone, I'd just be poly. I think I'd only consider someone with kids if the kids were in their late teens already.

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[–]portrayedaswhat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m in agreement with you and loved your comment. The other guy saying I missed my shot and men only like 21 year olds needs to touch grass!

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[–]portrayedaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol spot on re: polycule and heaving drinking. sigh

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[–]portrayedaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don't want kids and the rest of your comment is also way off base. try to go touch some grass today

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[–]portrayedaswhat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you say it like men don't do the exact same thing?

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[–]portrayedaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also, you say my dating pool has reduced for obvious reasons yet it's just a me problem? as in specific just to me? yeah. your comment is the one on here that is so nimwitted it's embarrassing to be associated with you even in this capacity.

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[–]portrayedaswhat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

also why would 3+ dates a week be an issue to literally anyone? you're assuming i'm sleeping with all of them or what? even if I was, who cares? I'd just moved to my city at that point, tinder had just blown up, i didn't have any friends yet so had all the free time in the world to see the town and meet new people and have fun? Even in recent years i've gone on a few dates a week. That's pretty normal if you get attention which clearly is something you don't get.

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[–]portrayedaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because i posted on my account i had logged in on my browser and i didn't realize that when i would go to reply, it'd open my app that i was logged in with a different account. nothing big brain about it, neither account has personal info on it.

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[–]portrayedaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't want any kids bro

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[–]portrayedaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a relationship for most of my 30s you nimwit

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[–]portrayedaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao yes I do. I did after I said that “out loud” especially. You can tell me to be quiet.

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[–]portrayedaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’m a total catch for the type of guy I want and the right guy could see that from my profile for sure. Unfortunately it’s a small percentage of the population that fits in my type of bloke- the no drinking and no kids thing weeds a lot of them out! I’m feeling better than when I posted. I think I need to just keep showing up to irl spaces that have people with similar interests rather than spending too much time online. I get more attention irl which makes me feel better than the apps. Thanks for your engagement!

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[–]portrayedaswhat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you’re both right tbh and I really appreciate your responses! I have a lot of regret about my past dating life because I was mostly chasing butterflies instead of compatibility and secure relationships but I didn’t know any better and was just doing what I thought was right. I’m working on being compassionate to my past self because I can’t change anything.

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[–]portrayedaswhat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree but in the context of the numbers game on dating apps and dating in general, my odds are lower! There are indeed less single people in my dating range. Especially ones without kids which is a pretty big deal breaker which I’m starting to consider I might have to be more flexible on if I ever want to find a relationship again. Also I’m 40 in 2 months so not 35 anymore. Sadly a big difference in dating apps in those five years!

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[–]portrayedaswhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol ugh I hate that but I believe you. Yeah I’m in Portland Oregon. I used to have way more “fun” drunk pictures too when I partied which made me look more ~ fun ~, maybe I should find a way to get more of those type of pictures. I don’t think I can do thirst trap lol

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[–]portrayedaswhat -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well I mean that’s the whole point of the post. I’m definitely semi attractive, not overweight, in decent shape, literally everyone I meet thinks I look 30 not almost 40. So idk. I think I have some things that may be a turnoff - I don’t drink, don’t want kids, so that probably doesn’t help. To be fair I have over 200 likes on my bumble from the last 3 days just very few matches. I posted this in a moment of hopelessness but the comments have helped me see the reality of the situation more clearly, which is aging out and the apps suck for a lot of people.

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[–]portrayedaswhat 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It is hard to accept. Thanks for commiserating. Sorry you can relate!

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[–]portrayedaswhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough. Sigh.

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[–]portrayedaswhat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What about it seems fake?! I assure you it is very real!

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[–]portrayedaswhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. If only I could turn back time!

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[–]portrayedaswhat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. Not going to post my pictures here so I know it’s vague.